Over the last two articles, I lamented on troubled souls and the red flags that linger like a bad odor. The first red flag was disrespect that is unwarranted. The second was sanitary-mindlessness that’s rooted in laziness.
But what I failed to mention is the primary cause of their neglectful attitudes. And that cause is insecurity. You see, on the wrong side of the tracks, power primarily comes from outwardly showing superiority, often with disrespect. In those circles, power is generally accepted as being, he who can cross the boundaries of another without consequences.
As such, insecurity is developed when a man feels the need to be loud, disrespectful, or otherwise abrasive in order to gain power or attention. But the thing to remember is that those are not men, they are boys.
Meanwhile on the other side of tracks, though there may be exceptions, power generally comes from having an internal locus of control, and is outwardly expressed with manners, and having nothing to prove. They also understand that true power comes from solitude versus attention.
As such, a man on the right side of the tracks may feel more confident about behaving elegantly in comparison to his redlined counterpart, who may feel peer-pressured to perform toughness in the form of aggression, even if he’d much rather be his normal, elegant self.
And yes, I said men on purpose, because it’s not only women who are elegant in those circles. In fact, the women in those circles would probably laugh you out of the room if you think you’re going to somehow impress them through acts of vulgarity.
As a sidebar, men in those circles can be just as aggressive if they wanted to, if not more so because they have more to protect. Instead, they choose to set a good example for their sons by showing they have nothing to prove.
In the event that they need to defend their position, they don’t fight with their fists. They simply call their attorney.
If you are a mind-mannered young man from the wrong side of the tracks, life may seem hopeless at first glance. But the thing to remember is that we live in a capitalist country where it is possible, though challenging, to change your zip code, and your social class along with it, so you can be yourself, and not feel pressured to perform unwarranted vulgarity.
Try your best to get out of the ghetto before it gets to where it’s hard to get the ghetto out of you. Go to evening class. Work two jobs if you must. Or better yet, do what you’re naturally good at, and find a way to make it sell.
This is most important, specifically because the practice of redlining didn’t only cut you off from resources due to the misfortune of being in the wrong zip code, or in many cases, being of the wrong color. But it also secretly taxed your permission or ability to simply be yourself.
No one asked to be born in the ghetto, but you also shouldn’t have to ask for permission to have manners and elegance either.
In last week’s article, I covered the number one red flag that someone is nothing but trouble, which is that they are rude and disrespectful.
In this week’s article, I will be covering the very second red flag that they will end up causing trouble in the long run, but before you scroll down, you might wanna take a wild guess as to what that could be.
Ok, ready?
The answer is ……
Nasty!
They are NASTY!
Whether they are littering the pavement with cigarette butts, or they are scratching behind their ears before handling other people’s food, rudeness and nastiness almost always goes hand in hand. But here’s the thing.
The root cause of nastiness is laziness. Nasty people are stupid and lazy, and that laziness often spills over into rudeness, especially defensive rudeness when you ask them to wear gloves or wash their hands.
Isn’t it funny how everybody suddenly needs a hearing aid as soon as you ask them to wash their dirty hands? Their sudden onset of a hearing impairment is an attempt to gaslight you to cover for their own pride and stubbornness.
Lazy people are inherently stubborn, that is why they are lazy. But if someone is trying to steal your perception of reality by gaslighting you, then that person is being rude by default.
The main reason why they are also prideful is because they think that by complaining, you are suggesting that it is some kind of moral failure on their part. And if that is what they think, then they are right, but not in the way they may think.
It’s only a failure if you complain and they don’t apologize and correct their actions. Or if they actively try to deny it, even to the point of gaslighting you, and projecting onto you for it.
Another reason for their defensiveness is that they think you’re complaining just to scorn them. These are the, “I’m clean! I took a bath!” crowd. And I’m over here like, “yes, you’re clean enough for you, but not clean enough for me.” The moment you picked your nose without washing your hands, you stopped being clean enough for me.
We used to take better pride in cleanliness and good customer service. But then there was a paradigm shift within the social order of society that made the very opposite more widely acceptable. So then what happened?
What happened is that rudeness has become so “fashionable” within society, that all of its kin, including nastiness, has followed suit. And it appears that it didn’t take too long for them to catch up. Now it seems to me that they are inseparable, and that one is not complete without the other.
Solution? Nasty people should never work in restaurants. They should become trash collectors and drain cleaners where they can have the pleasure of revelling in theirs and everybody else’s waste without scrutiny. And if that sounds harsh to you, then let’s raise our standards and enforce them without compromise.
There are some people out there, few as they are, who take a great deal of pride in serving others and doing so wholeheartedly, and thank goodness for those people. They should be the ones who work in restaurants, and be responsible for children and caring for the elderly.
Have you ever met someone who turned out to be nothing but trouble in the long run? Is it any surprise that they turned out that way? So now you’re probably wondering, “what could I have missed?” The answer is NOTHING! You missed nothing.
The red flags were always there. You just chose to ignore them. But it’s not entirely your fault. It also helps if you know what you are looking for. So what is the first red flag that someone is nothing but trouble?
Rudeness.
Elegant people don’t like rudeness, and uncouth people don’t like elegance. Rudeness shouts, elegance whispers. This is one of the primary motivators for wealth creation.
If you are sitting at a bar by yourself, and someone approaches you and starts being aggressive with you, demanding that you entertain them and answer all of their intrusive questions. They are rude.
If someone approaches you and leads with, “appreciate you, big dog.” That is rude because they are literally calling you a dog.
The problem is that society has normalized rudeness to the point that it sounds like a compliment. This makes it to where you are lowering your standards in order to make them comfortable, instead of forcing them to be respectful if they want your attention. This is why companies hire receptionists and security guards as gatekeepers.
You can’t just walk into a doctor’s office and be like, “yo big dog? Where my meds be at, bruh?” First of all, they’d probably call the police to escort you out of there, and rightfully so. You are not talking to your friends on the street corner.
The problem is that uncouth behavior nowadays has become the norm. These creeps are literally EVERYWHERE in society, and their behavior is so normalized, that I am labeled a weirdo if I call this shit out and demand respect.
People weren’t always good, mind you. But at least if you were out in public, or on TV, you are going to put on your Sunday best. Skirts for the ladies, suits for the gents. Whatever it was, it wasn’t THIS.
So now you are probably thinking, “those people from back in the day weren’t good people, they were just better at faking it.”
You call it fake. I call it decency.
This is not just some new means of social expression. Otherwise respect and decency would not be compromised. It is an epidemic of cowardly blame-shifting coupled with a lack of introspection and accountability.
And it has become so pervasive within society, that one cannot reasonably expect it to go away anytime soon. But do you know how we can go about resolving it on a personal level, so it doesn’t affect us?
First of all, true wealth is not about competition and social status, it is about being able to outrun the uncouth. Or better yet, outspend them.
You see, an eagle has wings and a snake slithers on its belly. So if you are an eagle and you know it, spread your wings and fly above the snake to where it can’t catch you.
That is what true wealth is all about. Money is like the wings of an eagle. It offers you the option of safety and privacy. So when you use your money to change your zip code versus competing with other normies, you are able to do what the normies cannot by living where they can only dream of. It doesn’t necessarily have to be an affluent neighborhood, just not a trash one.
And with that, you no longer have to tolerate loud music, and people fighting and smoking cigarettes, littering the streets with cigarette butts, while being aggressive and calling you out your name.
Normies want to turn all of society into a giant ghetto, and they are doing a damned good job of it. But when one of them wants to come around you acting a fool and thinking they’re cute, instead of being scared and validating their behavior, you actually need to laugh at these clowns for exactly what they are. Don’t feed the trolls, crush their egos instead.
In last week’s article, I discussed the flying monkeys and what makes them want to harass an innocent person. I also touched on the topic of the light bearer, and the fact that most people want to target them for one reason or another. What I didn’t do is to define who exactly the light bearers are. In this article, I will do exactly that.
Let me first begin by reminding you that the first red flag to note when dealing with a normie is that they want to put everybody in a box.
Even if that box isn’t true, or otherwise doesn’t make sense. They can’t just let you live and be yourself. You have to fit one of their pre-determined archetypes, otherwise you don’t exist.
A damn good example of this is when they often ask a pretty Black girl, “Girl, what you mixed with? You a ‘dougla’, or somethin’?”
But that’s a normie for you!
I’ve already mentioned that normies cannot live without group validation. But in order to do so, they have to be fake. Because of that, normies are dead inside, because they sacrificed their true selves a long time ago, just so they could fit in. And because of that, their new life mission is to hunt and destroy anybody who still has their light intact.
But what is the light?
You know when social media influencers often say, “they see your light and they don’t want it to exist?” Or they might say, “normies want to dim your light because it triggers their envy and insecurities.” Funny how they never tell you what the light actually is. No one except for Batel Skater and myself, that is.
When you are born, you have “the light.” No baby is born hating another person, especially over something that they cannot control, such as their age, race, or their gender.
Every baby was born with LIGHT. Some people call them bright stars or chosen ones. Others call them Indigo children. But it doesn’t matter what you call them. The light is something that comes naturally to them.
But then, as soon as they literally come out the vagina, a bunch of different labels and expectations are placed upon them. Labels such as race, nationalism, gender, politics, religion, etc. It is then implied through many years of abuse and control that their true selves are not good enough, and they are then given a script. They are not allowed to be themselves after that.
Most people conform and sacrifice their light for the falsehoods of this fallen world. This is nothing new. History is littered with examples of this. Take the Jim Crow south for example. All of those lynchers were taught to hate. They were also taught not to question the status quo of their time and place.
The few who do not conform are labeled heretics and weirdos, and are hunted with scorn and malice. Yet it is actually their captors whose perspectives are skewed, and who swear they know everything.
This is how hate and prejudice are bred. Yet it is those few whom they have labeled heretics who actually have the light, because their true selves are still intact.
They have to “fix” you into being like them because they cannot understand how you could actually exist without needing them. Only a clown and a false puppet would want to attack or control you simply for existing, and being yourself. The true self doesn’t need to control. It just is.
If you have the light, most normies are going to want to control it for themselves, or abuse you for having it. They envy you for your light because they gave up theirs, so now they want to limit your potential like crabs in a bucket.
Which is funny considering if they had your light, you know they would only use it to control others. If this is how they’re already acting without your light, then you don’t have to imagine what they would actually use it for.
Your light is yours. It is there for your own sustenance. With your light, you can tap into your creativity. It is the very reason why you are able to survive more effectively outside of a group, and actually thrive in some cases.
Your true self is here to serve as an example to others who are watching. An example to destroy the egos and expectations of the false selves.
But ultimately, an example to encourage other light bearers to step up and help you defend the faith in each self and the GOD within. They are going to watch anyway. So we might as well give ‘em one for the ages. They may look but not touch.
This is the final article for 2025. I’ll be going on a two month hiatus beginning next week. All new articles are coming out in February, and I hope you’ll join me then.
In the meantime, I encourage you to read some of my other articles on the site, as well as my new book, The Buckinchere Collection II, available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.
One of the most sadistic things you can experience is getting into an argument with a narcissist and everybody takes their side. This tends to happen more often than not, and it is particularly frustrating because it makes you feel like you cannot win when dealing with those kinds of people.
Furthermore, it makes the narcissist seem superior to you, and far more popular than you. And with that popularity, they receive the favor of the majority. But why do you think that is? In this article, I will be covering the flying monkey and why they support the narcissist so blindly.
First of all, what is a flying monkey? The term “flying monkey” is a reference to the wicked witch of the west from “The Wizard of Oz” who sent out magical monkeys with wings to do her bidding.
The term is now used within communities that support survivors of narcissistic abuse to describe the henchmen of the narcissist who are all too willing to do the narcissist’s bidding.
Primarily as it relates to stalking, hoovering, enabling, gaslighting and harassment of the former target who has escaped the narcissist’s control. But what kind of person would go out of their way to harass an innocent person who doesn’t want to be bothered? Don’t they have kids, bills and a job to go to?
The answer is that they are weak.
These are weak-willed, mediocre people who are not that smart, not fully right upstairs, satisfied with their lot in life, and are thus easier to control. Those reasons alone are exactly why they are normies.
The first red flag that you are dealing with a normie is that they are loud, fake and satisfied with mediocrity. They also want everybody to be the same. Let’s break it down on an existential level.
First of all, there are many people who were not born because they were loved, planned for, or cared for. They were born out of the simple fact that two jackasses decided to fuck without a condom.
Their parents were stupid, dishonest, and racist. And now they are just as stupid, dishonest, and racist as their parents. Soon they will have children of their own who will more or less turn out the same way, and the vicious cycle continues.
How could you expect those kinds of people to love anyone if their parents never loved them? And how could their parents love them if they never even loved each other, let alone themselves?
Yet from a very early age, the normie knew that it was always hungry, horny and needed money. It also knew that it wasn’t smart enough to sustain life on its own. So what does it do?
It joins other normies at work, or in friend groups, and they all fall in line with a certain pecking order that only they can understand. They appoint a “leader” whose leadership qualities are only apparent from their perspectives, be it a boss, or a popular friend in the group. And that “leader” serves its role while they serve their leader.
They idealize that leader and serve him or her blindly. If that leader wants them to murder an innocent, they will kill that person without question. This is where the danger lies because this is how cults are usually formed.
With that said, not all normies are evil. Most normies are just unawakened, and trying to go about their regular lives. But there is a lot of evil mixed in among the normies and the lines easily become blurred because it’s hard to tell who’s who.
This is where evil comes into play. True evil is silent. It watches. It waits. It befriends. Then it strikes when you least expect it, and in ways you would never consider. It strikes by appearing as normal as any normie, and then taking advantage of the confusion.
Then before you know it, the poor, unsuspecting normies are now part of a friendship gang, or a corporate cult, and the expectation of loyalty makes it hard for them to back out. So they become enablers and go along with evil agendas just for the sake of getting along with everybody.
This is particularly dangerous because these normies are the same kind of people who drank the Kool-aid in the jungles of Jonestown, Guyana in 1978, and history is doomed to repeat itself. Consider yourselves warned!
All normie cults have two scapegoats. One is internal, the other is external. The internal scapegoat is that one friend in the group who everybody low key roasts. And the external one?
He is just the quiet guy who goes to work, minds his business, does his job and goes home without incident, and generally wants nothing to do with them. And everybody HATES him. Why do they hate him?
Because they feel like he is disrespecting their pecking order by not falling in line and worshipping them. Because he has “The Light” and doesn’t want to be exploited for it.
Because they cannot wrap their heads around the notion that he truly doesn’t need anybody, and they want to fix the situation to their preference versus respecting the fact that everybody has a different perspective.
Another reminder of the dangers of group think is that the normie standard is low. They set the bar really low, which makes them low-hanging fruit because of how stupid and easily controllable they all are.
The admission cost to join their group is that you are required to dim your light so that everybody can be the same. And also to eliminate the risk of triggering people’s envy and insecurities. This is exactly why they are fake.
They are so fake, and so stupid, that they fail to realize that it is actually their perspectives that’s grossly skewed.
They’re not for you. You’re not for them. So when you go your own way, and show that you don’t need them, they want to attack you for it.
And because they are all so weak-willed, not only will they stand by as others abuse you, they will literally join in. The “good” one is only quiet, and a spineless follower.
They are also probably thinking, “if I let them roast me, what makes you so special?” Once again, they set the bar really low for themselves, and because they swear their perspectives are correct, they set it low for you, too.
Then the normies celebrate their mediocrity and try to cover up their inherent shame by seeking attention on social media, and going out to nightclubs.
Be ye not deceived. It is all a facade to make themselves seem way cooler than they actually are, and to make you want them because they thrive on your attention.
If you fall for it, then this is how they will trap you. Mind you, these are only normie cults, and not all normies. Smart, creative people DO NOT join cults that target innocent people for no reason.
So what can a light bearer do in this world filled with normies? First of all, what is a light bearer? Join me again next week as I will be discussing it in that article.
Have you ever noticed that the amount of churches in any given city varies by zip code? For example, poorer neighborhoods have more churches (seems like there is one on every corner like a bodega). But tell me how many churches you are able to find in wealthier neighborhoods. I shall wait but I won’t hold my breath.
This is not only true within any one country, but also among countries on an international scale. Why do you think all these self-proclaimed “Prosperity Prophets” are setting up churches all over Nigeria, but not in Denmark?
Why do you think that Ireland, Mexico, and Italy are predominantly catholic, while “whiter” countries are more protestant? The same general concept is true in the United States. The only difference is that we have football, and they have soccer.
Ever wonder why that is? It’s that way by design. Let’s explore some of the historical, geographical, and socio-economic reasons why that is the case.
First of all, wealthy neighborhoods do have churches. But there are very few of them, usually historical landmarks from the time of early settlements in that neighborhood. They are either thoroughly spaced out, or there is only one church, and it’s out on the main boulevard. Either way, their neighborhood is not saturated with a bunch of churches, and I can’t exactly say that I blame them. If I had a million bucks, I wouldn’t waste my time going to church either.
Is it any wonder then, that the wealthy are much further ahead than most normies? And by much further, I do mean light years ahead.
The poor are poor because they inherently have a victim mindset. They say that the laws of a country are not made in the parliament of that country, but in its pubs. With that said, the men of most countries spend their Saturday nights in the pubs of their cities drowning their sorrows in a bottle and commiserating among themselves that they don’t have any money.
Then the very next day, their wives drag them to church kicking and screaming. They are forced to give away 10% of their earnings to people who are already rich, and who don’t pay taxes, just so those people can give them false hope to put their trust in a deity outside of themselves to provide for all of their needs.
All while using their tides to live in one of the historical parts of town where there is only one church. And also to be able to send their kids to college so they one day become your boss and make your life more miserable while you are still stuck at church looking for an answer.
But while commiserating with other men at the pub on Saturday night, they are supposedly “holding each other accountable,” by saying things like, “man up,” or “life is hard,” or “take it like a champ,” or “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” and on it goes. You’ve heard it all before, haven’t you?
Or they might say, “you actually like it easy, you ain’t no real man.” Or, “oh, you just want to leave us all behind for one of those fancy homes in the suburbs. See, I always knew your ass was gay.” Do you know what all those crude remarks are a part of?
Have you ever heard of a little something called, “Poverty Pride?” It’s when you think that hardship makes you stronger, and that softness makes you weak. They literally equate self-care and elegance to weakness.
It’s actually quite pathetic. But I also understand that it is just a coping mechanism to face the daily reality of one’s lot in life being less than what they’d hoped for. Poor men have historically had many coping mechanisms for dealing with the reality of their appointed lot.
Those who don’t drink and beat their wives when they are broke, end up taking it out on their drinking buddies at the pub. Or on the segregated members of society whom they have appointed the permanent underclass of society. Be it African-Americans in the Jim Crow south, or the jews of nazi Germany, or the Romani people of Romania, more famously referred to as gypsies.
Then there are the prosperity preachers who “set up shop” in depressed communities for the sake of exploiting the people’s need to believe that their sustenance somehow lies in the hands of something outside of themselves.
The city planners allow them to do so, and they don’t charge them taxes for it, because they say it’s not for profit. Yet, they get to buy a fancy car every year and send their kids to college. The actual church building may be not for profit, but the pastor’s salary surely is (or should be).
What the prosperity prophets say may sound good to the ears of those who are hungry and desperate. “Hold faith! That job is coming!” Or some may say, “That promotion is coming! That rich, handsome man is coming with the ring and the keys to the mansion.” You get the idea.
By the way, these so-called prophets love to target poor single mothers living in the ghetto. But what they are actually teaching is learned helplessness on a massive scale.
The primary danger of learned helplessness is that anyone who appears like they are coming to help you is really only coming to control you. And if you don’t comply, they will take it away, as well they should. It’s their resource and you must learn to do for yourself.
When they have you standing at the altar, and they are prophesying over your life, how come they never actually say, “you are going to go back to school,” or “you have what it takes to start your own business?”
They never actually tell you how smart and capable you are. But they are always quick to say, “That job is coming! That man is coming! That visa is coming!”
Now here’s the thing to remember. The wealthy pamper themselves without apology. Life is too short, and they work too damn hard for their money not to be able to enjoy it.
So the next time the prosperity preacher tells you that your blessing is right around the corner, you just gotta have faith and give us 10% of your earnings.
Or the next time your loser friends at the pub tell you to tough it out like a man, tell them to tell the prosperity preacher to tough it out. Tell them to tell their boss at work who lives in the historical one-church neighborhood to take it like a man, and see how quickly they don’t get their asses fired.
They always have unsolicited advice for the powerless that conveniently puts the blame right back on the sufferer. Don’t you think that makes them cowardly hypocrites?
In the end, no one is coming to save you. Not your parents. Not your boss. Not your church. Not the demiurge.
Wanna know the main difference between a psychopath and a sociopath? A psychopath was born that way, and a sociopath was socialized to be that way.
They say that hurt people hurt people. As true as that may be, it is really only half of the story. The other half is that there is literally nothing wrong with some of these people, and it has everything to do with whether they are a psychopath or a sociopath.
A sociopath was born as any baby was born. Full of love and not hating anyone. But as he grew into a man, he was conditioned through abuse and trauma to hate anyone who does not look and sound just like him. He was told to shut up, or to blame others for all his problems.
As such, the sociopath goes through life full of shame, neglect, feelings of unworthiness, a need to project all of his negative self-talk, and an insatiable need for external validation.
All this trauma erodes away at his self-esteem, and ultimately his inner core. The core is your true self, and when it dies, all you have left is your ego. Your ego only cares about survival. Your ego is what tells you that you have to become a monster if you are to survive.
All of your wisdom comes from your inner core, and an ego without the core is unchecked and dangerous. So with his core gone, the sociopath ends up bleeding on those who didn’t cut him.
As a sociopath, it becomes increasingly difficult to form relationships, as you will only alienate potential allies. However, the sociopath’s saving grace is that he wasn’t born sick. With the proper therapy and mental support, he can revert back to his original state. Challenging as it may be, because the ego is stubborn.
Because the ego is stubborn, the sociopath often chooses instead to become fake and join fake normie groups, such as work friendships, shallow friendship groups, church families and family cliques, etc.
They think it is the easiest way to be offered protection. But here’s the catch. Your empathy as well as your loyalty to the group will be tested sooner or later. Normie groups are full of envy, competition and insecure people, and you will be expected to attack an innocent target to prove yourself to the group.
If you refuse, then they will all turn on you. These normie groups are social gangs hiding in plain sight. They are full of peer pressure, and most people sadly end up pandering to the group because they are pathetic, and they want as much as possible to resist upsetting the apple cart.
Ok, that was the sociopath. Then there are psychopaths. There is literally nothing wrong with them, except that they were born sick, and they will never change.
The psychopath only cares about power. Not the many nuances of power that I discussed on this blog site in the month of July. Only control.
They are otherwise fine. They are not starving. They are not sick. They are not homeless. They are not cold. They are not thirsty. They are not dying. They are only CRAZY! Think about it!
A man dying of thirst in the desert is not thinking about control. He is thinking about water. Water and a ride into town. Not even women are at the immediate forefront of his mind at that moment. When he makes it back into town, his true nature will gradually come back as he begins to recover. But when he is dying of thirst in the desert, water is his only concern.
With that analogy in mind, the psychopath will waste water and money for the sake of punishing or blackmailing someone he wants to control.
Imagine that? Wasting resources as scarce and as unrenewable as water and money. Or even food and car fuel. Imagine wasting food because you just don’t want someone else to have it.
Yet the psychopath will literally waste resources because nothing matters more than control to them. They will waste your time and have you going around in circles all day. They will breadcrumb you with droplets of dopamine hits, then pull the rug out from under you so they get an even bigger high. Whenever they wave at you, they’re saying “hi” hoping you would say “how high?”
Anyway, the bottom line is, they will do or say anything, including wasting resources in order to control you. Nothing is more important to them than the game they have in their heads. Does that sound like a hurt person hurting people? Or does that sound like a damned psychopath?
If you are a sociopath, you can either become a sadist or a masochist later in life. The psychopath is a born sadist. Some people are just born sick and there is nothing you can do about it.
Let’s talk about obesity for a sec. No offense, but do you ever wonder why some people are fat? Though there are many nuances involved, I’m pretty sure that in most cases, the people who are overweight are suffering from a binge disorder. But what is a binge disorder?
Binging is an overindulgence in any hedonistic activity that tethers on the brink of decadence (see: Hedonism vs. Decadence), and could eventually lead to harm. Examples of this could be food, weed, alcohol, sex, porn, television (especially online streaming), etc.
Indulging is fine so long as you keep it in moderation. But overindulgence is a binge, and excessive amounts of binging now becomes a disorder. Ok, great! Now what causes people to overindulge?
Perhaps there was a time while growing up when there was never enough to eat. Similar to people who become obsessed with power in adulthood because they never had any autonomy in childhood, and it had put them in harm’s way, so does the person who never had enough to eat start binging the moment they had the extra income to be able to afford more food.
I once had a classmate who had plenty of kids, more than she can probably afford. Her father died when she was young, and she and her mother hate each other. So now she is resolute in creating the family she never had growing up, where she is surrounded by a bunch of kids who she feels would be there to love her forever.
But what happens when the kids grow up and want to live lives of their own? She probably never thought about that, but I did, for I am such a child. My guess is that her kids will likely develop a binge disorder that’s shrouded in some kind of solitude and autonomy.
When I was growing up, our house was the revolving door for all of the neighborhood kids. This is because my brother is an extravert, and likes talking to everybody. Still have no idea how we even ended up being born in the same family, but today, I won’t even say hi to my neighbors.
Then there is the issue of sexual repression. A man who is going through a dry spell may develop an addiction at the pornographic level due to sexual frustration. Then when he finally graduates to the real deal, that porn addiction might turn into a sex addiction.
He may become addicted to the act itself. But once he realizes that his girlfriend cannot keep up, he may cheat on her with multiple women, some of whom may be escorts. Then he will eventually become addicted to the escorts.
Choosing to see escorts is one thing, but becoming addicted to them will lead to bankruptcy. Speaking of bankruptcy, a man will likely become a workaholic if there was never enough money going around while he was growing up.
Perhaps he was surrounded by crabs in a bucket. Then they probably lied that it was all due to a generational curse. Or it could just be that he was geolocked due to his time and place.
Whatever it is, he will likely become obsessed with overachievement, and workaholism will become his binge of choice. Binging may feel satisfying at first, but as with all things that you choose to abuse, consistent binging always ends in disaster.
Food binges lead to obesity and hypertension. Porn addiction leads to wasted time, and neglecting your real world relationships and obligations. Sex addiction will eventually lead to bankruptcy. Alcoholism will lead to DUIs. And workaholism will lead to premature ageing.
A binge disorder can be outgrown with time and understanding. Sadly, there are some who never outgrow their binge. It becomes a permanent aspect of their character.
The key is in being able to recognize the root cause of your binge disorder. Forgive yourself for the scarcity in your early life that caused the binge, and consider some possible alternatives that could lead to a healthier future.
One possible alternative is in recognizing that the unconscious urge to hoard is not the answer. You begin to heal by making the concerted effort to learn the discernible difference between quality and quantity, and then choosing quality every time.
It is the end of the month and time once again for our monthly review series. Our muse for the month of September is none other than Miss Sadie Thompson. But first, here’s a disclaimer.
Disclaimer:
The following review contains spoilers, so I strongly recommend watching any film that features the character of Sadie Thompson before reading this or any review relating to this muse. Now without further ado, let’s begin.
Introduction:
Sadie Thompson is a fictional character appearing in several films, plays and prose between the 1920s and the 1950s. Her first appearance was in a 1921 short story titled, “Rain,” by W. Somerset Maugham, part of his collection titled, “The Tremling of a Leaf.”
In film, her most notable portrayals were by Gloria Swanson as the titular Sadie Thompson in a 1928 silent picture directed by Raoul Walsh. And by Joan Crawford in “Rain,” a 1932 talking picture directed by Lewis Milestone, and the one that I will be reviewing today.
Plot:
Sadie Thompson is a young woman who is stranded on the Pacific island of Pago Pago. Outgoing by nature, Sadie enjoys drinking, smoking and partying with some of the young sailors she meets during her stay at an inn on the island. Much to the dismay of Alfred Davidson (Walter Huston), a brooding old missionary and religious zealot who complains that she is disturbing him and his wife.
Her sassy demeanor soon catches the eye of one of the sailors at the inn, one Sergeant O’Hara (William Gargan). As Sadie starts falling for O’Hara, Davidson starts digging into Sadie’s past and learns that she is a prostitute. He also discovers that she is wanted by the police in San Francisco.
Meanwhile, Sadie’s new boyfriend, O’Hara, whom she affectionately calls “handsome” throughout the picture, tells her about a friend of his who fell in love with a prostitute. They are now happily married and living in Australia. O’Hara wants to take Sadie away with him to Australia so she doesn’t have to answer for her previous crimes in San Francisco.
But just as he is making plans for them to join his friend, Davidson starts working on Sadie’s psyche. First he threatens to use his influence with the governor on that island to make certain that Sadie is sent back to San Francisco. Then he uses guilt and shame to convince her to seek repentance for her promiscuous ways.
As Davidson’s manipulation takes root and he continues to break down Sadie’s will, he finds it easier to convince her that the only way to truly repent is to willfully go back to San Francisco and face the punishment for her past crimes. She agrees and O’Hara notices that she is not being herself and tries to snap her out of it, but she pushes him away and insists that she needs to be “saved.”
Brainwashed and isolated from her friends, Davidson has free reign over Sadie’s mind and dictates her every action right down to the way that she dresses. With a newfound obsession with purity, Sadie soon begins to dress more modestly and without make-up.
Eventually she agrees to return to San Francisco and Davidson admires her as a “beautiful creature of god.” However, in the next split second, he loses control and breaks into her room where he rapes her.
The natives find Davidson’s body washed ashore the following morning. Suicide or murder? Who knows. Any scenario is possible. Devastated, Sadie reverts back to her old self again and leaves for Australia along with O’Hara to begin their lives anew.
Key Takeaway:
Davidson tried to brainwash Sadie into becoming someone she is not. While all along, he was secretly lusting after her despite being a married man, and lost control in the end. It is ironic that his losing control made Sadie revert back to her true self.
O’Hara loved and accepted Sadie as she was. She didn’t have to change her character, perhaps only her profession after they had gotten married. It just goes to show you that anybody who is trying to make you change does not love you, they only want to control you.
Another red flag that let’s me know Davidson was working her nerves was when he said that god wouldn’t forgive her unless she went back and faced the penalty for her past mistakes. Assuming god was benevolent, it wouldn’t want you to suffer for your past mistakes.
The point would’ve been to correct you and not to humiliate you, especially if it was a “victimless crime” that you committed out of lack and fear. There are those who are intentionally wicked who actually get rewarded in this world while those trying to do the right thing must suffer for the ego of the wicked. Religious hypocrisy at its finest.
And who is Davidson to lead anybody to salvation when he cannot even control himself? But the first red flag of all was when he led with threats in the first place. The heat check is the oldest trick in the book.
If they heat check you and you let it slide, that’s how they know they’ve got you. I give this cautionary tale on overzealous religious sadism and the malignant mentor a four out of five jazz listening tramps, and I’ll see you on the next one.
Everybody wants to be loved, but not everybody wants to love. This is due to the fact that when most people think about love, they are only thinking about one kind, erotic love. Due to this confusion, hidden resentment and frustration tends to build under the surface.
Mainly due to the fact that one believes they are only allowed one type of love, and to accept that one type is to reject all the other types. But did you know that there are actually six different types of love? In this week’s article, I will explore each of the six love types and languages.
Storge:
Often used interchangeably with philos, storge is a platonic kind of love. A love of friends and brothers. A love for one’s brethrens and comrades at arms. Though not inherently altruistic, storge is the main form of love that has sustained society throughout the ages.
It has given men something to bond over that is worth defending, be it country, church or a good game of football. When storge is gone, collapse is imminent. Think of the most decadent days of the Roman Empire for example. I recommend that you read my comparison between hedonism and decadence.
Mania:
When they say that there is a thin line between love and hate, this is the kind of love they are referring to. Because true love has a thick line that separates it from hate, a very thick line. But when one feels rejected whether real or perceived and love is not present, they will enter into madness and seek your destruction.
This is NOT love, this is control. While you squander your life away loving someone, they only love hurting you. Stop romanticizing these toxic fairytale ideas of a relationship. You have been warned.
Agape:
An altruistic kind of love, a love for humanity as a collective. Agape requires one to be a bit naive because in order for one to be altruistic towards society as a whole, one would also have to assume that humanity is inherently benevolent. That thought by itself requires one to be somewhat naive, because humans have never been inherently benevolent.
Yes, there are some benevolent qualities that allowed for the building of ships, planes, and for creativity to flourish. But most normies have always been out for themselves since the dawn of time, and will continue doing so until our star turns into a black hole and swallows the earth.
Anyone who practices agape without being affected by the consequence would likely have god-like powers to be able to cover the immediate shortfall. But for the average person, the practice of agape is a huge liability. Being part of a group offers some leverage. But still, there are no guarantees.
Eros:
Erotic love, the love that a man has for a woman and vice versa. This is specifically a love between one man and one woman, otherwise called monogamy. The idea behind eros is that a man should commit to one woman and one woman only for the remainder of his days.
Which is unreasonable to expect because men are inherently polygamous. So when a woman accuses a man of having commitment issues for wanting to date other women, she is saying that he doesn’t have eros, and she is correct. Because what he actually has is…..
Ludus:
The love of playful detachment and non-commitment. The love that a philanderer has for each of his muses. A man who practices ludus may take on many lovers at a time, and may only seek to have fun versus the responsibilities and expectations of eros. Most normies do not like when men do this, and always seek to sabotage him for it.
Perhaps they don’t understand his reasons for choosing to live this way. Ludus is not unethical so long as there are no unspoken expectations, and everyone involved agrees to the terms and conditions of a ludus relationship. In order to understand a man’s motivations for practicing ludus, we would have to explore the sixth love language, which is…..
Philautia:
The love of self and a vested interest in self-preservation. More prominent among men than women, philautia is the interest in ensuring that one avoids anything that will become a burden at some point. This is because men are more self-centered while women are more male centered.
For this reason, men are more ludus oriented than women because then he gets to have his cake and eat it too. Then she gets upset and calls him selfish when his nature commands that he practices ludus or philautia.
Conclusion:
Everyone has a different love language. What’s right for you may not be right for others. But with transparency and effective communication, everyone can get to where they are going. And most importantly, with whom.
So tell me, what is your love language, and who are you most compatible with based on that? Give it some thought, and let me know in the comment section below. Thanks for reading, and I’ll see you on the next one.
A lot of people have a false sense of obligation, an incessant need to be nice to everyone. They do so out of fear that they will hurt the feelings of others who will then go on to perceiving them as bad people if they do not comply.
Unfortunately, not everyone deserves you being nice to them, as that only opens up the door for you to be abused by people who are truly horrible. The good news though, is that withholding your niceness doesn’t mean that you are a bad person. In this article, I will be going over the main difference between what it means to be nice, versus kindness, versus decency.
Nice:
People think that being nice means that you are a good person. But first of all, did you know that the etymology of the word “nice” is stupid or naive, or weak? This is why people take kindness for weakness, because they are hardwired to see you as a fool or a jester if they think you are too nice.
This could be an unconscious reaction, or a conscious decision that they may try to resist if they are decent enough, or conscious enough. But it doesn’t change their primal wiring, it just makes them more aware.
However, in a modern sense, that is not always the case, as being nice is often used as part of an act to make you drop your guard so they can go in for the kill without much resistance.
The modern fool is he who believes that someone who is being nice is genuine, and repays their niceness with niceness of his own. Nice is not a natural occurrence, it is a conscious effort on the part of the person being nice.
Kind:
Kindness on the other hand is less performative, and is not a type itself, but only a trait of decency. Anyone can be kind, but unlike being nice which is just fake, kindness is not performed and is done more authentically.
However, one must be very strategic with how they are kind, and who they are kind to. We have a saying in Jamaica, “if you feel sorry fi mawga dawg (skinny dog), he will turn around and bite you.”
Some people are not inherently good, they just lack the necessary resources to be evil with impunity. We have another saying in Jamaica, “the higher the monkey climbs, the more he is exposed.” So if you are kind to the wrong person, they could end up killing you.
This is exactly what happens to a lot of battered wives who end up with abusive husbands. They rush into a marriage without getting to know the person they are marrying because they are lonely and afraid of being alone. This is especially true if they see all of their friends getting married and having babies before them.
Just because you are being kind doesn’t mean you should drop your guard. First of all, someone doesn’t get to benefit off you simply for breathing. They need to be able to demonstrate why they need your help and what’s in it for you. This is also the time to observe their behavior, and see what they are really about simply by observing their general attitude.
You might not be able to readily ascertain their true intentions, but you will be able to gather enough just from observing them.
That doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you responsible. Be kind to yourself first.
Decent:
Decency is innate. You are either a decent person, or you are not. It cannot be faked. You can fake being nice, but you cannot fake decency or genuineness. But just because you are decent doesn’t mean that you are nice. And then, not being nice doesn’t make you a bad person.
In fact, if you know that you are a genuine person, you really need to keep your guard up, even more than the average joe. You cannot afford to be nice. You can be kind, you can even be decent, just not nice.
Conclusion:
I am not saying to fight your nature, as doing so will only drive you mad. I am saying to embrace the fact that there are really two sides to your nature, and to be selective with whom you show each side of yourself to.
Here is a general rule of thumb that I always like to follow;
Be decent in general because manners matters. It is generally a good business practice to be fair, otherwise you risk alienating potential allies.
Be kind to the woman in your bed, because she is the only person who has used the most intimate parts of herself to heal your pain.
But only be nice to the guy in the mirror, because he’s the only guy you can be sure won’t screw you with it.
As for society in general, be indifferent. You don’t have to be rude unless provoked, then no one could blame you. You don’t have to be evil, otherwise you’d be no different from them. Just indifferent.
Do you remember when you were able to raise your first thousand? I do. It was about 12 years ago in New York. I earned it during the two months that I worked as a temp at the Port Authority Terminal over in Hell’s Kitchen, and poor me felt so rich at the time.
I had just turned 25, and barely coming out of years of unemployment, temping between jobs. If I was rich, I would have been able to invest the money as principal while comfortably living off the interest. I would have been way ahead of most New Yorkers at the time, and in fact most Americans. I just didn’t know any better.
But that is how they get you. They want you to feel rich off the very little that they pay you. The next thing you know, you find yourself taking out credit cards and auto loans you can’t afford. Or you start thinking about changing your zip code.
The feeling of being young and raising your first thousand is one of success and accomplishment. However, this is only the beginning and you cannot afford to lose track of reality, especially as a man, or you might just find yourself falling below stage one. Bet ya didn’t know there was even such a thing.
That is why I am here, to help put the varying levels of wealth building back into its proper context. Wealth building levels may vary based on currency, so for the sake of this article, I will be using the American dollar.
Negative:
This is an amount below zero. If you fall below zero, you are in the negatives, which means that you are in debt. Whether it’s overdraft on your checking account, or a credit card bill that’s past due, you have debt that you cannot afford to pay off. They made you feel so rich, but now they’re here to collect, and you just lost your job. They couldn’t have picked a worst possible time.
Peanuts:
This is an amount between 1 and 99 cents. This is how much they pay you to participate in online surveys. 34 cents, here, 25 cents there. You get the picture. They say it adds up if you do enough surveys over time. But who has time for that shit? We’ve got real bank to make.
Change:
This is an amount between 1 and 99 dollars. It’s literal change because it’s the paper notes you get back at the store whenever you break a solid hundred. A five, a ten, a couple of twenties and some singles.
America runs on change because if the poor man stops and buys a beer and a pack of cigarettes every night on his way home from work, and if every poor man does the same in every city across the country, then America runs on change.
Cash:
Cash is any amount between 100 and 1000 dollars. It is usually a bunch of Benjamins all rolled up, and is used to pay rent, bills, gas and groceries. The average employee has cash on hand. It makes you feel rich on a Friday night, but then you pay some bills and buy some weed over the weekend, and by Monday morning, you’re crying again. It doesn’t help if you have kids.
Savings:
This is an amount between 1000 and 10,000 dollars. This is where the climb goes a bit uphill. Very few Americans have $3000 to fall back on in case of an emergency. Even fewer Americans have $5000 or more in savings. This is very dangerous because one hospital visit, or car repair bill can wipe out your entire savings, and throw you back into poverty.
Surplus:
This is an amount between 10,000 and 100,000 dollars, where your net worth safely stays above $10,000. Here, the numbers dwindle even further. If you have a net worth within this range, you are ahead of most normies. You are on the right track, but you are not out of the woods yet.
Another reason why this is a danger zone is because most clout chasing normies love to act like they’re already there. And if you allow yourself to fall for it, then you are gullible enough to believe that pigs fly, especially when you consider that the only thing about the normies that is overflowing is their bathroom trash cans.
On the bright side, this is also a place where you can now afford to update your grocery list so as to include the proper nutrition. This is the “healthy foods that don’t suck” club. We’re talking salmon, tenderloin, shrimp and scallops as nightly dinner options. Nightly.
Capital:
Capital starts at $100K, the standard lot size of most investment portfolios. Capital is any amount between 100,000 and 1,000,000. You are now able to invest and grow the money, and the capital will be able to cover the shortfall of minor fluctuations in the market, but one hundred thousand is merely the beginning of capital. Either way, if you have capital, then you are way ahead of the average American.
Fortune:
This is an amount between 1,000,000 and 1,000,000,000 dollars. If you have a fortune, then you can talk about changing your zip code and splurging on that brand new 2026 Porsche and BMW convertible.
You can pull your kids out of public school and hire a governess to homeschool them, then send them backpacking through Europe at age 17 to teach them about life. Be forewarned however, that if you are in the millions, the money is rarely intergenerational, and may not exceed your lifetime if your net worth is below a hundred million.
Money is a joke:
This amount is only if your net worth is One Billion United States Dollars or greater. Think Warren Buffet, Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Oprah Winfrey, etc. If you are in the hundreds of Billions, you have more money than you can afford to spend in 20 lifetimes if you were frugal with it, and as such you can afford to treat money as if it were a joke.
Once you are in the billions, you are now able to afford jets, yachts, private islands, golf courses, etc. Gambling away tens of millions in risky hedge funds may suddenly seem more exciting to you just for the sheer sport of it.
If you are second generation, you will likely not understand the value of hard work, and as such may be subjected to trust funds up until your 30th birthday. Third generation is even worse. You have never known a sick day where there isn’t a team of five doctors hovering over your bed at least twice an hour, trying to figure out what’s wrong with you. And hunger? That doesn’t exist on planet earth to you, it exists in a parallel dimension.
Conclusion:
In closing, where are you on this list? And where do you see yourself in five years? Above all else, what are you willing to do to get there, and do so in an honest and timely fashion?
