Tag: Stubbornness

B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

Feb 8, 2026

In last week’s article, I covered the number one red flag that someone is nothing but trouble, which is that they are rude and disrespectful.

In this week’s article, I will be covering the very second red flag that they will end up causing trouble in the long run, but before you scroll down, you might wanna take a wild guess as to what that could be.

Ok, ready?

The answer is ……

Nasty!

They are NASTY!

Whether they are littering the pavement with cigarette butts, or they are scratching behind their ears before handling other people’s food, rudeness and nastiness almost always goes hand in hand. But here’s the thing.

The root cause of nastiness is laziness. Nasty people are stupid and lazy, and that laziness often spills over into rudeness, especially defensive rudeness when you ask them to wear gloves or wash their hands.

Isn’t it funny how everybody suddenly needs a hearing aid as soon as you ask them to wash their dirty hands? Their sudden onset of a hearing impairment is an attempt to gaslight you to cover for their own pride and stubbornness.

Lazy people are inherently stubborn, that is why they are lazy. But if someone is trying to steal your perception of reality by gaslighting you, then that person is being rude by default.

The main reason why they are also prideful is because they think that by complaining, you are suggesting that it is some kind of moral failure on their part. And if that is what they think, then they are right, but not in the way they may think.

It’s only a failure if you complain and they don’t apologize and correct their actions. Or if they actively try to deny it, even to the point of gaslighting you, and projecting onto you for it.

Another reason for their defensiveness is that they think you’re complaining just to scorn them. These are the, “I’m clean! I took a bath!” crowd. And I’m over here like, “yes, you’re clean enough for you, but not clean enough for me.” The moment you picked your nose without washing your hands, you stopped being clean enough for me.

We used to take better pride in cleanliness and good customer service. But then there was a paradigm shift within the social order of society that made the very opposite more widely acceptable. So then what happened?

What happened is that rudeness has become so “fashionable” within society, that all of its kin, including nastiness, has followed suit. And it appears that it didn’t take too long for them to catch up. Now it seems to me that they are inseparable, and that one is not complete without the other.

Solution? Nasty people should never work in restaurants. They should become trash collectors and drain cleaners where they can have the pleasure of revelling in theirs and everybody else’s waste without scrutiny. And if that sounds harsh to you, then let’s raise our standards and enforce them without compromise.

There are some people out there, few as they are, who take a great deal of pride in serving others and doing so wholeheartedly, and thank goodness for those people. They should be the ones who work in restaurants, and be responsible for children and caring for the elderly.

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