The Buckinchere Transcendence

Tag: Self Acceptance

  • The power of solitude

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Mar 16, 2025

    If a plane goes even 1 mile outside of its designated parameter, it’s far off course, and it’s hard to get back on. The same is true for friend groups that’s wrong for you, or even family for that matter.

    Two’s company and three’s a crowd. A wise man once told me that if you give the devil a ride, he’s going to want to drive.

    Say for instance, you were born into a family of attorneys. Your father is a lawyer, your grandfather is a lawyer, and his father before him was a lawyer. For the entirety of your life so far, you have been told that you must follow in their footsteps. You go along to get along even though you have always wanted to be a singer.

    Legal papers may bore you, but music is your passion. If you don’t break free from among them and take a plunge into the deep blue waters to do some soul searching and seek truth, you will go on believing that law is your passion.

    This would have been most unfortunate because not only have you missed your true calling, but doing so has caused a ripple effect that led to a brain drain in your preferred industry. You could have been the single greatest vocalist of all time. But now, you have allowed someone less deserving to steal your destiny because you think you’re supposed to be an attorney.

    Likewise, over on the wrong side of the tracks, you always wanted to be an attorney. You tell your family and some of your neighbors out of naivety, hoping they would encourage you. Not only do they not support you, but they actually call you a divestor because they all collectively have a crab in a bucket mentality.

    In order for you to get along, you foolishly turn down a scholarship to study abroad just so you can fit the mold for society’s expectation of you. Five years later, you are now a single mother of four with no man in the damn house, flipping burgers for a living. All your old school mates are living the dream, while you can’t even find the time to pick up a book after work.

    Not only do you not know who you are, but the legal profession has also suffered a brain drain. You could have been the most legendary attorney of all time, but now an innocent man being railroaded by the system will lose his case and get sent to the chair because you missed your calling. That condemned man could have gone on to father a son who would’ve found the cure for cancer, but that will never happen now either, and on and on it goes.

    It also doesn’t help that it’s difficult to break out of certain mental conditioning. Once you’re off course, it’s hard to get back on, and it usually takes something truly drastic taking place in your life in order to snap you out of it.

    But before that drastic thing happens, you can choose to take a plunge into the deep blue waters and do some soul searching. What does that look like? It could look like many things, but whatever shape it assumes, solitude is definitely at its core.

    When you shut out the useless noise and clutter, your brain starts talking, and when your brain finally shuts up, your heart starts talking. That’s usually when you remember what you wanted to do when you were fourteen, and still living at home with no responsibilities.

    Solitude can be brutal, especially if you are an extravert, but even if you are not. It is when you are truly alone with no distractions that all the mistakes of your life will flash before your eyes. But it is also when you will discover who you really are.

    Before that, you were seeing yourself through the lens of other people’s perceptions of you, but those perceptions are skewed based on their own biases and subjectivities. If you want to get an unbiased, objective perspective of yourself, you must be willing to enter your isolation arc.

    Not only should you be willing, but also prepared to face whatever you will discover, because all of your life choices and mistakes might hit you like a ton of bricks. It could get pretty intense. You are not going to have any support, you will only have yourself.

    If you are looking for some kind of higher power to be there for you to lean on in those moments, maybe you’re not ready for this. Your isolation arc might even reveal that the higher power in question is not really what you thought it was, but that topic deserves its own article. The bottom line is that the isolation arc is going to screw you raw with no lube, there is no buffer for this.

    But once you are done, your covert enemies will be exposed for what they truly are, and it will then become clear to you exactly why they are your enemies. Most importantly, you will never make another decision out of fear, which means that no one will ever be able to manipulate you. After that, you will essentially become a whole new person, and your trajectory for the future will be back on course. It’s going to be a beautiful day.

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  • Eccentricities of a left-hander

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Nov 3, 2024

    “The function of being left-handed is an eccentricity in and of itself.” – B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    It is commonly known that throughout all of human history, most people write with their right hands. While there are some who are ambidextrous, being able to use both hands. This is what is considered “the norm.” However, very few people are entirely left-handed, and these are the ones who are considered weird.

    If you are left-handed in 2024, thank your lucky stars that you were born at a later time. Because, for much of human history, left-handed people were brutally ostracized by society. They were accused of being witches and devils. Some were even burned at the stake.

    Some school teachers would even go as far as to corporally punish left-handed children by beating them in their left-hand with a ruler, until they learned to write with their right hand. This practice went on until as late as the 1990’s in some countries.

    The idea being that they would be unable to write with their left hand if doing so hurts from receiving a beating in it. This is all due to the fact that a lot of people have average minds, and their fear of the unknown doesn’t help matters much.

    Instead of admitting that they simply don’t know the cause of something, they try to explain it away with their limited understanding of the world around them, and their egos would not permit them to do otherwise. This is very dangerous thinking, especially when there are children who are dependent on you for safety and sustenance. 

    But now, we’ve got it made. Never has there been a time such as this to be alive as a left-hander. With thorough research throughout the decades, and the public being better informed, almost all of the scrutiny we face today has been switched from physical harassment to verbal criticism.

    Any comment about a left-handed person being a devil has since been reduced to a mere joke. A mean joke, but a joke nonetheless. We have come a long way, but we are still not there yet.

    A lot of left-handed people suffer from low self-esteem, depression and suicidal ideation due to this misunderstood quirk of theirs. Just because the ostracism we face has switched from physical to verbal harassment doesn’t mean that it’s any less painful to bear, just not life-threatening, that’s all.

    If you are ambidextrous, then do whatever suits you. But if your left hand is all you’ve got to work with, then it doesn’t help to go against the grain of your nature, as you will only end up driving yourself mad.

    The thing to do is to embrace who you are, then try to understand yourself better. For starters, let’s discuss what causes left-handedness in the first place. Studies have proven that left-handers are born that way due to genetic luck, coupled with brain chemistry.

    If the brain chemical leans to the right, one would become left-handed, whereas if the brain chemical leans to the left, then one would become right handed. This is something that happens as the unborn embryo is developing inside its mother’s uterus. Therefore, he has no control over it.

    There are even Ultrasounds of the embryo unwittingly sucking its left thumb over its right one, or vice versa. Further observations of involuntary hand preference have been noted postnatally, during infanthood.

    I also think it’s worth noting that being left-handed comes with intellectual and even emotional quirks, and not just physical. Left-handers are more likely to be creators and innovators.

    Think about some of the greatest minds of our time, and throughout history. Innovators such as; Einstein, Tesla, Newton, Gates, Winfrey, etc. All of them have that one eccentricity in common that gets them in the door to the club of exclusive winners.

    Left-handed individuals are more likely to pursue careers in creative fields, such as music, writing, painting, sculpting, inventions, etc. Which is befitting our personalities, considering that the function of being left-handed is an eccentricity in and of itself.

    This is due to the fact that our brain chemistry leans more towards our right brain, which is the creative brain. Apart from that, some left-handers tend to enter politics. Notable left-handed presidents include; Reagan, Bush, Clinton and Obama. All of whom have served at some point or other within the last forty years.

    Today, some left-handers have taken the liberty of celebrating their left-handedness as a quirk, or an eccentricity, rather than a mark of the devil, and I am one of them. I am B. Lorenzo Buckinchere, a left-handed journalist and author, and I approve this message.

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