Tag: Positive Selfishness

B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

Jun 1, 2025

The word selfish has always had a negative connotation. This is largely due to the fact that most people misuse the word, and take it out of context. It is true that selfishness can be quite harmful depending on how it is used. But did you know that there are in fact two forms of selfishness? Today we will be exploring the positive connotations of selfishness.

Selfish people will call a reserved person selfish for not allowing others to be selfish with them. The selfish person in question is not inherently wrong for calling the private person selfish. The problem here is that they make it seem like he who is more reserved is the only one who is selfish. When in fact, EVERYBODY IS SELFISH.

Somehow it’s only wrong when you are selfish, but not them. Almost as if there was an unwritten expectation that you are supposed to be the only selfless one in the room so they can easily get away with being selfish with you, but the moment you fight back, you are the selfish one. Do you see the gaslighting in that?

But then again, what did you really expect from selfish people? There is an old saying, “if a thief really wants something, consider it gone.” So then apply that same logic to the context of this article. If a thief really wants your submission, you don’t know how far they are willing to go to get it. It becomes like a game to them. They will obsess night and day over it, and they won’t stop until they have you like a puppet on a string.

They will find other mentally deranged people to agree with them and back them up when they are wrong. They have already identified their target. This is done far in advance, and is usually motivated by hidden feelings of envy that they have all collectively harbored towards the target’s inherently good nature.

The only thing left to do now is to single out the target and gaslight him or her as a group. They can’t just leave well enough alone, they have to try and control the target somehow. If they can deprive you of something as vital as your free will, they feel like they have won, which is exactly what makes them so damned sadistic.

But did you know that you are being negatively selfish by enabling them? Let me explain; your need to prove them wrong comes from a place of ego. By selfishly feeding your ego, you are distracting yourself from practicing a more positive form of selfishness that better preserves your higher existence. But what does that actually look like? Here are several examples:

1. Asserting non-negotiable boundaries when dealing with people.
2. Swiftly and aggressively cutting off toxic relatives, friends, bosses, co-workers, girlfriends, deities. You get the picture.
3. Prioritizing peace, privacy, health, wealth, comfort and ultimately your life’s purpose over friends/drama, etc.
4. Choosing to pamper yourself over accepting crappy job offers among other forms of humiliation rituals. You don’t have to be rude. You can simply say, “Thanks for the offer, but I must respectfully decline.” That’s it!
5. Choosing vital nutritional sources, and touching grass and water versus stressing over kids and bills all the damn time.
6. Choosing not to marry when you know you are not the type to ever settle down. As selfish as that is, it is still better than playing with people’s feelings.

And so you see, the difference between me and other selfish people is that I am selfish with my own life, while they are selfish with other people’s lives. As selfish as I am, I still respect each individual’s sovereign autonomy over their own lives.

Do not be selfish with other people’s lives. And above all else, do not allow others to be selfish with your life. That, dear reader, is the clear difference between sadism and hedonism.

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