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Tag: Positive Reinforcement

  • The link between reinforcement bias and RSD

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Oct 12, 2025

    Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is way more common than you think. Men have historically suffered from RSD, but due to the paradigm shift caused by the movement of men going their own way, you may find that women are now more commonly affected than they were previously.

    But what exactly is RSD? And more importantly, what is the cause of it?

    First of all, the word dysphoria implies an altered state of reality, almost like a delusion of sorts. So then rejection sensitivity dysphoria is a mental disease where the sufferer is sensitive to any form of rejection, real or perceived. The dysphoric aspect of RSD comes into play when you consider that the rejection in question is often more perceived than real.

    The most common example of this is that a man might see a girl he likes and thinks he doesn’t have a shot with her because she is way out of his league. And how she can get any man in the world, so why him.

    Meanwhile, the girl is probably thinking, “why is he acting so shy? Why won’t he come over and say hi?” As a sidebar, did you know that exceptionally beautiful women tend to be the loneliest?

    It’s true! People think they get laid left and right. But in reality, men see them and end up rejecting themselves without knowing her intentions because they are often intimidated by her beauty, class and elegance.

    Then she gets lonely and insecure, and ends up picking some douchebag who beats the shit out of her. How’s that for RSD?

    The hot, mean girl trope in popular culture doesn’t exactly help matters much either. When in reality, it’s the pretty little normies who are mean and insecure, not Queen Aphrodite.

    It doesn’t even make sense for her to be mean, it would only ruin her beauty. The trouble is that Aphrodite is an exceptionally rare form of feminine beauty.

    Ok, so now that I’ve gone over some real world examples of RSD, let’s discuss the main cause of it.

    Confirmation bias is a double-edged sword that can either make or break you. Positive reinforcement will encourage confidence, while negative reinforcement actually punishes the first sign of it.

    So you know how incels always complain that “Chad” easily gets laid? Well it’s not necessarily because Chad is a stunner. It’s because he had a lot of positive reinforcement in his upbringing, and throughout much of his life.

    The incel on the other hand, had a lot of negative reinforcements throughout life. A lot of L’s. A lot of setbacks. All of his hopes and endeavors, noble as they are, were literally made to feel like some kind of absurd, dark comedy while the whole world passes him by.

    That’s not hard to imagine in a world that rewards evil and punishes creativity and authenticity. That kind of loneliness can really torture a man’s mind. So they develop a sensitivity to rejection, coupled with dysphoria.

    This is something that plays out over time. And as such, they end up rejecting others before others have a chance to reject them. That way, they feel more in control of their experiences.

    In last week’s article, we talked about the different forms of addiction. One particular example was the lust for power due to feelings of neglect or the general lack of safety in one’s background. Well proactive rejection perpetuated by sufferers of RSD is but one example of that power lust.

    The incel may internalize his negative reinforcements as being due to his lack of height, or the way his face looks. But in reality, it really could be due to neurodiversion.

    Having mental conditions such as; OCD, ADHD, or being on the autism spectrum could increase the likelihood of developing RSD at some point. But if you asked me, I would say it’s because the incel didn’t reject his true self in order to conform to the normie script.

    As such, incels often go deeper into nihilism and loneliness, where they develop unhealthy coping habits, such as porn addiction and the like. They may also form online hate groups where they vent their frustration in the form of racism and misogyny.

    None of these habits are healthy. The thing to do is to seek counseling. It will help you to further explore the root cause of your inceldom, as well as your RSD, on a path towards leading a healthier lifestyle. In time, you may even regain the confidence to start dating again.

    Thanks for reading!

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  • A DIY approach to life is non-negotiable. Here’s Why.

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Aug 25, 2024

    Summer is coming to an end, and although the humidity is unbearable, people are still out and about. Taking advantage of the weather by carrying out many home improvement projects while they still have time left. Now is as good a time as ever to talk about the concept of DIY, and why it is non-negotiable for me.

    When I was a teenager, growing up in Jamaica, I was surrounded by overbearing women in the family of my origin. Whenever I attempted to fill out an application at the dentist, they would attempt to emasculate me in public by grabbing the pen out of my hand, and say that I “write too slow.”

    Could it be that the only reason they volunteered to drive my brother and I to the dentist, is to watch how I do things, and then try to treat me as if I am supposed to be inept?

    They never tried that with my brother, but they always did it to me. In fact, they actually tried to pit my brother and I against each other by saying that he is more responsible than I am, despite him being four years my junior.

    My brother and I were very close during childhood. We grew up together. We used to play together. But now, he chose to become more like them. For that reason, we grew apart in adulthood.

    When I later moved to Brooklyn, I realized that my father’s older daughter is the same as my mother and her sisters. Then I remembered that half the teachers at school were more or less the same way. Yet I was the one who always grabbed the toolbox whenever something needed to be repaired. Or when the door got jammed, and someone was trapped inside.

    Well geez, is it any wonder that I only date women who were made in the very opposite of their image and likeness? Who the hell would want a daily reminder of it?

    To make matters worse, I wasted the best two decades of my adult life working for one blasted ingrate after another. They did everything within their power to try and make me feel incompetent. In the end, I had nothing to show for it.

    And so, I made up my mind, you see. I decided that I was going to take on a DIY approach to life. For the benefit of those who don’t know, DIY is an acronym for “Do It Yourself.”

    So from doing my own laundry, to cooking for myself. To stove repairs, to pumping my own gas (I could never live in Jersey), to changing my own oil, to changing a flat tire.

    I take pride in doing it all, and doing it by myself. If anyone tries to undermine my sense of independence, it makes me very angry, and I will physically fight them.

    As such, I spend plenty of spare time on YouTube, doing research and taking notes. I research everything from home improvement, to car reviews, to medical research, to sleep study, to dietary research, to psychological research, etc.

    As a journalist, my homework is always done, but never finished, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. That is because it really is a game changer when you are educating yourself versus going to school, the Ultimate DIY Project.

    Speaking of game changers, it truly is a breath of fresh air to not have to work for people for a living. There were challenges along the path. And yes, there are still challenges, but they are all worth it.

    Self-employment is not easy. You have to be your own accountant, pay the full share of medicare and social security, and file your own taxes. But that is exactly the point.

    You also have to be your own secretary and scheduler. Because managing your time effectively will be your biggest responsibility. Now, that is not to say you cannot ask for help if needed.

    Rare exceptions to the rule would be, if there is an emergency that is too big for you to fix. Or if there is something that you don’t know what to do, and you just don’t have time to learn it on the spot. There is also no problem if you delegate menial, repetitive tasks to Chat GPT.

    In fact, there are actually some things that you are innately good at doing. While there are other things that other people are better at doing than you are. For example; you might be great at changing the brakes, but your wife might have a green thumb that you don’t have. Let your wife beautify your backyard, while you change the brakes on her car. It’s called teamwork.

    Countries understand this fact, and put it into practice. Otherwise, we would not have international trade relations. “Alexander wept, for there were no more worlds to conquer.” It is actually quite normal to delegate responsibilities based on people’s natural talents.

    We were not meant to know everything. We should certainly learn as much as we can. But we also have to leave room for others to discover their own unique talents. That is what makes each person valuable.

    Sometimes when I revise my list of accomplishments, it feels like I am reading someone else’s work. It makes me proud to know that I am capable of producing such a masterpiece, if I do say so myself. Do you know what else makes me proud?

    I am proud of my driving. I am proud of my cooking. I am proud of my laundry and housekeeping as a straight male bachelor, who is often unfairly stereotyped with the expectation of being scruffy. I am proud that I never stole anything from anyone a day in my life.

    I am proud that I have totally taken charge of my health, and my diet. I am proud that I have totally taken charge of my finances. I am proud of my blog, and the things that I write.

    But do you know what I am not proud of? When I completed a project of some kind, only for some jackass to ask me,

    “Oh wow, you made that all by yourself?”

    *awkward silence*

    “It’s good!”

    *shrugs*

    As if to suggest that it would be surprising that I could be capable of producing quality. That sort of thing stays with you long term. It’s kind of hard to believe in yourself when someone keeps on doubting you during your formative years. I could have been way ahead of where I am today, if only they didn’t put any doubt in my head.

    Any positive reinforcement that I had came mostly from myself. So now, I want to do it all by myself. It gives me a greater sense of accomplishment in the end when I don’t accept any help along the way.

    It gets to where, even if I end up dating a debutante heiress at some point, I will tell her not to give me any money, nor to pay off any of my debt. And I will literally break up with her if she cannot respect that. Especially if she knows where I am coming from.