The Buckinchere Transcendence

Tag: Nihilism

  • Exploring the Metrosexual Male

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    May 26, 2024

    The word “male” is even redundant to be honest.

    It is the expectation of society that most western, straight men are macho. It is even worse if you are black, or if you otherwise come from a more “urban” setting. Because then, if you are neither a thug, nor an athlete/rapper, you are considered weird. Some may even go so far as to assume that you are gay. It doesn’t help that you keep your room neat, and that you probably like having nice things.

    As a result of all of the above, what you commonly find is that people who generally fit that profile are often ostracized by the community of their origin. They have even gone so far as to coin a term to refer to you. They call you, the Metrosexual. But what exactly is a metrosexual? Are they using this term out of context?

    A metrosexual, so far as they have described him, is a heterosexual male who enjoys luxuries. He tends to enjoy them noticeably more than that of the average straight man. He is often a well to do male bachelor, who lives rather lavishly in a metropolitan setting, hence the label in question.

    He would much rather entertain the company of beautiful women on any given evening, than to be hanging out with his buddies, watching sports. He is always neat and orderly, with keen attention to detail. A stark contrast to the stereotype of the sloppy, buffoonish straight man. His tastes are opulent, his speech is eloquent, and the way he expresses it is sure not to go unnoticed.

    It seems at first, that the feedback he is receiving from the general public is one of admiration. But it is usually not too long after, that admiration turns to criticism. The people with whom he interacts are often dumbfounded in deciding what to make of him. So they just assume that he is gay. Or that somehow there is just something inherently wrong with him.

    What society may consider a calm and mild-mannered character, may actually be their misunderstanding of the suave and sophisticated mannerisms that the metrosexual in question likes to exude. It’s just that he is usually very selective as to when he chooses to show it. And most importantly, with whom.

    They already have a stereotype in their heads as to how a straight man ought to be. So when they do realize that he is undoubtedly straight, they cannot fully accept this fact. As such, they created the label of a metrosexual, and slapped it on him hoping it would stick. Everyone in society bought it, and went back to living a life of convenience without having to think too much. And the so-called metrosexual in question never had a chance.

    As someone who easily fits the profile of a metrosexual, I am very much offended and disgusted by that label. Whenever they use that term, they are basically suggesting that there is no way one can be fully straight, while being so disciplined and orderly. So then they label you a metrosexual, thinking that it will somehow take something away from you being a heterosexual.

    They don’t really care whether or not you are actually straight. They just want to make sure that you are left feeling misunderstood. Because you failed to meet their expectations of how a straight man should be. The only proof they could possibly have of you being gay, is if they caught you in bed with another man. The rest is nothing more than stereotypes. When in fact, who you really are, is a hedonist.

    Everything that they have used to describe the so-called metrosexual, also describes a hedonist. A hedonist is someone who has fine taste for all things luxurious and pleasurable. Sex is but one form of hedonism, and the hedonist refuses to allow his hedonism to be reduced to only his sexuality.

    Most of his hedonistic indulgences are platonically rooted. Now don’t get me wrong, sex is of the utmost importance to a hedonist. But, he also enjoys traveling, dining, art, wine tasting, long walks on the beach, cozy evenings by the fireplace, etc.

    So for society to label someone as a metrosexual, is to reduce his entire being, and all of his life experiences down to merely his sexuality. If a metro-sexual, why not a metro-social? Why not a metro-socialite? But then again, why metro anything? Sexual or otherwise! Why not just call me a hedonist?

    You see, social labels are created by narcissistic control freaks, who feel it is their place to define you. First, they approach you under the guise of friendship. And it is usually not long after, that you begin to notice that not only are they not interested in any kind of genuine friendship, but that they actually chose to target you for a sado-masochistic relationship. A one-sided exchange where you feel obligated to love the ones you fear. Where they are amused by your humiliation, and how well you can take it.

    They want to reduce you down to nothing more than either your race, gender, or sexual orientation. It is usually something external like that. Their “friends” (henchmen) are only there to help them reinforce the negative labeling and stereotyping of the targeted individual in question. And they had better do it, or else the ring leader will turn on them next.

    They are cowards, because everyone in the gang realizes just how powerless and vulnerable the ring leader actually is. And by all accounts, they should just gang up on the ring leader, until he or she has no choice but to flee. But still, they refuse. Not only that, but they are hypocrites for having a double standard when it comes to choosing which one of the hedonists they are going to target.

    They likely envy hedonists all across the board, but only seem to have enough courage for a hedonist from their side of the tracks. Someone who feels safe and familiar to them. Do you have any idea how much courage it takes to be your true, authentic self in a world full of fakes? But I guess that is what makes them all so despicable.

    Sado-masochism is like captivity for a hedonist. And it is more likely to happen early in life when we are still inexperienced as to who we are, and how much power we actually have over our own lives. If only we knew exactly who we are, we would know that hedonists rule with love. A love for ourselves, a love for the sweet delicacies of life, and a love for those who love us too.

    A sado-masochistic exchange is actually the very opposite of hedonism. It is vile, evil and disgusting. The mere thought that someone who claims that they love you, would actually allow themselves to take you for granted, is reprehensible. No hedonist who actually knows what it means to be a hedonist, would ever allow anyone to treat them that way.

    That is how most people in society are. Females are skeptical of you, and would rather date the thug, or the buffoon over you. Deep down inside, they know the truth. They just don’t want to admit it. Not even to themselves. Either way, it’s their loss. It is truly a pity they won’t get to experience that the hedonistic male is actually the better catch. After all, we do make better lovers.

    We are charming, romantic, and sophisticated. We have exquisite taste for the finer things in life, and will literally spoil the dress off any woman. We are perfect for women who are actually healthy. Our enemies know it, otherwise they would not be working night and day to try and stop us from doing what we want.

    Hedonistic men have an extra responsibility to thoroughly scrutinize the kind of women we allow into our lives. Ghetto girls aren’t meant for us. Regular girls aren’t good for us. We should settle for nothing less than the absolute best. Our hedonistic equals as it were.

    It would also help if you were to change social class. No one in your social circles would have a problem with your hedonism if they are also of a higher caliber. Believe me, it is the only way. Otherwise, prepare to live a reclusive life, long term. But whatever you do, do not allow just about any random person to enter your spiritual aura. They are not worth it.

  • Employees have savings, investors have surplus

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    May 19, 2024

    Have you ever seen an item for sale that you want to purchase? Say for example, a new car? You want it so bad, yet you don’t have the money to pay it off in full, at closing. This is always a very disappointing moment, because of the simple fact that you either cannot have what you want, or you have to wait for it.

    So, you decide to save for it. As soon as you are about to meet your savings goal, an emergency comes up. Usually a medical emergency, or emergency car repairs. At this point, the new car you wanted is no longer a novelty item, and you don’t even want it anymore. This is always frustrating.

    If you want a new car, you have to save for it. If your boss wants a new car, he puts you to work twice as hard. Plus you have to go into the office for half a day, every other Saturday. All while he takes his family out to the ball game you were meaning to see. Some guys just have all the luck. Right?

    WRONG! We are all capable of achieving what we want. The difference lies in our mindset. Do you think your boss is more qualified for his job than you are? He is probably a dumbass who got the hookup from some of his drinking buddies. Either that, or he is a narcissist who kicked innocent people off the corporate ladder on his way up. If she is a woman, she probably fits the trope of a dumb blonde who slept her way up the corporate ladder, and doesn’t have a clue about what she is doing.

    Whatever the case may be, you are probably way more qualified than they are. Yet you are stuck bringing them coffee. You should be working for yourself as an entrepreneur. There are countless opportunities that are available on the internet. But you have to go in there with a clear exit strategy already in place.

    For example, you might consider that you will only work for 2 years, in order to save enough start-up capital. So that for the remainder of your days, you will never feel forced into a position where you are stuck serving a blasted bunch of ingrates. You must then commit your free time towards learning everything you can about your niche. No more mindlessly scrolling through social media first thing in the morning before you have even gotten up to go take a leak. No offense, but we have all been guilty of that at some point, or other.

    As you go along, you will soon discover that you are able to practice several niches. The moment you realize that YOU have more control over your earnings as an entrepreneur than you ever did as an employee, you will instantly quit your job. Do you remember when I said that there is always an emergency whenever you are about to reach your saving goals?

    It is only after you quit your job that you will realize that half those emergencies were created by conditions you experienced on the job. Whether they cut your hours, or transferred you over to a different department. Or they changed your shift, or transferred you over to a different job site, all the way across town that would see you going out of your way.

    Spending more on gas to cover the unnecessary extra miles. Whatever it is, it’s always something, and all those conditions accumulate overtime. If your boss perceives you as a threat, I guarantee you that he is doing it deliberately. And it is only a matter of time before they set you up to be fired.

    As an employee, when you saw something you wanted to purchase, you had to save in order to be able to purchase it. The con is that you have to sacrifice something you enjoy for the greater good of what you want. For example, you may have had fewer happy hour margaritas, so you could save for a new couch. Or a few less pairs of shoes, so you could save for a new car. That is counterproductive for all the reasons I have stated above. Your sacrifice could still pay off. But how likely are you to remain motivated if your goal seems far fetched?

    As an investor, you have already made the sacrifice by risking everything you own, for a dream. All you have to do now is reap what you sow. If you want a car, you can raise the funds for it without sacrificing the things you like. If you explore the features of your banking app, you will discover something they call a “Goal Envelope,” that you can customize to suit a specific goal you have in mind.

    They call it a goal envelope, not a savings envelope. And you can have several of them, different envelopes for different goals. Perhaps they intended for the goal envelope to be funded without compromising the quality of your life, and the things you enjoy. Perhaps it is more efficient to finance your purchase by raising the surplus for it, instead of saving for it. Or god forbid borrowing for it. Especially a big ticket item like a car.

    Employees have savings. And they actually think that their savings make them rich. Just because they are able to make a couple of moves with it. That money is fleeting, and will soon run out unless they invest it in a worthwhile venture.

    Investors have surplus. Or are able to produce surplus without much compromise. With that surplus, they will be able to make real power moves in the world. Moves that employees can only dream of.

    Adieu!

  • Poor people have savings, rich people have investments

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    May 12, 2024

    Poor parents tell their kids to save, and rich parents teach their kids to invest. They actually sit them down, and teach them everything they know about investments. This is actually far more important than the pile of damned rubbish that they teach the poor kids in public schools. Do you wonder why the wealthy always seem to stay ahead in life?

    John D. Rockefeller once famously said, “I want a nation of workers, not a nation of thinkers.” With that said, he sanctioned the writing of a standardized school curriculum for public schools, that promised an education for the children of the working class.

    That system would provide poor children with the chance for a better life than their parents had. But did they receive an education, or did they receive indoctrination? Worse than that, they threatened to incarcerate the parents for child neglect if they did not send their kids to school.

    The indoctrination of working class children was reinforced by the indoctrination of their parents, who themselves were brainwashed. They would often tell them things like; “one foot before the other.” Or they would say; “save and sacrifice for what you want,” or “work hard, slow and steady wins the race.”

    They failed to realize that there are people in the world with machiavellian agendas who will eat you alive with that kind of thinking. And if that wasn’t bad enough, they also used religion as an excuse to call us greedy. Only so they could guilt us out of rising above our conditions.

    It’s as if they had set us up to be an easy target from day one. Why should we work for a blasted bunch of ingrates for most of our youth, only to pay alimony and taxes, then die? Does that sound like it’s fair to you?

    With the advent of the internet, there is hope. We are now able to learn what the wealthy have known for centuries. And practice some of what they do, so that our lives can also be worthwhile. Mark Twain once famously said; “I will not allow my schooling to stand in the way of my education.”

    If your parents did not provide you with the right tools you need in order to get ahead, and the adults in society had failed you. That is indeed very unfortunate, and I empathize with you. But it is now your responsibility as an adult to rectify those mistakes, by unlearning toxic habits, and relearning healthy habits. Not only for yourself, but also for your children. So that you can break the cycle of poverty in your bloodline.

    Poor parents tell their kids to save, rich parents teach their kids to invest. Don’t be a poor parent. Break that cycle, TODAY. The internet is a game changer. And with the advent of AI, it will change the landscape of the workforce, forever.

  • A Case for Space

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    May 5, 2024

    If you like your space, and your privacy much like I do. You generally don’t like when people, especially strangers, take the liberty of inviting themselves into your personal space. It is even worse if they are not smelling too right. But the violation is actually far more egregious than bad breath. If only you knew the power of your aura, you would be very careful who you allow to enter into your personal space, let alone actually touch you. This is a case for space. Personal space, that is.

    Your aura is an energy force field that contains your lifeforce and your essence as a spiritual being, living in the flesh. It transcends your physical vessel, and perhaps even stretches on for at least another six feet away from where you are currently standing. That is why they recommended six feet of social distancing, during the pandemic. It was not a part of some vector control effort, it was all energy manipulation.

    Someone who is vibrating on a lower, or a negative frequency can have a profound effect on your mood for the day. That is because our physical bodies are an antenna that transmits frequencies from the different people with whom we interact. We can pick up on different energies that people carry within their soul, whether or not we are aware of it. Likewise, we can transmit different energies out to other people within our immediate environment.

    Which is why in Jamaica, we have this thing called, “spirit tek.” If one gets a bad feeling about someone they just met, they might say that their spirit doesn’t take that person. “Mi can’t explain it, but mi spirit just no tek him.” It is a mostly archaic reference to having a spirit of discernment.

    This is not something we should ignore, as we must always respect the way we feel about someone, or something. It could definitely save us a lot of trouble, and may even save our lives.

    As a rule, they taught us in school that an arm’s length of distance is sufficient. This idea does not work because we are all made in different sizes. The average adult in the western world has an arm length of about two feet from wrist to shoulder. In reality, three feet of personal space is tolerable depending on the circumstances, say public transportation for example. But ideally, five feet is sufficient. The question is, why do people feel the need to enter your personal space when talking to you?

    There are some who are tone deaf, and as such, may feel that you will have difficulty in hearing them. Likewise, they may feel as though they won’t be able to hear you clearly, unless they get really close. This idea is plausible, because there really are some weirdos who deliberately turn down the volume. Just so that the person they are talking to would feel obligated to stick their neck out to hear what they have to say. Whenever this happens, it is a trick, and the thing to do is to disengage from the person doing the talking.

    As plausible as the tone deaf theory may be, majority of the time, people really only enter your personal space because they are narcissists who feel entitled to violate your boundaries. That’s all there is to it. That is the time to put on your war paint. I know they taught us to undermine the importance of our personal boundaries. But believe me, it is worth fighting for. Our boundaries are literally an extension of our spiritual lifeforce beyond the flesh. And similar to word curses, physical contact can also manipulate your energy through your mood.

    Apart from that, it is really just about having good manners in general. It shows the other person that you care about them enough to respect their boundaries. It also shows that you respect their perception of reality enough, that you don’t want them to get the impression that you are trying to commandeer their life. As uninvited close contact is always perceived as a sign of hostility. This is especially true if they don’t really know you like that.

    Personally, in order for you to legally enter my aura, I must first invite you. And in order for me to invite you, my spirit of discernment must first positively receive your aura. The same is true whether you are a friend, a lover, or business associate. If you are not sure how I feel, then verbally ask me for permission to enter my aura.

    Or you can start with the gesture of a handshake, and see if I accept. But whatever you do, giving yourself permission to enter my aura is the fastest way towards earning yourself a knuckle sandwich. Especially if you sneak up on me from behind. Planes, trains and elevators are rare exceptions. Adeu!

  • Scorn of a woman

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Apr 28, 2024

    There is an old saying; “hell hath no fury quite like the scorn of a woman.” It really is true. But the real question is, what have I done to deserve their scorn?

    While attending high school in Jamaica, I never had much luck talking to girls. They would always give me mixed signals, lead me on, and waste my time. Before ultimately rejecting me over something as shallow and minuscule as my weight, in favor of dating thugs and idiots.

    During my early twenties, I lived in a Brooklyn ghetto, where a majority of people had more or less the same type of mentality, but in a different form. Not long after, I decided that her juice is just not worth the squeeze, and resigned myself to a life of bachelorhood.

    Eventually, I moved to Los Angeles, where I enjoyed a few good years of privacy as a reclusive bachelor. About one year, and a half into my new life, I started to notice that women were staring at me in public. They were not smiling, or being respectful in the way they express interest, like they do with other guys. They would just stand there, staring silently. Some of them actually looked crossed.

    At this point, I was just about turning 30, and didn’t want to waste any more time on false leads. I already developed a complex where I feel like they wouldn’t like me. So, I figured I would save us both the trouble by avoiding contact altogether. But to my surprise, that is when they would approach me. Is it my age, or location? Perhaps a little of both?

    Why are they approaching me now, after I have already made up my mind to avoid contact with any of them? They don’t want you when you are chasing them. But as soon as you either settle down and go steady, or call it quits, that is when they suddenly decide that they want to push themselves onto you. What the hell is wrong with people?

    If only their interest in me was genuine, but I am sure it’s not. Many of them only wanted to lead me on, just so they could shoot me down when I chased them. When I didn’t chase them, they found more subtle ways to reject me regardless. For example, they might fix their hair with their left hand after I have already seen them write with their right hand. They only use their left hand whenever I am around, just to make sure I see the ring.

    Another nasty tactic of theirs would be to act like they are searching for something on their phones. Making sure to come across a picture they took with some guy they want me to assume is their boyfriend. And after my final job in New York dealing with bitchy colleagues, I figured that I just about had it up to here with women. I am not through with them, but I am also not going to chase them, you can be certain of that.

    Those mean tactics really used to get to me in my twenties. But now I cannot help but to laugh at how pathetic they all are. Imagine having to resort to using the allure of platonic conversation, to lure someone who is clearly NOT interested, into a rejection trap. That is how deep it runs with them. Are you able to trust a creature such as this? If she can set you up for unwarranted rejection, she can also set you up to get robbed and shot. I already told you that her poison juice is not worth the squeeze.

    I accept that that’s just the way they are. It would be bad enough if she doesn’t like me, I don’t like her either, and we simply leave it at that. It would be bad enough like I said. And at this point, it would actually be kind of cool to be honest. But do you know what really puzzles me? Why do they stare at someone they neither like, nor respect? Here is my theory.

    Women tend to compartmentalize different men in their heads based on several factors, such as money, status, and physical appearance. Whether or not they know they are compartmentalizing you, that is exactly what they are doing. Now, me personally? I am a large black man. Not only that but, let’s just say that there is more of me to love. Oh yea, one more thing. I am not a stupid ghetto thug out here acting a fool. Those factors alone would make me instantly unattractive to ghetto girls, and worthy only of mockery in their eyes.

    If there is one thing you should know about me, it is that I, B. Lorenzo Buckinchere, do not kowtow to societal expectations. I have my own plans for being alive, and I wasn’t born for this shit. That statement alone would be fighting words, sure to make a lot of enemies. My no-nonsense approach to life is not something I need tattooed to my forehead in order to make it known. People are highly perceptive, and they can pick up on these things. It is written all over my body language, whether, or not I was always aware of it. Not that I intend to change it, because I am not hiding from anybody.

    They have created a social pecking order in their heads, and place you where they think you belong based on looks and financial status. Based on how they perceive me, they expected me to be some kind of a desperate incel, out here simping for female validation. But when she sees that I don’t even notice her, she starts to worry. She worries because I have single-handedly destroyed her ego, along with her delusions, and nothing in her world makes sense anymore.

    She also fears that I, who she looks down on so much, could possibly go out and find another woman who is undoubtedly kinder, prettier and classier than she will ever be. Only to come back and rub it in her face. Worse than that, she is afraid that I could actually settle down, and find happiness with someone special. And that our love will serve as a good example for a happy relationship while she is still stuck in the ghetto with the stupid derelict thug.

    Or worse, as a single mother after her boyfriend is either killed, or sent to prison. She is a narcissistic attention whore who is ruled by the spirit of jezebel. The last thing she wants is for the public to bear witness to the fact that someone she considers as being worthy of nothing but ridicule can actually go out and do better than her. Think of all the other men she ridicules who can be helped by the example of my success story.

    Whether or not I actually have those intentions. Those scenarios with me and another woman, is still a vivid reality in her head. They keep her awake at night, and motivate her to try and drop subtle hints of rejection in my subconscious every time she encounters me. She hopes to assassinate my future chances for happiness by shooting my confidence in the present moment.

    She is further motivated when she realizes that she will; “look like a punk out here in these streets,” if she feels like I dissed her, and she didn’t do anything about it. So then she attacks me to defend her street cred, and also her ego so she can sleep well at night.

    All these things, and God alone knows what else could possibly be running through her head, and all I want is to live a happy and hedonistic existence on my own terms. She can dish it, but she cannot take it. And the very thought of getting rejected herself is unacceptable to her. Sometimes, you just have to let evil people stew in their own miserable juices. Which is exactly what will happen when everything they have planned for you, backfires.

    Thankfully, not all women are like that. I have been very fortunate to have met some truly amazing women these past 20 years, and in some of the most unexpected places at that. They too are outcasts, so they know exactly what it feels like to be ostracized by the world. And we have made a pact that in our world, there will be nothing but love. They help make the duty and obligation that I have to reject evil women far more bearable than it otherwise would have been. They are a beacon of light to the world, and to the future, and they have given me hope.