The Buckinchere Transcendence

Tag: Narcissism

  • The first red flag that someone is nothing but trouble

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Feb 1, 2026

    Have you ever met someone who turned out to be nothing but trouble in the long run? Is it any surprise that they turned out that way? So now you’re probably wondering, “what could I have missed?” The answer is NOTHING! You missed nothing.

    The red flags were always there. You just chose to ignore them. But it’s not entirely your fault. It also helps if you know what you are looking for. So what is the first red flag that someone is nothing but trouble?

    Rudeness.

    Elegant people don’t like rudeness, and uncouth people don’t like elegance. Rudeness shouts, elegance whispers. This is one of the primary motivators for wealth creation.

    If you are sitting at a bar by yourself, and someone approaches you and starts being aggressive with you, demanding that you entertain them and answer all of their intrusive questions. They are rude.

    If someone approaches you and leads with, “appreciate you, big dog.” That is rude because they are literally calling you a dog.

    The problem is that society has normalized rudeness to the point that it sounds like a compliment. This makes it to where you are lowering your standards in order to make them comfortable, instead of forcing them to be respectful if they want your attention. This is why companies hire receptionists and security guards as gatekeepers.

    You can’t just walk into a doctor’s office and be like, “yo big dog? Where my meds be at, bruh?” First of all, they’d probably call the police to escort you out of there, and rightfully so. You are not talking to your friends on the street corner.

    The problem is that uncouth behavior nowadays has become the norm. These creeps are literally EVERYWHERE in society, and their behavior is so normalized, that I am labeled a weirdo if I call this shit out and demand respect.

    People weren’t always good, mind you. But at least if you were out in public, or on TV, you are going to put on your Sunday best. Skirts for the ladies, suits for the gents. Whatever it was, it wasn’t THIS.

    So now you are probably thinking, “those people from back in the day weren’t good people, they were just better at faking it.”

    You call it fake. I call it decency.

    This is not just some new means of social expression. Otherwise respect and decency would not be compromised. It is an epidemic of cowardly blame-shifting coupled with a lack of introspection and accountability.

    And it has become so pervasive within society, that one cannot reasonably expect it to go away anytime soon. But do you know how we can go about resolving it on a personal level, so it doesn’t affect us?

    First of all, true wealth is not about competition and social status, it is about being able to outrun the uncouth. Or better yet, outspend them.

    You see, an eagle has wings and a snake slithers on its belly. So if you are an eagle and you know it, spread your wings and fly above the snake to where it can’t catch you.

    That is what true wealth is all about. Money is like the wings of an eagle. It offers you the option of safety and privacy. So when you use your money to change your zip code versus competing with other normies, you are able to do what the normies cannot by living where they can only dream of. It doesn’t necessarily have to be an affluent neighborhood, just not a trash one.

    And with that, you no longer have to tolerate loud music, and people fighting and smoking cigarettes, littering the streets with cigarette butts, while being aggressive and calling you out your name.

    Normies want to turn all of society into a giant ghetto, and they are doing a damned good job of it. But when one of them wants to come around you acting a fool and thinking they’re cute, instead of being scared and validating their behavior, you actually need to laugh at these clowns for exactly what they are. Don’t feed the trolls, crush their egos instead.

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  • “Power” is not for everyone

    “Power” is not for everyone

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Jul 6, 2025

    Though there are many forms of power, when most people think about power, they really mean control. Not service, nor leadership, nor strength. Just control. Whether mass control through religious dogma, propaganda or financial abuse, or control over one person through abuse and gaslighting, control is what they have in mind when they talk about power.

    However, power within the context as I have described it is not for everyone. Only for those who can effectively handle having that kind of power.

    Let me clarify that power is not inherently bad. Being able to empower yourself with an education, self-esteem and the proper financial literacy is sure to give you an advantage over those who only seek to control you, which is a good thing.

    But anybody who wants power for the sake of power has to be a narcissist. I feel like if one is in a position of leadership, it should be to help and assist other people. However, when dealing with people, human nature takes over, and it won’t be long before greed and corruption seeps in, because power corrupts.

    So most people are in a position of power because they want control for the sake of control, which is the most accurate definition of greed that I can think of. Don’t believe me? Think back to every boss you’ve ever had. Every school principal, every hall monitor or dean of discipline from all of your alma maters. How many of them were there for the benefit of others? How many of them were there for a fair and reciprocal exchange?

    Most mid-level supervisors on these blue collar jobs are nothing more than some insecure, ghetto people who just like being at the forefront of power so they can feel important. This is how they help soothe the deficiencies of humble beginnings, similar to how other people use food binges for the same reason.

    At the same time, however, I think it is worth noting that these same people are also spoiled and entitled. So I empathize with their humble beginnings, but not their sense of entitlement.

    Ideally, positions of authority should be filled with decent people with strong ethical values who actually want to serve others instead of coming with agendas for control and status. Notice I said decent and not nice. More on the difference later.

    But it ties in to what I have been saying as it pertains to the kind of people who should be in positions of authority. For better or worse, power is not meant for nice people. You can be decent and respectful, but you cannot be nice. It reminds me of a meme I once saw on the “Boss Feelings” instagram page where it said, “If you don’t want to be hated, don’t rule the world, sell ice-cream instead.”

    For women in particular, if they are nice girls, not fake-nice but actual nice girls, they either become school teachers or escorts, the two professions you never thought would be mentioned in the same sentence, yet here we are. Other professions include waitresses (polarizing but some are truly nice), pediatric nurses, dental assistants, therapists, social workers, governesses, yacht girls and background models in music videos.

    Then for the gents, ah the gents… You don’t have it quite as easy as the girls, fellas. You literally have to “buss your ass” unless you are a reclusive author who enjoys the privileges of faceless fame. But that’s something that has to come naturally, and sadly, most men don’t have it naturally like that, so they have to hustle.

    Most of them accept blue collar jobs (union or non-union), or they enlist in the military. Many of them turn to a life of crime and end up being incarcerated, or going to an early grave. But some of them end up douchemaxxing their way into undeserved positions of authority, and that is where the greed and corruption begins.

    If the douchebags of the world have power they don’t deserve, then what is ideally needed are strong, intelligent, decent (not nice), men and women with strong ethical values who are neither greedy nor desperate, who understands that they are there to serve others, and who can resist temptation.

    If modern corporations do not have an eye for spotting good leadership talents within its proletariat (they do), then it is up to the brightest and most capable members of the proletariat to pursue other forms of power, not akin to leadership.

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  • What it means to be tone deaf

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Sep 8, 2024

    Some people have a superpower. They are able to see, and hear things about others that most people cannot. It is like they know what you are thinking before you even think it. But how do they know?

    Are they actually highly perceptive, or just plain nosey? In this article, I will be covering the topic of what it means to be tone deaf. As well as some steps you can take in order to overcome it.

    When most people talk about being tone deaf, they are usually referring to someone who sings off key, because they are deaf to musical tones. Less often, they are loosely referring to someone who speaks louder than the general energy of the room.

    Or someone who gets too close when speaking to you because they think that you cannot hear them clearly enough. And sure, that’s a part of it. But that is only one form of tone deafness.

    There are very few people who, when they talk about being tone deaf, they are in fact referring to someone who is unable to pick up on social cues, most notably sarcasm.

    One who is not able to discern social cues is considered tone deaf because they generally do not pay attention to verbal tone, or body language. As such, they may end up getting the wrong impression about a particular person, or situation.

    The best example that I can immediately think of, is from a season 6 episode of “How I Met Your Mother” called “Return of the slutty pumpkin.” In that episode, Katie Holmes guest stars as the titular slutty pumpkin in question, and the object of Ted’s obsession from a season one Halloween episode.

    When Ted finally gets to meet her during the sequel, he is disgusted to learn that she is obnoxiously narcissistic, and full of sarcasm. Their chemistry is way off, a far cry from his expectations.

    And then there is one scene throughout the episode where both Ted and the slutty pumpkin are on an uncomfortable date together. And while cuddling with him on the couch, she questions in her mind, “does he not get sarcasm?” Suggesting that she thinks he is tone deaf.

    The irony of how she perceives him, is that she is the one who is tone deaf. Thinking that she is being cool, not realizing that she is singing off beat, and just being awkward the entire time that they were together.

    Now personally, I am no fan of sarcasm. I think that it is just an excuse to be rude and obnoxious to other people for no reason in particular. Some people are just toxic and negatively charged, and it is best to respect them for what they are, and abandon them.

    But what if you cannot immediately abandon the situation? Whether or not you are sarcastic by nature, your survival depends on being highly perceptive. Because after all, what they said about, “What you don’t know can’t hurt you,” is a lie. What you don’t know can, and will in fact cause deep, long term pain. Perhaps more deliberately so for the simple fact that you truly don’t know.

    It is not just sarcasm that poses a threat for the tone deaf. There is also a very common narcissistic tactic where they decide to target a stranger, and bombard them with a bunch of personal questions.They do this for no other reason except for the simple fact that they get off on the power trip.

    The more private and introverted they figure you are, the more likely they are to make you a target. Because the single greatest violation that anyone could possibly have committed against a private person, is an invasion of privacy.

    This tactic is plausible because there are people who are naturally curious in general. But those people are more friendly, and the narcissist is not. The only way you can immediately discern if someone you just met is on a power trip, can be heard in the subtlety of the tone in which they are using. But how will you hear their tone if you are tone deaf?

    Another tone you might miss, is more visual in nature. Just in case you thought that audible tone was the only kind in existence. Say for example, you are apartment hunting. After much deliberation, you find the one you like at long last.

    Everything else is perfect, but then you notice that the bathroom has a walk-in shower when you were kind of hoping for a bathtub. You don’t think it’s really that big of a deal because everything else is in place.

    Two months into a one year lease, you are unhappy because you are not able to soak in your bathtub with a glass of Merlot after a long day like you really wanted to do. It is not long after that, where you begin to realize it is not just the bathtub. There are also no windows facing west, and you happen to like watching the sun set.

    Then you realize that the paint on the wall doesn’t quite match the color of the drapery set you had in mind. And it is too late to cancel your lease at this point when you should not have signed the bloody thing to begin with.

    The tone of the apartment told you that you would not be happy living there. The tone of something in which you are investing time and money is telling you that you won’t be free to express your true sense of individuality.

    But how do you see the visual tone if you are tone blind? For that reason, you need to learn the subtle cues that someone or something doesn’t serve your best interest.

    Do you know why a tone deaf person doesn’t pay attention to social cues? Because they either don’t know what they are looking for, or they just don’t give a damn.

    If they don’t know what they are looking for, chances are it is because no one ever taught them. Because once you know, it would be impossible to not notice. Even if you don’t care, you won’t be able to help but to notice things by chance.

    The modern world is a noisy one that is full of distractions. From cars, to smartphones to overpopulation, and the ever-increasing lack of privacy. There has never been a time such as this, and subtlety hides in distractions. As a matter of fact, it thrives on it.

    This is why meditation is so important. Because it blocks out the distractions of the world. Most importantly, it blocks out the most impactful of all distractions, the one taking place inside your head. So that you can hear what is really going on around you.

    Before long, you will begin to notice some details about your environment that you were previously unaware of. The irony of your discovery is that those nuances were always there. You just didn’t notice them because you were too distracted by the complexities of modern life.

    If you meditate for one hour a day, everyday for one year, it is only intuitive to expect that after a while, you would no longer be tone deaf. When your head shuts up, your heart starts talking.

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  • Is Satan the ultimate scapegoat for the actions of the wicked?

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Mar 31, 2024

    5 years ago on this day, rapper Nispey Hussle was murdered in Los Angeles on Easter. 5 years later, Easter has fallen on March 31 yet again. And it leaves one to wonder if the killer of Nipsey Hussle, instead of holding himself accountable for his actions, actually made up excuses for his actions by saying that the devil made him do it.

    If so, the killer should have been home eating with his family on Easter, but Easter meant nothing to him the moment he decided to go out into the street and pull the trigger that ended another human life. If Easter meant nothing to him, then neither should the name of Satan as a symbol of evil. Yet he would have probably still had no problem using the name of Satan to say that the devil made him kill someone.

    Whether, or not the killer of Nipsey Hustle actually felt that way, my idea of him, as expressed in the previous 2 paragraphs, is just one example of evil people eluding accountability by blaming their actions on the devil. I think this is more common than just a handful of people.

    Most evil people seek to blame-shift, and project their faults onto others to escape accountability, especially in the eyes of those who they respect. We see this kind of behavior all the time when dealing with narcissists. Thing of it is, what do they do when there is truly no one to blame, lest they risk exposing their lunacy to public scrutiny?

    So then they created a fictional character, gave him the name Satan, and said that the devil made them do it. But did the devil really make them feel feelings of envy? Did the devil really make them want to kill somebody? Did the devil really make them want to railroad an innocent man straight into prison? Or was it their own free will? Devil or not, they wanted to do those things, because they are just plain evil. There is no other reason for their actions. No rhyme or reason.

    But the devil is nothing new. He has been around since the dawn of time. So who created him then? The very early narcissists who had re-written much of the bible to push their hidden agenda for world domination, that’s who.

    They had written the image of God as being this angry, jealous, control freak, especially in the old testament. When in fact, God has been nothing but unconditional love, this whole time. They had also written Satan into the bible to blame for all of humanity’s problems. A lot of which they had brought upon themselves by exercising their own mortal will.

    Eve-vil, had eaten the apple by her own free will, then shared some of it with her husband. And only after her eyes were opened to the nakedness of her own covetous greed, did she finally say, “the devil made me do it.” The tree was a test of the greed of mankind.

    She had everything else in abundance, but that wasn’t good enough for her. So she was willing to forsake everything she had, for the one thing she was told she could not have. She did not care if she screwed the rest of mankind into oblivion because of it. She only cared about herself.

    They were no longer allowed to remain in the garden with their new found knowledge. Because they now had god-like knowledge without god-like powers. So they had to go up to the embassy to file for their visas. So they could fly out from off the island, and go find a job in some overcrowded melting pot within the land of babylon.

    Where they are stuck working the graveyard shift in the middle of a blizzard. And under the scrutiny of a cruel shift supervisor who delights in tormenting them at every turn. All this because the devil made her do it. Men were made to suffer, and women were made to feel the pain. And all because eve-vil did not want to hold herself accountable for her actions.

    To say that the devil made an evil person do evil things to the people they despise is to say that God put me in poverty. When it is in fact my responsibility to go out and find a job. Do you hear how absolutely crazy that sounds? We were each given free will, remember. That free will is exactly the reason why God allows evil things to happen to good people. Because he is not willing to use his divine will, to override our mortal will. The teacher is ALWAYS silent during the test.

    God did not make me poor, and Satan did not make you hate your brother. We both used our free will, and suffered the consequences, whether or not we were aware of what that would be. The difference between me, and an evil person is that I take full responsibility for the part that I played in creating my predicament. And I will do everything within my power to correct those mistakes. May God be my judge.

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