B. Lorenzo Buckinchere
Sep 7, 2025
Preface:
Everybody wants to be loved, but not everybody wants to love. This is due to the fact that when most people think about love, they are only thinking about one kind, erotic love. Due to this confusion, hidden resentment and frustration tends to build under the surface.
Mainly due to the fact that one believes they are only allowed one type of love, and to accept that one type is to reject all the other types. But did you know that there are actually six different types of love? In this week’s article, I will explore each of the six love types and languages.
Storge:
Often used interchangeably with philos, storge is a platonic kind of love. A love of friends and brothers. A love for one’s brethrens and comrades at arms. Though not inherently altruistic, storge is the main form of love that has sustained society throughout the ages.
It has given men something to bond over that is worth defending, be it country, church or a good game of football. When storge is gone, collapse is imminent. Think of the most decadent days of the Roman Empire for example. I recommend that you read my comparison between hedonism and decadence.
Mania:
When they say that there is a thin line between love and hate, this is the kind of love they are referring to. Because true love has a thick line that separates it from hate, a very thick line. But when one feels rejected whether real or perceived and love is not present, they will enter into madness and seek your destruction.
This is NOT love, this is control. While you squander your life away loving someone, they only love hurting you. Stop romanticizing these toxic fairytale ideas of a relationship. You have been warned.
Agape:
An altruistic kind of love, a love for humanity as a collective. Agape requires one to be a bit naive because in order for one to be altruistic towards society as a whole, one would also have to assume that humanity is inherently benevolent. That thought by itself requires one to be somewhat naive, because humans have never been inherently benevolent.
Yes, there are some benevolent qualities that allowed for the building of ships, planes, and for creativity to flourish. But most normies have always been out for themselves since the dawn of time, and will continue doing so until our star turns into a black hole and swallows the earth.
Anyone who practices agape without being affected by the consequence would likely have god-like powers to be able to cover the immediate shortfall. But for the average person, the practice of agape is a huge liability. Being part of a group offers some leverage. But still, there are no guarantees.
Eros:
Erotic love, the love that a man has for a woman and vice versa. This is specifically a love between one man and one woman, otherwise called monogamy. The idea behind eros is that a man should commit to one woman and one woman only for the remainder of his days.
Which is unreasonable to expect because men are inherently polygamous. So when a woman accuses a man of having commitment issues for wanting to date other women, she is saying that he doesn’t have eros, and she is correct. Because what he actually has is…..
Ludus:
The love of playful detachment and non-commitment. The love that a philanderer has for each of his muses. A man who practices ludus may take on many lovers at a time, and may only seek to have fun versus the responsibilities and expectations of eros. Most normies do not like when men do this, and always seek to sabotage him for it.
Perhaps they don’t understand his reasons for choosing to live this way. Ludus is not unethical so long as there are no unspoken expectations, and everyone involved agrees to the terms and conditions of a ludus relationship. In order to understand a man’s motivations for practicing ludus, we would have to explore the sixth love language, which is…..
Philautia:
The love of self and a vested interest in self-preservation. More prominent among men than women, philautia is the interest in ensuring that one avoids anything that will become a burden at some point. This is because men are more self-centered while women are more male centered.
For this reason, men are more ludus oriented than women because then he gets to have his cake and eat it too. Then she gets upset and calls him selfish when his nature commands that he practices ludus or philautia.
Conclusion:
Everyone has a different love language. What’s right for you may not be right for others. But with transparency and effective communication, everyone can get to where they are going. And most importantly, with whom.
So tell me, what is your love language, and who are you most compatible with based on that? Give it some thought, and let me know in the comment section below. Thanks for reading, and I’ll see you on the next one.
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