B. Lorenzo Buckinchere
May 26, 2024
The word āmaleā is even redundant to be honest.
It is the expectation of society that most western, straight men are macho. It is even worse if you are black, or if you otherwise come from a more āurbanā setting. Because then, if you are neither a thug, nor an athlete/rapper, you are considered weird. Some may even go so far as to assume that you are gay. It doesnāt help that you keep your room neat, and that you probably like having nice things.
As a result of all of the above, what you commonly find is that people who generally fit that profile are often ostracized by the community of their origin. They have even gone so far as to coin a term to refer to you. They call you, the Metrosexual. But what exactly is a metrosexual? Are they using this term out of context?
A metrosexual, so far as they have described him, is a heterosexual male who enjoys luxuries. He tends to enjoy them noticeably more than that of the average straight man. He is often a well to do male bachelor, who lives rather lavishly in a metropolitan setting, hence the label in question.
He would much rather entertain the company of beautiful women on any given evening, than to be hanging out with his buddies, watching sports. He is always neat and orderly, with keen attention to detail. A stark contrast to the stereotype of the sloppy, buffoonish straight man. His tastes are opulent, his speech is eloquent, and the way he expresses it is sure not to go unnoticed.
It seems at first, that the feedback he is receiving from the general public is one of admiration. But it is usually not too long after, that admiration turns to criticism. The people with whom he interacts are often dumbfounded in deciding what to make of him. So they just assume that he is gay. Or that somehow there is just something inherently wrong with him.
What society may consider a calm and mild-mannered character, may actually be their misunderstanding of the suave and sophisticated mannerisms that the metrosexual in question likes to exude. Itās just that he is usually very selective as to when he chooses to show it. And most importantly, with whom.
They already have a stereotype in their heads as to how a straight man ought to be. So when they do realize that he is undoubtedly straight, they cannot fully accept this fact. As such, they created the label of a metrosexual, and slapped it on him hoping it would stick. Everyone in society bought it, and went back to living a life of convenience without having to think too much. And the so-called metrosexual in question never had a chance.
As someone who easily fits the profile of a metrosexual, I am very much offended and disgusted by that label. Whenever they use that term, they are basically suggesting that there is no way one can be fully straight, while being so disciplined and orderly. So then they label you a metrosexual, thinking that it will somehow take something away from you being a heterosexual.
They donāt really care whether or not you are actually straight. They just want to make sure that you are left feeling misunderstood. Because you failed to meet their expectations of how a straight man should be. The only proof they could possibly have of you being gay, is if they caught you in bed with another man. The rest is nothing more than stereotypes. When in fact, who you really are, is a hedonist.
Everything that they have used to describe the so-called metrosexual, also describes a hedonist. A hedonist is someone who has fine taste for all things luxurious and pleasurable. Sex is but one form of hedonism, and the hedonist refuses to allow his hedonism to be reduced to only his sexuality.
Most of his hedonistic indulgences are platonically rooted. Now donāt get me wrong, sex is of the utmost importance to a hedonist. But, he also enjoys traveling, dining, art, wine tasting, long walks on the beach, cozy evenings by the fireplace, etc.
So for society to label someone as a metrosexual, is to reduce his entire being, and all of his life experiences down to merely his sexuality. If a metro-sexual, why not a metro-social? Why not a metro-socialite? But then again, why metro anything? Sexual or otherwise! Why not just call me a hedonist?
You see, social labels are created by narcissistic control freaks, who feel it is their place to define you. First, they approach you under the guise of friendship. And it is usually not long after, that you begin to notice that not only are they not interested in any kind of genuine friendship, but that they actually chose to target you for a sado-masochistic relationship. A one-sided exchange where you feel obligated to love the ones you fear. Where they are amused by your humiliation, and how well you can take it.
They want to reduce you down to nothing more than either your race, gender, or sexual orientation. It is usually something external like that. Their āfriendsā (henchmen) are only there to help them reinforce the negative labeling and stereotyping of the targeted individual in question. And they had better do it, or else the ring leader will turn on them next.
They are cowards, because everyone in the gang realizes just how powerless and vulnerable the ring leader actually is. And by all accounts, they should just gang up on the ring leader, until he or she has no choice but to flee. But still, they refuse. Not only that, but they are hypocrites for having a double standard when it comes to choosing which one of the hedonists they are going to target.
They likely envy hedonists all across the board, but only seem to have enough courage for a hedonist from their side of the tracks. Someone who feels safe and familiar to them. Do you have any idea how much courage it takes to be your true, authentic self in a world full of fakes? But I guess that is what makes them all so despicable.
Sado-masochism is like captivity for a hedonist. And it is more likely to happen early in life when we are still inexperienced as to who we are, and how much power we actually have over our own lives. If only we knew exactly who we are, we would know that hedonists rule with love. A love for ourselves, a love for the sweet delicacies of life, and a love for those who love us too.
A sado-masochistic exchange is actually the very opposite of hedonism. It is vile, evil and disgusting. The mere thought that someone who claims that they love you, would actually allow themselves to take you for granted, is reprehensible. No hedonist who actually knows what it means to be a hedonist, would ever allow anyone to treat them that way.
That is how most people in society are. Females are skeptical of you, and would rather date the thug, or the buffoon over you. Deep down inside, they know the truth. They just donāt want to admit it. Not even to themselves. Either way, itās their loss. It is truly a pity they wonāt get to experience that the hedonistic male is actually the better catch. After all, we do make better lovers.
We are charming, romantic, and sophisticated. We have exquisite taste for the finer things in life, and will literally spoil the dress off any woman. We are perfect for women who are actually healthy. Our enemies know it, otherwise they would not be working night and day to try and stop us from doing what we want.
Hedonistic men have an extra responsibility to thoroughly scrutinize the kind of women we allow into our lives. Ghetto girls arenāt meant for us. Regular girls arenāt good for us. We should settle for nothing less than the absolute best. Our hedonistic equals as it were.
It would also help if you were to change social class. No one in your social circles would have a problem with your hedonism if they are also of a higher caliber. Believe me, it is the only way. Otherwise, prepare to live a reclusive life, long term. But whatever you do, do not allow just about any random person to enter your spiritual aura. They are not worth it.