Character is everything. Learning one’s true character helps determine whether or not someone you’ve just met is compatible with you, and more importantly, how. It is pivotally essential to get to know someone’s nature, so as to avoid misunderstandings further down the road.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator consists of sixteen personality types, each of which is determined by comparing one preference to another across eight character qualities, pertaining to life choices, and how one typically makes them.
In this article, I will be comparing the two MBTI personalities who couldn’t be more opposite to each other.
The INFJ is the rarest, and most empathic of the MBTI. They are energized from being in solitude most of the time, as that is where they get their ideas. It is during times of solitude, that the INFJ receives inspiration from his own internal thoughts and imaginations, without the inconvenience of social distractions.
Once solitude is achieved, his intuition naturally kicks in, as that is when his creative juices start flowing. In fact, the precise order in which it usually works is that he taps into his feelings more during solitude, and it puts him back in his right brain that causes an intuitive creative flow.
Once he knows what to do, there is nothing to think about. He makes a snap judgment, often as soon as the following day. Judging is the only analytical trait of the INFJ, but the way in which he does it is a no brainer.
Then we have the ESTJ, the most logical and analytical of the MBTI personalities. Unlike the INFJ who has one analytical trait that adds some balance, the ESTJ has no emotional trait. The ESTJ is good for drafting military strategies, and making business decisions, but that is just about all he is good for.
The trouble with ESTJ types is that they think they can bring that rigidity with them into their interpersonal relationships, and it never ends well for them. INFJ types have a lot of eccentricities about them that the ESTJ will impatiently judge as simply being weird.
In fact, judging is the only MBTI trait they both share, and it happens to be an analytical one at that. The INFJ will judge the ESTJ in his mind, but ultimately won’t care what he does due to his nonchalant nature, unless it affects him directly.
So now, imagine a scenario where the ESTJ is annoyed by some of the INFJ’s eccentricities. Because he is stuck in his left brain, he cannot simply leave well enough alone. He has to somehow try to control what he does not understand, and if he finds that he is unable to control it, he must find a way to destroy it.
The ESTJ is also an extravert, so it doesn’t help that he heavily relies on external validation. It is impossible for the INFJ and the ESTJ to simply sit still in a room, and enjoy each other’s company in silence. The ESTJ will feel awkward about it, and eventually find a way to make some noise, just so the room can feel normal to him, hence why they call them normies.
This could take place in any setting. But for the sake of argument, let’s just assume that the INFJ is in a relationship with the ESTJ. The ESTJ will meet the INFJ for the first time, thinking she knows everything about him, based solely on what she sees, versus using her feelings to actually get to know the INFJ and appreciate where he is coming from. Decides for whatever reason that she doesn’t like him, then decides either to control or destroy him, based on her limited judgment of him.
And because she is an extravert, she cannot simply break up with him and walk away like the INFJ and INTJ are easily capable of doing, she has to fix it somehow. This is dangerous and reckless behavior on the part of the ESTJ. Hence why the ESTJ is a narcissist, and the mortal enemy of all introverted, intuitive types, especially the INFJ.
Imagine being the woman in the relationship, yet your boyfriend is more intuned with his right brain than you are. Her linear thinking, coupled with the irrationality that is an inherent trait of her gender would only further add to her solipsism.
Opposites may attract initially, but they do not sustain in the long run. ESTJ types should stick to their own kind, or at least other extraverts. The INFJ should definitely stick to other introverts, most notably the INTJ.
You can’t help who you meet at work, but you do have control over who you allow into your personal life. This is something to put into practice for your interpersonal relationships.
Over the past three weeks, I have explored the sixteen Myers-Briggs personality types, particularly within the context of employment compatibility. However, Myers-Briggs can also be applied to other aspects of social life, such as friendships, dating and business.
In this article, I will be exploring the idiosyncrasies of each personality type, and how they might relate to one another. Because being aware of this and knowing how to apply it in real world situations is sure to allow for smoother interactions in all areas of life.
There are eight character traits within Myers Briggs, four analytical, and four emotional. They are as follows;
Left Brain Right Brain
Extravert Introvert
Sensing iNtuitive
Thinking Feeling
Judging Perceiving
Some Myers Briggs types strictly lean to one side or another, while others have a mixture of both quotients to varying degrees.
The way to know what personality type you are, as well as the personality type of anyone you are interacting with is to answer four questions that are as follows;
Who are you based on what energizes you? (a) Self validating (Introvert) (b) Seeking validation from others (Extravert)
Where do you get your ideas? (a) My imagination (iNtuitive) (b) The world around me (Sensing)
How do you decide what to do with your ideas? (a) With what I think (Thinking) (b) How I feel (Feeling)
How do you act upon your ideas? (a) Things must go according to plan (Judging) (b) I am more flexible to changes and prospects (Perceiving)
Keep these four questions in mind as we explore each type throughout the rest of the article.
Introverts:
Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging (INTJ)
The INTJ is an introvert who gets his ideas from his imagination, decides with what he thinks, then acts upon it by making a swift judgment. Though an introvert who gains ideas through his intuition, he is still analytical when it comes to executing his ideas, the opposite of the ESFP whose analytics lean more towards social contact (see number 11).
The combination of being introverted and intuitive, suggests that he values his solitude, and spends much of his alone time in deep thought. So then when it’s time to execute his ideas, he wastes no time in making snap judgments.
Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving (INTP)
The INTP is an introvert who gets his ideas from his imagination, and makes decisions based on what he thinks. But unlike the INTJ, he is more flexible to changes when it comes to deciding. He is more reserved in that regard, and that makes him a procrastinator.
But procrastinating has its benefits, especially if the outcome will be final, as there is room to make adjustments should the INTP change his mind. The procrastination of the INTP would likely piss off the more impatient judging types, especially those who have already spent a lot of time in thought.
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving (INFP)
The INFP is an introvert who is inspired by their own imagination, decides what to do based on how it makes them feel, but tends to be more flexible when it is time to act.
The INFP is only one of two types where all four of his traits are aligned to one side or another. In his case, the INFP is entirely right brain dominant, relying solely on his emotional quotient. Unlike the ESTJ, who is the polar opposite (see number 10).
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging (INFJ)
The INFJ is an introvert who is inspired by his own imagination and decides what to do based on how it makes him feel much like the INFP before him.
But unlike the INFP, the INFJ makes swift and aggressive judgements once his mind is made up, much to the shock of others around him who were expecting him to be entirely illogical.
This makes the INFJ the single rarest of the sixteen Myers-Briggs types, which often causes the INFJ to come into conflict with those with ulterior motives who thought it was easy to manipulate him.
The INFJ is the most idealistic type, and therefore the most creative. The INFJ is more likely to thrive from working in professions where he is free to express his creativity.
Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving (ISTP)
The ISTP is an introvert who is inspired by the world around him, decides what to do based on what he thinks, but is open to change and prospects. One might rate the ISTP as being one of the more analytical of the introverts, yet they have trouble making up their minds.
As such, the ISTP tends to procrastinate when it comes down to them making decisions on how to advance with their plans. This can be frustrating for others around them, as they tend to become impatient with the ISTP once they realize that he is not quite as analytical as they thought.
Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging (ISTJ)
The ISTJ is the most analytical of all the introverts. He gets his ideas from sensing the world around him, decides what to do based on what he thinks, acts by making rigid plans, and is unyielding in his convictions. In spite of all that, the ISTJ still values his solitude, as that is when he thinks and decides based on what he senses within his environment.
Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving (ISFP)
The ISFP is an introvert who gets inspired by sensing what is going on in the world around him, decides based on how it makes him feel, but is indecisive when it comes to acting upon what he has decided. His sensing trait adds analytical balance to his otherwise emotional personality.
Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (ISFJ)
The ISFJ is an introvert who gets his ideas from being able to sense the world around him, decides what to do with it based on the way it makes him feel, then acts upon it with knowledge and intent. The feeling aspect of his character adds a sensitive touch to his general demeanor.
Extraverts:
Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving (ESTP)
An ESTP is the polar opposite of the INFJ. This is due to the fact that he is an extravert who gets his ideas from the world around him and decides what to do with his ideas based on what he thinks. But his shortfall is that he hesitates when it comes to acting upon his ideas. He is more open to changing his plans versus the INFJ who makes snap decisions and sticks to them. That one trait of being perceiving over judging makes him slightly less analytical.
Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging (ESTJ)
The only other MBTI type next to the INFP who is entirely aligned to one side or another, the left brain in this case. The ESTJ is an extravert who gets his ideas from sensing the world around him, decides what to do based on what he thinks, and acts upon his decisions by judging.
Due to being left brain dominant, the ESTJ is the most analytical of the Myers Briggs types, therefore the most controlling. It’s good to be analytical, especially in leadership roles, but excessive logic can work against you. As such, the ESTJ is the quintessential narcissist of the lot, and the mortal enemy of the INFJ (more on that later). They are rigid, and everything must go their way. It’s either their way or the highway, and they take this mindset with them into personal relationships. Because they are extraverts, they also tend to seek external validation.
On the other hand, they also tend to get things done, which is actually a good thing. Though they can be useful at times, one should tread carefully when dealing with an ESTJ. I could have said that the ESTJ should find balance in life, but instead I will say that the ESTJ should seek out other ESTJ types where they can happily thrive among themselves.
Extravert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving (ESFP)
The ESFP is an extravert who gets his ideas from being able to sense the world around him, decides what to do based on how he feels, and acts upon them based on perceiving and being open to change.
He is only half analytical and half emotional, the extraverted opposite of the INTJ, which adds some balance to the mix.
Extravert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (ESFJ)
The ESFJ is an extravert who gets his ideas from sensing the world around him, decides what to do with them based on how they make him feel, then acts upon them by making a firm judgment. He is mostly analytical, but the feeling trait adds a healthy balance of emotional quotient to his character profile.
Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving (ENTP)
The ENTP may be an extravert, but still finds time to be intuitive when it comes to getting ideas. He decides what to do with his ideas based on what he thinks, but is more perceiving when it is time to act.
The ENTP is more balanced because he possesses two analytical traits, and two emotional ones, which makes him a bit more reasonable even though he is left brain dominant.
Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging (ENTJ)
The ENTJ is left brain dominant, with intuition being the only emotional trait. As analytical as he may be, getting ideas from within, versus the world around him, adds a nice balance that makes him more human.
Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving (ENFP)
The ENFP is right brain dominant, with extraversion being the only left brain trait within his character profile. Being an extravert adds a bit of balance to his otherwise emotional quotient that makes him more relatable.
Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging (ENFJ)
And finally, we have the ENFJ. An extravert who has equal balance between intellectual and emotional traits. This makes him more relatable to wider groups of people. Even though he is internally motivated, one can rely on him to make snap decisions due to his judging trait.
Submitted for your approval, the new hire at a company. As soon as you arrive on the scene, it seems as though everyone at the job site is already familiar with you? Worse than that, it seems like they were expecting you all along. But how did they know your name if you were never formally introduced? In just a moment, you will read about a specific hiring practice that is far more common than you would expect. Yet more bizarre than the weirdest episode of The Twilight Zone.
It seems at first, that you are the teacher’s pet. Popular beyond word, and an instant hit at the job site, you find that your new colleagues naturally gravitate towards you. More than what is considered normal for someone they barely met. It seems like they are accepting you into established cliques. But why you?
This phase is called, The Charm. It is typically short-lived, and it usually isn’t long before you begin to notice that they really don’t like you that much. Every move you make, on and off the job is heavily scrutinized.
Your workload is disproportionately larger than everybody else’s. And your undying loyalty to everybody else in the company is expected, often at the detriment of your personal ambitions.
Before long, it is undeniably obvious that they really don’t like you at all. But what could have possibly changed? “What did I do?” Nothing. You didn’t do anything to warrant that kind of ill treatment. But if you challenge the status quo in any shape or form, it won’t be long before they find a reason to fire you.
What you perhaps haven’t considered, is that they all knew how it would end, right from the moment they first hired you. This is especially true if they have different client sites across town. They then wage a war of attrition by sending you to work at a client site far out of your way.
Say for example, 25 miles away by bus. It is even better for them if they know you catch the bus to work. Because then, they can be certain that you will be late more often than not.
As soon as you get there, they want to put you to work the graveyard shift. A huge inconvenience, as doing so goes in direct opposition to your circadian rhythm. Not only that, but they also want to single you out to do overtime, disproportionately more than that of your fellow employees. This cuts into your personal time, as if they haven’t already hijacked one half of your waking hours for the day as it is, now they want more.
Then they tell you that you will be paid time and a half for working overtime. This is gaslighting because that extra pay will only go towards paying bills and taxes. Perhaps it would go towards purchasing an extra meal that you wouldn’t need if you went home when you were scheduled to go.
You now find that working for them has cost you more in the long run, than if you didn’t need a job. But hey, what’s the deal? I thought the whole point of having a job was to make money. That is not the way they see it. They don’t want you getting rich off them.
Their whole agenda is to get rich off you. They are just using you until they decide that they are done with you. Then you will be left worse off than when you first started. Everybody is in on it, and it is entirely by design. But why were you of all people singled out for exploitation?
Do you remember taking a personality test when you were being hired? That test is called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). This test indicates what kind of personality you have, based on the way you think. They ask you a series of questions that seem irrelevant for your job description. But perfect for their agenda.
Typical Meyers-Briggs questions would include, “Do you prefer action thrillers, or psychological thrillers?” “Do you leave things up to chance, or see it through to the end?” “What is your favorite candy?” “Are you a Tootie Fruity?” And a very common one is, “What would you bring to the company potluck?”
People tend to answer those questions unwittingly, because they seem so harmless on the surface. Plus they also seem like a lighthearted distraction from the nervous energy that most people feel while on job interviews. It helps to put them at ease.
It is truly a pity they don’t realize the sinister motive behind those questions. They don’t seem to realize that corporations tend to reword the Myers-Briggs questions, then mix them in with other questions so as to be more subtle with it. But Myers-Briggs or not, applicants do have a right to ask the interviewer, “What is the purpose of asking me those questions?”
I have always stated that there are only three different kinds of people on earth; sadists, masochists, and hedonists. Sadists gain power and pleasure from inflicting pain, while masochists gain pleasure from receiving pain. Only the hedonist gains pleasure from both giving and receiving pleasure, therefore the most reciprocal of the group.
MBTI seems to suggest that there are sixteen personality types. I am of the view that each of the sixteen Myers-Briggs types fall under one of my three archetypes. Of the sixteen Myers-Briggs types, the INFJ is the rarest.
INFJ stands for Introverted iNtuitive Feeling and Judging. All that simply means is that you judge people, places and things based on the way they make you feel. And because you are an introvert, you do so internally by using your imagination.
Because you tend to process things internally, most people are intimidated by your silence. This is due to the fact that they don’t really know what to make of you. It’s just that they will never freely admit it.
So it’s either they will lazily and nonchalantly write you off as being weird and awkward, or they will do things deliberately to provoke you, hoping it would somehow make you show them who you really are. The same is true in all social settings, not just employment wise.
If you are an INFJ type, the company you are about to work for will find that out by having you complete the Myers-Briggs Indicator. Once they know who you are, it’s game on. They will move other employees around, just so they could make room to put you at a disadvantage. They will send other employees to befriend you with ulterior motives. They will spy on you, and test you without mercy. For no other reason than the simple fact that you are an INFJ.
Most companies are toxic, and tend to target INFJ types. It is possible that each company is incentivized by some higher power to antagonize the INFJ. They feel as though the INFJ’s only place in this world is to be everybody else’s slave. So their goal would then be to steal the INFJ’s place on the throne, and drive him into bankruptcy, homelessness, mental disease and substance abuse.
Or it could just be that the INFJ is generally hated by everyone for reasons that said people could not even begin to explain? Can you imagine being so cruel and sadistic, that you would knowingly send an introvert to work in a zoo as noisy as a mall or an airport terminal? Why not a quiet warehouse or a parking lot?
If MBTI was intended to create an easier path towards personality compatibility, then why are they subverting and perverting it for their own sick agendas?
For the INFJ, freedom is a priority, and it is often regarded as being more important than money. Now don’t get me wrong, money is also important, but it should never come at the expense of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. For that reason, the INFJ should never be caught dead working for another person. The INFJ should always strive to work for themselves.
The road to entrepreneurship can be quite the arduous one, as one may not yield short term dividends. But short term sacrifice for long term gain is a worthy sacrifice. You should never change your character to please anyone. But you will always be a target for the other types, especially extraverts, unless you rethink your list of priorities.
As INFJs we tend to be intuitively smart, so we will just have to figure it out. Finding an INFJ support group, and attending INFJ retreats across the world, is a really great place to start, and a great way to meet other people like yourself, who have had similar life experiences.
In the complex sphere of human diversity, there is a need for smoother and more fulfilling interaction. Everyone has navigated the social scene at some point or other in hopes of meeting someone of like mind. But doing so can be quite the daunting task, as not everyone is sincere.
However, personality compatibility is necessary to allow for a more seamless existence. That is where the Myers-Briggs Personality assessment comes into play.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) was developed by American writer Isabel Briggs Myers, along with the help of her mother, Katharine Cook Briggs, during the second world war. It was later adapted into a personality test by the Educational Testing Service (ETS), who published it in 1962.
The MBTI is based on Carl Jung’s “Dictionary of Analytical Psychology,” where he discussed his theory on psychological types and individual preferences.
MBTI determines an individual’s personality type, based on a dichotomy between four different psychological processes and responses, that includes the following.
Introvert vs. Extravert
iNtuitive vs. Sensing
Thinking vs. Feeling
Judging vs. Perceiving
Whenever one mixes and matches each of the four dichotomies, it results in a total of sixteen Myers Briggs types.
Introverts:
Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging (INTJ)
Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving (INTP)
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving (INFP)
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging (INFJ)
Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving (ISTP)
Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging (ISTJ)
Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving (ISFP)
Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (ISFJ)
Extraverts:
Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving (ESTP)
Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging (ESTJ)
Extravert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving (ESFP)
Extravert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (ESFJ)
Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving (ENTP)
Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging (ENTJ)
Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving (ENFP)
Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging (ENFJ)
Everyone has found themselves perpetuating both ends of the dichotomy at some point or other, but the type in which you are more dominant is determined by how you answer each of the following four questions:
Who are you based on what energizes you?
(a) Self validating
(b) Seeking validation from others
Where do you get your ideas?
(a) My imagination
(b) The world around me
How do you decide what to do with your ideas?
(a) With what I think
(b) How I feel
How do you act upon your ideas?
(a) Things must go according to plan
(b) I am more flexible to changes and prospects
If you prefer self validation over external social validation, you are an introvert. If you get your ideas from your imagination versus the world around you, you are intuitive.
If you decide what to do based on how you feel, rather than what you think, you are feeling. And if you are rigid with your plans, you are judging. That would make you an INFJ, the rarest of the Myers-Briggs types.
INFJs are the empaths of the personalities, thus more prone to being targeted by predators. Introverts in general should carefully consider with whom they would rather share their limited social energy, but INFJs particularly have an extra responsibility to guard their energy, and save it only for themselves or those who are willing to reciprocate.
The MBTI was a marvelous invention, and can be used to determine compatibility in platonic, romantic and professional situations. However, it is not foolproof, as there are those who have been known to use the MBTI to abuse those who are unsuspecting.
Join me again next week, as I discuss a very common abusive hiring practice.
In the realm of self-made men, there are some who have claimed the black pill as their preferred ideology. Or perhaps the black pill claimed them. Then there are those who truly believe that they are black pilled. But how could that be if all they do is complain about women?
There is a specific group of men calling themselves incels, short for involuntary celibate. An incel is a straight male who believes that he is unable to get laid. In response to feeling defeated in life, incels have taken to social media to vent their frustration about their predicament.
They have joined several online support groups. In the midst of panic, many incels have turned to the black pill, hoping to find solace. They are more than welcome to join. But if all they want to do is complain about women all day, then they have misunderstood the true meaning of being black pilled.
The black pill is believed to be built on the premise of nihilism. Inspired by the works of Camus and Schopenhauer, the black pill is intended to shine a light on the absurdity of life. But to be nihilistic is to be hopeless and to give in to despair. Is nihilism the best mindset for the black pill? Is that how you want to live? Hopeless?
The black pill is a path towards total freedom. Nihilism seems to be the very opposite of how one should want to live. In fact, if you practice nihilism as a part of your black pill journey, you will not live at all. Life would pass you by, and you wouldn’t truly have lived.
I understand that the way the world is, and the way people are would make you not want to care anymore, and rightfully so. You are well within your rights to not care. But you are going about it the wrong way. To be nihilistic is to be hopeless about one’s own conditions, but to be nonchalant is to not care about anyone or anything going on around you.
It is one thing to experience existential nihilism or societal nihilism, but personal nihilism is self-defeating. It is not wise to be neglectful of your own well-being as some forms of nihilism might suggest.
There are too many young men claiming to be black pilled, who are taking their own lives in the name of nihilism. Those men are considered Doomers, an extreme branch of the black pill.
The black pill is not meant for everyone, as it is a very intense journey, and a very lonely one at that. If you want to know the truth about this world, you must be prepared to pay a very steep price for it. Not everyone can handle that truth. And once you go black, you can never go back.
So first, you must make up your mind as to whether the black pill is how you truly want to live. And tread very carefully. The path of the black pill can get really dark at times. Yet it is so rewarding and liberating in the long run. Nihilism is not the most effective way to enlighten your path on the black pill journey, as it will only further darken it.
It is when you are truly nonchalant about life that your path will be enlightened. That precious moment when you realize that you truly do not give a damn what anyone thinks or says is when you have reached a dangerously awesome level of freedom.
It will be a truly satisfying and liberating feeling. It will feel as though a huge burden has been lifted off your shoulders. That is the day you will truly live life on your own terms. A master of your own domain.
I must warn you however that being nonchalant is not something that can be faked. It’s either you care, or you don’t. But if you try to be nonchalant when you know you still care, you will only drive yourself mad. Stoicism is pretending not to care, and nonchalance is not caring at all. Confusing the two can be quite tragic.
Nonchalance comes naturally for me, right down to my molecular structure. Not everyone can do what I can, so be honest with yourself. For me, it was nature and nurture. Something that I practiced until I became better at it overtime. It was more challenging to remain nonchalant when I was young and blue pilled.
But the more black pilled I became, the easier it was for me to be nonchalant. If you are black pilled and you think you have the potential to be nonchalant, my advice is to embrace that side of you and practice to become more perfectly nonchalant.
When you are nonchalant, you are pessimistic about society, yet optimistic about your own life. You know that the whole world went to hell in a handbasket. But it does not make a difference to you, or how you choose to live.
If people are fake, do not entertain them. If women are shallow, treat them as you would a rabid dog. If sex is important to you, find a way to get laid without approaching strange women. If employers are dishonest, build your own company right across the street from them, and steal all of their longtime customers right under their nose.
Whatever you do, do not give energy to anything that doesn’t serve you. The world only seems to notice you when you become nonchalant. Do not be deceived. They are only interested in you for their own selfish gain, which further proves how shallow they really are.
At that point, you are well within your rights to tell them to go fuck themselves. If the thought of telling people to go fuck themselves somehow rubs you the wrong way, you are NOT nonchalant. The ultimate test. If you are not nonchalant, the black pill is truly not meant for you.
Many people have varying ideas about sexual immorality, from incest to polygyny to homosexuality. For some reason, hedonism often gets a bad rap, but that is only part of the broader issue.
It gets to the point where society would much rather label hedonistic straight men as metrosexuals, simply because they are not used to seeing straight men having good taste for the finer things in life.
Anything you are doing that they do not like will be mislabeled as sexual immorality. For that reason, the concept of sexual immorality has become so skewed by definition, that it has lost its original meaning. Here in this article, I will be putting sexual immorality back into its proper context.
Sexual immorality is defined as a sexual act that offends someone else. How do you sexually offend someone in a way that is valid? By forcing them to do something against their will. What kind of individuals are likely to get forced into a sex act against their will?
A woman being raped by a man who is able to physically overpower her. A minor being molested by an adult. An animal being raped by a human. Or an intoxicated person who is not fully in charge of their mental faculties at the moment.
As you can see, every sexual offense involves a power dynamic that allows for the more vulnerable party to be violated. In order for a crime to be committed, three conditions must be met. There must be motive, ability and opportunity.
Ability and opportunity might both be present, but if there is no motive, no crime will be committed. How does one become a victim if the would-be offender is not remotely interested in sexually engaging them to begin with?
And so therefore, they have no business getting offended by you doing something that does not involve them in the least. As a matter of fact, they are sticking their nose where it doesn’t belong because they were not even supposed to know what you are doing.
Two homosexual men having sex with each other is not immoral so long as they are mutually consenting adults. This is coming from a homophobic Jamaican. I may be offended by the sight of them holding hands in public. But I also respect their human rights to be who they are, and love who they love.
Two blood relatives are free to commit acts of incest. So long as they are mutually consenting adults in the privacy of their home, and they have made up their minds that that is what they both want to do. As much as how the mere thought of incest makes me cringe, it would be rather hypocritical of me to only respect the consent of two gay lovers, but not the consent of kissing cousins.
The 40 year old incel who made up his mind that he is finally going to pay an escort to lose his virginity is not committing a mortal sin by fornicating. As a matter of fact, fornication is a made up word that the church uses to shame and guilt people who are more sexually liberated.
They do so by telling them that they are going to burn in hell for eternity, just for simply getting it on. Imagine that! Burning in hell alongside scammers, rapists and murderers for all eternity, just because you decided to go out and get laid.
The polygynist who has multiple wives and concubines is not committing a sin by not committing his entire life to one woman only. His polygyny is merely the result of a different point of view. The story of creation should be unique and diverse. Imagine how boring life would be if everyone was the same.
The hedonistic male suitor who has decided to play the field is not committing a sin by refusing to go steady. Marriage and kids are a huge responsibility. It takes a special level of patience to be a husband and father. So it is definitely not meant for everyone. Imagine how mundane life would be waking up next to the same woman, everyday for the next 50 years.
Watching her age more and more with each passing day. Finding it hard to maintain the same level of attraction you once had for her as she gains weight and begins acting out her insecurities in ways that are both toxic and immature. Wondering if you made the right decision by going steady.
Quit stressing over it. It is perfectly ok to play the field so long as you are honest about your intentions right from the jump. Whatever you do, do not lead people on, or intentionally break their hearts. Do unto others!
Perhaps controlling individuals believe that those acts are immoral because they are not able to exploit them for their own selfish gain. If anything, it is the controlling party who are immoral for trying to stand in the way of you doing what you want. Afterall, sexual repression is a form of sex abuse, especially when there is a spiritual factor involved.
Even if they don’t like what you are doing, it is not their place to stop you, so long as you are not violating others. That would be them trying to play god over your life. Which makes them an enemy of your privacy, and an enemy of free will.
The examples of sexual immorality that I have mentioned so far are entirely related to consent, or rather, the lack of it. Well sexual repression is also related to consent, because one typically does not consent to being sexually repressed.
Nor do they consent to being ruled by those who are external to their experience. That is something that they are being forced to accept against their will. So when controlling individuals are imposing their moral standards upon you unsolicitedly, they are sexually violating you. Which in turn makes them sexually immoral.
It’s ironic how when you point one finger outwards, there are always three more pointing right back at you. Not only that, but they are hypocrites because they have some skeletons in their closet (often literally), that will make your so-called sins look like a Sunday stroll by comparison.
All of them have their own personal issues that they need to address. Yet all they seem able to focus on is what you do in the privacy of your bedroom? What the hell is wrong with people?
We need to start taking them to court for harassment. They need to know that there are consequences for their actions. Especially when it is becoming an obsession.
No one has the right to deprive you of peace of mind. Some of them are really ignorant, and narrow-minded. But perhaps with a little education, they will see the error of their ways before it is too late.
