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  • A post-modern take on Maslow’s Hierarchy

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Feb 9, 2025

    As a human being, one will experience different needs at different times of life. It is a part of being alive, and you will have these needs as long as you remain living. There are different needs that will arise at different times of your life, based on your current story arc. Some needs are more basic than others, such as food, warmth and water. The more basic the need, the more likely it is to be repetitive.

    Of all the philosophers to explore the nuances of the human condition, none has come close to breaking down the hierarchy of needs quite like Abraham Maslow, an American psychologist of Russian-jewish heritage who lived between 1908 and 1970.

    Maslow first proposed the hierarchy of needs in his 1943 paper, “A Theory on Human Motivation,” where he listed a five tier structure containing a group of human needs in ascending order, suggesting that the fulfillment of one need would motivate an individual to tackle the following need on the chain.

    Maslow’s hierarchy is controversial, and contains some inconsistencies. Due to its hierarchical structure, many are of the few that the order of each need must remain intact, as one is not able, or should not be able to skip levels. But in spite of its imperfections, Maslow’s hierarchy is nonetheless the most frequently referenced hierarchy as it pertains to human growth and motivation.

    On the first tier, there are physiological needs, which include; breathing, food, water, warmth, clothing and sex. On the second tier, there are safety needs, such as; money, housing and transportation. On the third tier, there are social needs, such as; family, friends, sexual intimacy and a sense of community belonging.

    On the fourth tier, there are needs of esteem, such as graduating from college, releasing an album, publishing a book, or getting married. Then there is the fifth tier on the hierarchy, a need for self-actualization.

    Maslow may have structured his hierarchy with the best intentions in mind, however, there are some inconsistencies relating to the order of achievement. For example, except for breathing, one typically doesn’t expect for physiological fulfillment to be freely given unless one is a child, or disabled.

    Even with adult disabilities, one would have to be lucky enough to live in a country with a good welfare program, or else be left for dead. However, that is the exception. For the most part, you need a job in order to buy food. But in order to gain employment and maintain it, one needs to be liked and accepted by the group, or else they will either be used and discarded, or flat out rejected right off the bat.

    Social acceptance comes from level three on the hierarchy, so therefore, based on that reason alone, it seems as though one should gain social acceptance first in order to survive.

    Social acceptance is usually rooted in childhood connections that would have otherwise lasted a lifetime. But what if you constantly relocated throughout your childhood? Or what if you are just socially awkward? What if you are just an introvert?

    Centuries ago, or in fact, even as recent as the 1980s, you would be left for dead without social support. Conformity is primordially ingrained deep within our collective subconscious, that is why all normies would rather conform to society than embrace their true nature.

    Luckily today, with the advent of the internet, you can literally create something that adds value to the lives of others, and pay someone who is naturally more socially outgoing to market it for you. If you find that you are naturally an introvert, I recommend becoming an author and enjoying the benefits of faceless fame, the best of both worlds.

    However, creating something that adds esteem is found at level four of the hierarchy. One may choose to approach the hierarchy based on one’s own tastes and interests.

    For example, an extravert seeking employment may prioritize social conformity, even to the detriment of morality, while an introvert may choose to prioritize esteem. Another cause for concern is being able to secure food with no safe place to leave it, or no transport to even procure it.

    So here is my revised version of Maslow’s hierarchy as it relates to modern life. Particularly as it relates to eccentric introverts, because my blog is not for normies.

    First of all, make safety a priority. Once you are safe, do some soul searching with the intent of discovering your niche. This requires long, lonely periods of isolation from the world. My advice to set you up on the right path for rediscovering your niche is to remember what you loved to do when you were 18.

    It also helps if you keep in mind that you will naturally be good at whatever it is that you enjoy doing. That niche will provide esteem while also providing for all of your physiological and safety needs.

    Once you have rediscovered your niche and you are dedicated to your purpose, you will find that the right social support naturally forms around you. Others with whom you share a common interest will naturally gravitate towards you as they too become inspired.

    So once again to recap, safety first, then esteem, then physical needs, then social support. Self-actualization can only be achieved by becoming exceptionally good at performing your niche, the very best. And that can only be achieved through many decades of consistently showing up and honing your craft.

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  • The INFJ/ESTJ Dichotomy

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Oct 27, 2024

    Character is everything. Learning one’s true character helps determine whether or not someone you’ve just met is compatible with you, and more importantly, how. It is pivotally essential to get to know someone’s nature, so as to avoid misunderstandings further down the road.

    The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator consists of sixteen personality types, each of which is determined by comparing one preference to another across eight character qualities, pertaining to life choices, and how one typically makes them.

    In this article, I will be comparing the two MBTI personalities who couldn’t be more opposite to each other.

    The INFJ is the rarest, and most empathic of the MBTI. They are energized from being in solitude most of the time, as that is where they get their ideas. It is during times of solitude, that the INFJ receives inspiration from his own internal thoughts and imaginations, without the inconvenience of social distractions.

    Once solitude is achieved, his intuition naturally kicks in, as that is when his creative juices start flowing. In fact, the precise order in which it usually works is that he taps into his feelings more during solitude, and it puts him back in his right brain that causes an intuitive creative flow.

    Once he knows what to do, there is nothing to think about. He makes a snap judgment, often as soon as the following day. Judging is the only analytical trait of the INFJ, but the way in which he does it is a no brainer.

    Then we have the ESTJ, the most logical and analytical of the MBTI personalities. Unlike the INFJ who has one analytical trait that adds some balance, the ESTJ has no emotional trait. The ESTJ is good for drafting military strategies, and making business decisions, but that is just about all he is good for.

    The trouble with ESTJ types is that they think they can bring that rigidity with them into their interpersonal relationships, and it never ends well for them. INFJ types have a lot of eccentricities about them that the ESTJ will impatiently judge as simply being weird.

    In fact, judging is the only MBTI trait they both share, and it happens to be an analytical one at that. The INFJ will judge the ESTJ in his mind, but ultimately won’t care what he does due to his nonchalant nature, unless it affects him directly.

    So now, imagine a scenario where the ESTJ is annoyed by some of the INFJ’s eccentricities. Because he is stuck in his left brain, he cannot simply leave well enough alone. He has to somehow try to control what he does not understand, and if he finds that he is unable to control it, he must find a way to destroy it.

    The ESTJ is also an extravert, so it doesn’t help that he heavily relies on external validation. It is impossible for the INFJ and the ESTJ to simply sit still in a room, and enjoy each other’s company in silence. The ESTJ will feel awkward about it, and eventually find a way to make some noise, just so the room can feel normal to him, hence why they call them normies.

    This could take place in any setting. But for the sake of argument, let’s just assume that the INFJ is in a relationship with the ESTJ. The ESTJ will meet the INFJ for the first time, thinking she knows everything about him, based solely on what she sees, versus using her feelings to actually get to know the INFJ and appreciate where he is coming from. Decides for whatever reason that she doesn’t like him, then decides either to control or destroy him, based on her limited judgment of him.

    And because she is an extravert, she cannot simply break up with him and walk away like the INFJ and INTJ are easily capable of doing, she has to fix it somehow. This is dangerous and reckless behavior on the part of the ESTJ. Hence why the ESTJ is a narcissist, and the mortal enemy of all introverted, intuitive types, especially the INFJ.

    Imagine being the woman in the relationship, yet your boyfriend is more intuned with his right brain than you are. Her linear thinking, coupled with the irrationality that is an inherent trait of her gender would only further add to her solipsism.

    Opposites may attract initially, but they do not sustain in the long run. ESTJ types should stick to their own kind, or at least other extraverts. The INFJ should definitely stick to other introverts, most notably the INTJ.

    You can’t help who you meet at work, but you do have control over who you allow into your personal life. This is something to put into practice for your interpersonal relationships.

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  • Abusive hiring, and the company fall guy

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Sep 29, 2024

    Submitted for your approval, the new hire at a company. As soon as you arrive on the scene, it seems as though everyone at the job site is already familiar with you? Worse than that, it seems like they were expecting you all along. But how did they know your name if you were never formally introduced? In just a moment, you will read about a specific hiring practice that is far more common than you would expect. Yet more bizarre than the weirdest episode of The Twilight Zone.

    It seems at first, that you are the teacher’s pet. Popular beyond word, and an instant hit at the job site, you find that your new colleagues naturally gravitate towards you. More than what is considered normal for someone they barely met. It seems like they are accepting you into established cliques. But why you?

    This phase is called, The Charm. It is typically short-lived, and it usually isn’t long before you begin to notice that they really don’t like you that much. Every move you make, on and off the job is heavily scrutinized.

    Your workload is disproportionately larger than everybody else’s. And your undying loyalty to everybody else in the company is expected, often at the detriment of your personal ambitions.

    Before long, it is undeniably obvious that they really don’t like you at all. But what could have possibly changed? “What did I do?” Nothing. You didn’t do anything to warrant that kind of ill treatment. But if you challenge the status quo in any shape or form, it won’t be long before they find a reason to fire you.

    What you perhaps haven’t considered, is that they all knew how it would end, right from the moment they first hired you. This is especially true if they have different client sites across town. They then wage a war of attrition by sending you to work at a client site far out of your way.

    Say for example, 25 miles away by bus. It is even better for them if they know you catch the bus to work. Because then, they can be certain that you will be late more often than not.

    As soon as you get there, they want to put you to work the graveyard shift. A huge inconvenience, as doing so goes in direct opposition to your circadian rhythm. Not only that, but they also want to single you out to do overtime, disproportionately more than that of your fellow employees. This cuts into your personal time, as if they haven’t already hijacked one half of your waking hours for the day as it is, now they want more.

    Then they tell you that you will be paid time and a half for working overtime. This is gaslighting because that extra pay will only go towards paying bills and taxes. Perhaps it would go towards purchasing an extra meal that you wouldn’t need if you went home when you were scheduled to go.

    You now find that working for them has cost you more in the long run, than if you didn’t need a job. But hey, what’s the deal? I thought the whole point of having a job was to make money. That is not the way they see it. They don’t want you getting rich off them.

    Their whole agenda is to get rich off you. They are just using you until they decide that they are done with you. Then you will be left worse off than when you first started. Everybody is in on it, and it is entirely by design. But why were you of all people singled out for exploitation?

    Do you remember taking a personality test when you were being hired? That test is called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). This test indicates what kind of personality you have, based on the way you think. They ask you a series of questions that seem irrelevant for your job description. But perfect for their agenda.

    Typical Meyers-Briggs questions would include, “Do you prefer action thrillers, or psychological thrillers?” “Do you leave things up to chance, or see it through to the end?” “What is your favorite candy?” “Are you a Tootie Fruity?” And a very common one is, “What would you bring to the company potluck?”

    People tend to answer those questions unwittingly, because they seem so harmless on the surface. Plus they also seem like a lighthearted distraction from the nervous energy that most people feel while on job interviews. It helps to put them at ease.

    It is truly a pity they don’t realize the sinister motive behind those questions. They don’t seem to realize that corporations tend to reword the Myers-Briggs questions, then mix them in with other questions so as to be more subtle with it. But Myers-Briggs or not, applicants do have a right to ask the interviewer, “What is the purpose of asking me those questions?”

    I have always stated that there are only three different kinds of people on earth; sadists, masochists, and hedonists. Sadists gain power and pleasure from inflicting pain, while masochists gain pleasure from receiving pain. Only the hedonist gains pleasure from both giving and receiving pleasure, therefore the most reciprocal of the group.

    MBTI seems to suggest that there are sixteen personality types. I am of the view that each of the sixteen Myers-Briggs types fall under one of my three archetypes. Of the sixteen Myers-Briggs types, the INFJ is the rarest.

    INFJ stands for Introverted iNtuitive Feeling and Judging. All that simply means is that you judge people, places and things based on the way they make you feel. And because you are an introvert, you do so internally by using your imagination.

    Because you tend to process things internally, most people are intimidated by your silence. This is due to the fact that they don’t really know what to make of you. It’s just that they will never freely admit it.

    So it’s either they will lazily and nonchalantly write you off as being weird and awkward, or they will do things deliberately to provoke you, hoping it would somehow make you show them who you really are. The same is true in all social settings, not just employment wise.

    If you are an INFJ type, the company you are about to work for will find that out by having you complete the Myers-Briggs Indicator. Once they know who you are, it’s game on. They will move other employees around, just so they could make room to put you at a disadvantage. They will send other employees to befriend you with ulterior motives. They will spy on you, and test you without mercy. For no other reason than the simple fact that you are an INFJ.

    Most companies are toxic, and tend to target INFJ types. It is possible that each company is incentivized by some higher power to antagonize the INFJ. They feel as though the INFJ’s only place in this world is to be everybody else’s slave. So their goal would then be to steal the INFJ’s place on the throne, and drive him into bankruptcy, homelessness, mental disease and substance abuse.

    Or it could just be that the INFJ is generally hated by everyone for reasons that said people could not even begin to explain? Can you imagine being so cruel and sadistic, that you would knowingly send an introvert to work in a zoo as noisy as a mall or an airport terminal? Why not a quiet warehouse or a parking lot?

    If MBTI was intended to create an easier path towards personality compatibility, then why are they subverting and perverting it for their own sick agendas?

    For the INFJ, freedom is a priority, and it is often regarded as being more important than money. Now don’t get me wrong, money is also important, but it should never come at the expense of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. For that reason, the INFJ should never be caught dead working for another person. The INFJ should always strive to work for themselves.

    The road to entrepreneurship can be quite the arduous one, as one may not yield short term dividends. But short term sacrifice for long term gain is a worthy sacrifice. You should never change your character to please anyone. But you will always be a target for the other types, especially extraverts, unless you rethink your list of priorities.

    As INFJs we tend to be intuitively smart, so we will just have to figure it out. Finding an INFJ support group, and attending INFJ retreats across the world, is a really great place to start, and a great way to meet other people like yourself, who have had similar life experiences.

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