Tag: Career Strategies

  • Your colleagues are NOT your friends

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    B. Lorenzo Buckinchere

    Jan 7, 2024

    Exactly one year ago on this day, I was fired from my promising job, at an airport near San Diego. I stood up for the sake of truth, and what I believed in, by exposing the rotten pigs who were trying to railroad me. And although I wasn’t expecting it, it would be nice to have the support of my colleagues. Perhaps the very colleagues who were constantly complaining to me about management every Saturday night in my car as I was dropping them off from work. But to my lack of surprise, you could almost hear a pin drop while I was being railroaded, and sure enough, one year later, where are they now? Just like that, a familiar feeling has washed over me, and I thought to myself, “here we go again!” The question is, why do I keep missing the red flags, and what red flags did I miss this time?

    The first answer is actually quite simple. I keep missing the red flags because the red flags keep changing, which means that they must have been studying me behind my back to see how much I know, and what kind of game they can run. Each Psy-Op is conducted on a case by case basis. It also helps if my ex-colleagues are involved in gang-stalking, and there is some kind of pre-existing file on me that they were able to access. Why else would it seem like they already knew who I was when I was just meeting them for the first time? Technology has made gang-stalking easier! Never forget where we live, or when we live.

    Although details may change on a case by case basis, the one red flag that never changes is that colleagues (usually females) tried befriending me much too quickly. Real friendships are based on trust, and often take years to build. So if you feel like the friendship is moving too fast, especially at work, you are not the one in charge of the friendship. They are taking you for a ride, and a pretty wild one at that. No friendship should ever feel forced, or controlled. That’s really toxic, and should trigger off loud, blaring red flags in your head.

    Another red flag is if you notice an imbalance in the gender with whom you find yourself interacting more often. In my case, I was a man having more contact with females than males. Out of context, it may sound like I have just won the lottery. But remember that you are supposed to be having balanced interactions with everyone when you are at work, and always keep it professional. At one point, there were so many female colleagues, that they almost drowned out my potential to interact with male colleagues, and only so I could give them rides in my car and listen to their problems.

    I am not saying that you can’t have female friends, but not at work, and not when it’s just that many of them. That is usually a red flag that they are all part of a clique, and that they formed their clique first before deciding to befriend you. Before I knew it, they all started approaching me, one after the other without me realizing that it was more, or less the same type of girls. That’s someone trying to commandeer your life as a group.

    My ex-colleagues even helped the female manager who tried to railroad me, by inviting me to a baby shower at the last minute, and then lied that they invited me earlier. Only to help the manager spy on me by proxy, after I was already fired. It would never cross my mind to do that to anyone, but to them, it came naturally. If you like having female friends, that’s on you, but as far as I’m concerned, women make really shitty friends. They can’t even stand each other for pete’s sake! How could I expect them to be a good friend towards me? Anyway, bottom line! You need your male homies. A woman’s only place is in my bed.

    Heterosexual members of opposite genders generally don’t make very good platonic friends in any case. Even if there is no sexual tension on one part, there is bound to be sexual tension on the part of the other, which can be a very lonely experience. And even if there is no sexual tension on the part of either of them, the man is still somewhat susceptible to feminine charm, which makes it easier for her to manipulate him. The best, and brightest of men have fallen prey to the charm of the woman.

    Examples of such men would include Samson, Ahab, and King David. Your male colleagues are by no means innocent in any of this. Men can be the biggest simps when it comes to females, and will generally just support whatever she wants, at your expense. What usually happens is that everyone at the job agrees to target the one whom they feel is the safest option, and doubles down on their onslaught when their intended target fights back.

    You probably woke up to go to work with the intention of being nice to everyone. To reciprocate the friendship of anyone who befriended you, whom you also liked. But as the saying goes, “The road to HELL is paved with good intentions.” Most of your colleagues on the other hand woke up with the intention of doing whatever it takes to get ahead in the world. To kowtow to the boss, and support whatever narrative they push, however false it is. To get what they want by befriending any unsuspecting colleague. To gang-stalk, and railroad anyone they feel is a safe target (or a threat), and still expect to get treated like a good, upstanding human being, by the very people they have targeted.

    In short, your colleagues are NOT your friends. They are your competition, and they will do whatever it takes to provide food for themselves and their children. Even while they are smiling in your face, they have not lost sight of the fact that they still see you as the competition. They are hoping they can convince you otherwise, but they themselves will never forget.

    They are watching you, and waiting for the moment you make a mistake, so they can report you, get you fired, and take your share. Zero for you, double for them. They can sleep well at night so long as they can convince themselves that they did it for their kids, and that you somehow deserve what you got. This is by definition, a rat race. And who else do you expect to find in a rat race, if not a bunch of rat bastards?

    I am not saying to go to work, and be anti-social. All I am saying is to keep it amicable, but stay alert, remain impartial, and ultimately plan your exit strategy from day one. For example, you might say something to the effect of, “I’m only going to work here for 2 years to save my start-up capital so I don’t have to work for such a blasted bunch of ingrates anymore.”

    If you happen to make friends on the job, it probably won’t happen in the short term. True work friendships usually begin after you have both left the job, as hindsight is 20/20, and the best measure of loyalty. If you were able to survive the entire tenure without trying to back-stab each other, you probably would not realize that until after the end of your tenure.

    Ultimately, try to find friends outside of work. Even if you are new in town, like I was when I first started that job, get out of the house more often. Go out to your local bars and taverns during your free time. You never know who you could meet. You can finally bask in the sharing of experiences with others of similar walk, without the looming threat of rat race competition.

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