Employment is an essential resource that provides self-sufficiency and sustainability for individuals and families. People rely on jobs to keep the lights on and the refrigerator full.
They commute anywhere from 10 to 30 miles a day to punch their time into a time clock, and shuffle paper behind a desk for eight hours a day, just to maintain a sense of independence as a responsible adult.
The majority of the population within any given country have survived off working a 9 to5 job for over a century. But now, there seems to be a paradigm shift that definitely threatens the labor force as we know it.
The 9 to 5 grind, otherwise called employment, otherwise called indentured servitude, became more organized towards the turn of the 20th century. The 19th century would see the drafting of the 13th amendment under the presidency of Abraham Lincoln, that would abolish slavery for African Americans, and replace it with indentured servitude.
Under this system, immigrants, former slaves, poor whites and children alike were each paid a stipend to perform grueling physical labor. Only convicted felons were legally enslaved on American soil post abolition, a practice that continues through until this very day. Indentured servants worked anywhere from sixteen to twenty hours a day, under inhumane conditions.
This was really early in the game, and there were no laws at the time to protect employee rights and wages, so indentured servants were paid unfair and unlivable stipends. Many of them died due to overwork, dehydration and heat exhaustion.
Then came the 20th century, and with it came a paradigm shift from an agricultural economy to an industrial one. In this new economy, the forty hour work week was introduced, and so were minimum wage laws.
Child labor was outlawed, and it became mandatory for parents to send their children to school. Otherwise, they would be jailed for child neglect. Public schools were established for the children of the working class, paid for by their own property taxes.
John D. Rockefeller once famously said that he wanted a nation of workers, and not a nation of thinkers. Many have assumed this to mean that the children of the working class were receiving a different kind of education from that of the wealthy.
While the children of the wealthy are being privately homeschooled by a governess, who is teaching them how to invest and retain their wealth intergenerationally, the children of the working class are being forced into an indoctrination encampment where obedience and servitude is thoroughly ingrained in them, and they are exposed to a lot of bad influences from their peers.
This ensures that the cycle of poverty continues, and that the current working class will produce a working class for future generations. Only now, another paradigm shift has already begun, one that will forever change the landscape of the workforce as we know it.
With the advent of AI, tedious, repetitive tasks are delegated to the likes of Google Gemini and Chat GPT. This is especially true in manufacturing, construction and tech fields. All those jobs will be gone by 2040.
Thirty years from now, the 2020’s will be remembered as the era of the AI revolution, and it couldn’t have happened at a more convenient time. As more and more people are waking up to the ills of “Glorified Slavery,” they are turning to various forms of creativity for self-fulfillment as well as sustenance.
This would have otherwise reduced the numbers within the workforce drastically, except those numbers might have been cut regardless, as employees are made redundant in favor of AI.
As least now, former employees should have something to fall back on when the AI revolution runs its natural course. The path ahead will be a coarse one. This is due to the fact that although I believe everyone was born with natural talents, not everyone will get the memo in a timely manner.
Not only that, but there will be a lot of untapped potential that would take some soul searching, and that could take time. In the meantime, there will still be oligarchal expectations of societal consumerism, and if sales numbers should dwindle more than expected, there will be a push for people to work online so they can regain some income to spend.
It will be up to each individual to figure it out for his/herself, and decide if working online is something they want to do in the long term. Apart from that, most postmodern jobs will be in tech, whether as software programmers, or hardware engineers, but that’s only about five percent of the population.
If you are neither working online, nor indulging your own creative pursuits, you will likely fall through the cracks of society, and become a bum on the street. You will be lucky if you can find a commune who is willing to take you in.
That future status quo is not something far-fetched that might not happen for another hundred years, it’s right around the corner, and could possibly happen as soon as the end of the decade.
This is my final WordPress article for 2024. I will be going off on a two month hiatus, and will return at the beginning of February with all new articles and short stories for your reading pleasure.
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There are only three main types of people on earth. Sadists, masochists, and hedonists. The rat race consists of all three to varying degrees. These are their roles.
First of all, what is the rat race? “It is the fight for scarce benefits and spoils carried on by hostile tribes, who seem to be perpetually at war.” Who said those words? Pigs run the rat race, and rats run in the race.
John D. Rockefeller once famously said that he wanted a nation of workers, and not a nation of thinkers. That means that if a majority of the public were to think more objectively, they would figure out how to be truly fulfilled without needing a job. That would then cause a labor shortage which would be bad for business.
So Rockefeller sanctioned the foundation of the public education system as we now understand it, paid for courtesy of your property taxes. The public education system was designed to teach people what to think, and what to want, vs how to think.
While the children of the wealthy were privately tutored by their governess, and taught how to invest, the children of the working class were indoctrinated to want things they cannot easily afford, and to work for someone else just to be able to afford it. And all just so they could compete with the people they despise, while trying to impress the people who despise them.
They are given credit cards, and encouraged to apply for mortgages and auto loans with interest rates that would see them paying for the item at twice its cash value. First, they give you a mortgage to buy a house.
Then on that house, they charge you a property tax that they then use to fund your public schools where they plan on indoctrinating the next generation of taxpayers, and the cycle continues.
That is a very evil thing to do, and it makes you feel sorry for the working class. You almost want to feel sorry for them, without the proper context, that is. Because as we say in Jamaica, “If you feel sorry for a ‘mawga dawg’ (skinny dog), he will turn around and bite you.”
For many years, I participated in the rat race, and by participating, I thought I was a part of the group. In every instance, I was befriended by my colleagues, they all made me feel accepted.
I thought we shared common interests, and were able to resonate with each other, so I never suspected a thing. Instead, I was met with the nightmarish reality of being constantly gangstalked, and railroaded out of one job after another.
First, they would befriend me, then try to get close to me in order to spy on me. Then it wasn’t long before the inevitable happened. No, they didn’t ghost me. I wish they did. They betrayed my trust, and turned on me like the rats that they all are.
This went on for 18 years, and I could not understand why. I thought they were racist (some of them probably were) until I realized that it was mostly my fellow immigrants within the melting pots of America who were doing this to me.
This is having more to do with competition than it is having to do with racism. It was then that I finally realized why they call it the rat race. What could I possibly expect to find in the rat race, if not a bunch of hoodrats?
Your colleagues are not your friends, they are your competition. This is not limited only to the employees at your immediate job, but also your neighbors, bartender, grocer, cafe barista, your son’s teacher, and the girl who works at the Verizon store.
It includes random commuters on the subway who you will never see again, and even the very “missed connection” you saw at the mall the other day who you were hoping you would eventually end up dating, you poor schmuck.
Someone who is preoccupied with using people to get ahead is not thinking about dating you, nor being your friend. Respect this truth, or the delusion will disrespect you.
This is most unfortunate, because my thought process is that if the system is so evil, wouldn’t we all be richer for banding together to resist the powers that be? That is the most natural solution that anyone would arrive at when faced with such a dilemma.
In reality, most people only want to make easy money without having to think too much, and I become the enemy for upsetting the apple cart by thinking too much.
The rat race is filled with broken, insecure people who like their dysfunction, and want to keep it that way. That way, they are able to make excuses, and get away with carrying out acts of degeneracy. The public will just laugh it off as, “lol, she crazzzzeee!”
They would actually feel safer around the crazy, degenerate type, than the strong, silent type. They will often cut their eye at him and suck their teeth like, “he just weird!” Anyone who is that broken and insecure will always seek control over other people so they can feel more important than they really are.
They know they are powerless in the world, and they need an enemy so they can live out some kind of hero complex. If no one wants to be their enemy, they will create one. Often, it is the strong, silent type who is going his own way.
This makes them very angry, as it is a total loss of control, and you are not validating their ego, nor their fake friendship. You just don’t care. In this case, they will double down and twice as much make you their enemy, because now they want revenge for you not validating their fantasies.
You would have never chosen this for yourself. You were targeted by a narcissistic cult for a machiavellian agenda in their delusional little world. You are NOT their enemy, they are YOURS.
That is their choice because they could have fought alongside you, against the common enemy of the working class, but that requires sacrifice, and all they want is a false sense of power, and an easy buck.
So they instead chose to make you their enemy because they figured you are an easy target, and you can’t easily retaliate, nor escape their clutches. This is not just one, nor is it a handful of hoodrats who feel this way. It is literally EVERYBODY.
That is the rule, not the exception. So the way I figure it, the working class is quite content with the way things are. They get fake social validation. They get to eat, drink and fuck themselves into oblivion, and they can sleep good at nights knowing fully well that they are stepping over the graves of men like me. They are not dying of starvation, and they are NOT the victims in any of this. They are the main perpetrators.
Even if the oligarchy had an agenda, they would not be able to effectuate that agenda without the consent of the public. Especially now with the advent of the internet when everyone should know better.
The people may be willful participants, but they are not sheep. Sheep don’t know any better, hoodrats do, and are ok with it so long as they have one target who the public can all agree is their common enemy.
Thing of it is, why do the working class hate me so much? I recently realized that it is because I remind them of the wealthy elites they envy so much. But how could that be? I am a minimalist who keep to myself.
It is because my mannerisms are different from theirs. Because I don’t think with a ghetto mentality, and I carry myself with more dignity and self-respect. And in their stupid little insecure minds, that reminds them of the wealthy, and they think that I am showing off and being an “Uncle Tom.”
So now, because they have easier access to me, than they have to the wealthy, they have decided to make me their target. The fact that they all saw this, and didn’t tell me lets you know the kind of rat bastards I have been dealing with this whole time.
In fact, they told us as kids to stay in school, and get a job to stay out of trouble. And that was exactly what I did, but that’s also where I met all of my enemies. The place where I was supposed to be safer.
This is what you get when you aim for low-hanging fruit, because I truly did not belong on any of those jobs, when what I should have done was to become self-employed right from the jump.
The only thing that was stopping me at the time was an accurate working knowledge of rat race competition, or the lack thereof. And the lack of a clear sense of direction.
Now that I know what I know, make no mistake, I have no sympathy for the hoodrats. They deserve to stay trapped in the very rat race they love so much. Oh, wait! What’s that you say? It’s no longer fun being in the rat race because I left?
Sucks to be you! You had many chances to join me in building wealth and power in the world, but you would rather work against me. The long and short of it is that the rat race is a game of divide and conquer.
The elites use propaganda through church, school, and media influences to mold the general mindset of each culture. Before you know it, they have the working-class fighting amongst themselves.
This is due to the fact that they used the media to spread the idea that immigrants are coming over here to steal their jobs. Then there is the race among immigrants pertaining to who is more Americanized, or who came over here first, or who can change their accent the best.
Divide and conquer may have been an agenda of the elites, but it was the working-class hoodrats who were willful participants. The people I once believed to be my peers led me to believe that the oligarchs and the politicians are my enemies, and there is definitely some truth to that.
But they are not the ones who are gangstalking me, and looking to sabotage my life at every turn, so they are NOT an immediate threat to me. The government needs me to gain income in order to tax it, and the oligarchs need me to have income in order to spend it with them. That leaves only one class of people who could possibly benefit from sabotaging me.
That class consists of the most dangerous enemies as they are the ones I encounter on the daily, so they have easier access to get to me. Does that mean that I will join forces with the elites? No, I will form my own power circles without becoming involved with one side, or the other.
The complaints of the working-class are of no concern to me. Only crazy people continuously support the very people they are complaining about. It is the responsibility of the working-class to rise above their conditions. I am NOT their hero. I don’t have wings on my back.
Why should I sacrifice myself for a blasted bunch of ingrates when I might not even get to enjoy the fruits of my own victory? And just like that, the system will continue to thrive, indefinitely. Accepting reality for what it is, it is now for me to figure out how I am going to let the system work for me.
Do you remember when I said that there are only three types of people on earth? Sadists, masochists, and hedonists? Well, one might believe that the bankers, politicians and the media are sadists in their undying lust for power, the working class are hedonists for “turning up” every weekend.
And that I am a masochistic glutton for punishment for upholding truth despite the hefty price to pay for doing so. Just because I won’t sell out my ideals to join the herd doesn’t mean that I am a masochist.
In reality, the politicians are sadists, because they love power over pleasure. The working-class are sadists, masquerading as masochists, because they love power over pleasure, and they also get some of their power from playing the victim. I am one of very few people on earth who are truly hedonistic, because I love pleasure over power.
Of course these statements are over-generalized, but you get the picture. The people who love power, loves to victimize the people who love pleasure. That is because what better measure of power is there than to strip away the pleasure of a hedonist, and watch as he is forced into serving a masochistic role outside of his control.
Hence why they are sadists. You see, once you learn to think evil like them, they really are not that hard to figure out. The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
The good news is that no hedonist is going to sit there and let a sadistic bully torture them long term. For the hedonist, self-preservation is paramount. Hedonism is not just about the love of pleasure, but also the love of self.
The hedonist will always pursue pleasure, but if the pleasure comes with pain, then the hedonist will undoubtedly decide that the pleasure is not worth the pain, and peacefully move on to something else.
Forgive me if it seems like I am all over the place, but this is a complex topic. Thanks for reading.
On Tuesday, November 5, 2024, history was made when the American people went to the polls. Donald J. Trump made history as the first former president to be elected president for a second non-consecutive term in office, effectively making him the 45th and the 47th president of the United States.
Not only that, but Trump also made history as the first impeached president to be elected to office, and one with pending felony charges at that. The U.S. presidency is no stranger to scandals. From the 1972 Watergate scandal under the Nixon administration, to the 1998 Monica Lewinsky scandal under the Clinton administration, scandals seem to be the White House’s middle name.
But never has there been the scandal of an impeached former president who is elected to office with pending felony charges, yet it happened two days ago at the time of me penning the initial draft of this article. What does that say about the popularity of Trump’s political opponent?
It was a close race, as Harris wasn’t that far behind Trump. With her receiving 47% of the votes, it was almost a stalemate. Even then, it wasn’t enough. Trump won the popular vote as well as the electoral votes.
Speaking of the electoral college, the GOP regained control of the senate, and they already had control of the House of Representatives from the 2022 midterm race, so Trump will have smooth sailing passing any bill he wants without opposition, all the odds are tipped in his favor.
All this is good for Trump and other wealthy Americans, but what does that mean for the average working-class American? They still have to work and pay bills. They still have to keep food on the table and send their children to school.
They voted for one presidential candidate or another, hoping for change, and they honestly believe that one of those candidates will actually improve their lot in life. Pity they fail to realize that they are two wings on the same damned bird.
It’s still the same system, but with two different faces. What would Harris have done differently that Trump wouldn’t have done, or vice versa? They are ultimately in it for themselves.
One of the primary reasons why “woke” people still vote despite knowing all this to be true is because their preferred candidate supports their political ideology, while the other candidate opposes it.
People who want to work a job indefinitely, or permanently live off free government handouts generally tend to vote democrat, while those who are more entrepreneurially inclined tend to vote republican, and rightfully so.
Because historically, left-winged candidates tend to promise to create more jobs and fund more social services, while right-winged candidates tend to support businesses. That’s why under Trump’s “America First” policy, he promises to bring all the manufacturing jobs back home from China. That is the selling point of his campaign, and one of the main reasons he was re-elected.
People with small businesses would jump at the sound of that, while large corporations who actually profit from outsourcing American jobs would weep, hence why they say that Trump is anti-establishment.
That’s why they came up with those trumped-up (pun intended) felony charges about him paying hush money to the porn star Stormy Daniels, to bar him from seeking re-election, and it didn’t work even though he was found guilty.
Trump was undoubtedly saved by his connections and his billions, because we all know that if it was “Jack the plumber,” they would’ve already buried him under the jailhouse. I think Trump will probably give himself a presidential pardon after he resumes office, but in the meantime, they will not rest until he is sentenced to serve time in prison, or at the very least, impeached for a third time.
If you really think that Biden or Harris are the ones in charge, then you deserve to suffer the consequences of whatever you believe. She is nothing more than a stupid figurehead whom they installed as the face of the socialist left, and only because they know she is easy to control.
It’s the people behind her who are pulling all the strings. A small group of men who have managed to infiltrate the American system through various international connections, and will be referred to throughout this article as The Oligarchs. They are not interested in money, they already have enough of it.
They are inherently authoritarian in their approach, all they want is power. They want to run the show, to be the movers and shakers of society, and above all else, they want to decide who becomes a success, and who remains a failure.
The reason why they are oligarchs is precisely because they are of the rigid and draconian belief that only a select few people within society should become successful.
They have double standards and they play favoritism. Only those who pander to their agenda will be rewarded for it, everybody else is expected to serve their lot in life, but that should never be within a democracy such as this.
This is not Europe where you are either born a serf or a noble, and therefore doomed to your lot based on what family you are born into, or how much land they own. Nor is this badmind Jamaica where even down to your own relatives will shame and sabotage you just for being eccentric, and having the potential to improve your lot.
This is the land of opportunity, a place where dreams become a reality, and everybody wants to come here so badly, some even going so far as to risk their lives by climbing over the Mexican border fence just to improve their lot in life.
A place where despite all its troubles, it is still the best place on earth to live. Because only in America is it possible for you to have a couple thousands saved up in the bank today, be living under a damned bridge by tomorrow, yet become a billionaire by the end of next year (it’s not easy but it’s very possible).
And so, no one has the right to decide what your lot should be, except you. If they don’t like you, tell them to go fuck themselves. Any bird brain who is pompous enough to think that it’s their choice to dictate how your life should turn out is an enemy of freedom, and by default an enemy of America.
If you have natural talent, use it to pull yourself out of a rut, or do some soul searching to figure out what that talent could possibly be, because your dream of making it big in your chosen field is more likely to be possible in America than any place else on the planet.
When you vote left, you vote, not for Biden, Harris, or any other figurehead they install to distract you, but rather, for the oligarchs, and their authoritarian socialist agenda that is rooted in senseless greed and envy. The more likely you are to vote republican, the more likely you are to be patriotic, and an ally of freedom and civil liberty.
So yes, Make America Great Again. When you went to the polls on Tuesday, you chose to vote for the capitalist free market, and the great American press. You chose to vote for freedom of speech, freedom of expression, and the right to bear arms.
You chose to vote for the idea that we the people, in order to form a more perfect union, can take our country back from the establishment, and give it back to the American people.
But ultimately, you chose to vote for yourself and the right to practice your natural talents. Because there is the left wing and the right wing, but both wings are on the same oligarchal bird, and it’s ultimately up to you to save yourself.
“The function of being left-handed is an eccentricity in and of itself.” – B. Lorenzo Buckinchere
It is commonly known that throughout all of human history, most people write with their right hands. While there are some who are ambidextrous, being able to use both hands. This is what is considered “the norm.” However, very few people are entirely left-handed, and these are the ones who are considered weird.
If you are left-handed in 2024, thank your lucky stars that you were born at a later time. Because, for much of human history, left-handed people were brutally ostracized by society. They were accused of being witches and devils. Some were even burned at the stake.
Some school teachers would even go as far as to corporally punish left-handed children by beating them in their left-hand with a ruler, until they learned to write with their right hand. This practice went on until as late as the 1990’s in some countries.
The idea being that they would be unable to write with their left hand if doing so hurts from receiving a beating in it. This is all due to the fact that a lot of people have average minds, and their fear of the unknown doesn’t help matters much.
Instead of admitting that they simply don’t know the cause of something, they try to explain it away with their limited understanding of the world around them, and their egos would not permit them to do otherwise. This is very dangerous thinking, especially when there are children who are dependent on you for safety and sustenance.
But now, we’ve got it made. Never has there been a time such as this to be alive as a left-hander. With thorough research throughout the decades, and the public being better informed, almost all of the scrutiny we face today has been switched from physical harassment to verbal criticism.
Any comment about a left-handed person being a devil has since been reduced to a mere joke. A mean joke, but a joke nonetheless. We have come a long way, but we are still not there yet.
A lot of left-handed people suffer from low self-esteem, depression and suicidal ideation due to this misunderstood quirk of theirs. Just because the ostracism we face has switched from physical to verbal harassment doesn’t mean that it’s any less painful to bear, just not life-threatening, that’s all.
If you are ambidextrous, then do whatever suits you. But if your left hand is all you’ve got to work with, then it doesn’t help to go against the grain of your nature, as you will only end up driving yourself mad.
The thing to do is to embrace who you are, then try to understand yourself better. For starters, let’s discuss what causes left-handedness in the first place. Studies have proven that left-handers are born that way due to genetic luck, coupled with brain chemistry.
If the brain chemical leans to the right, one would become left-handed, whereas if the brain chemical leans to the left, then one would become right handed. This is something that happens as the unborn embryo is developing inside its mother’s uterus. Therefore, he has no control over it.
There are even Ultrasounds of the embryo unwittingly sucking its left thumb over its right one, or vice versa. Further observations of involuntary hand preference have been noted postnatally, during infanthood.
I also think it’s worth noting that being left-handed comes with intellectual and even emotional quirks, and not just physical. Left-handers are more likely to be creators and innovators.
Think about some of the greatest minds of our time, and throughout history. Innovators such as; Einstein, Tesla, Newton, Gates, Winfrey, etc. All of them have that one eccentricity in common that gets them in the door to the club of exclusive winners.
Left-handed individuals are more likely to pursue careers in creative fields, such as music, writing, painting, sculpting, inventions, etc. Which is befitting our personalities, considering that the function of being left-handed is an eccentricity in and of itself.
This is due to the fact that our brain chemistry leans more towards our right brain, which is the creative brain. Apart from that, some left-handers tend to enter politics. Notable left-handed presidents include; Reagan, Bush, Clinton and Obama. All of whom have served at some point or other within the last forty years.
Today, some left-handers have taken the liberty of celebrating their left-handedness as a quirk, or an eccentricity, rather than a mark of the devil, and I am one of them. I am B. Lorenzo Buckinchere, a left-handed journalist and author, and I approve this message.
Character is everything. Learning one’s true character helps determine whether or not someone you’ve just met is compatible with you, and more importantly, how. It is pivotally essential to get to know someone’s nature, so as to avoid misunderstandings further down the road.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator consists of sixteen personality types, each of which is determined by comparing one preference to another across eight character qualities, pertaining to life choices, and how one typically makes them.
In this article, I will be comparing the two MBTI personalities who couldn’t be more opposite to each other.
The INFJ is the rarest, and most empathic of the MBTI. They are energized from being in solitude most of the time, as that is where they get their ideas. It is during times of solitude, that the INFJ receives inspiration from his own internal thoughts and imaginations, without the inconvenience of social distractions.
Once solitude is achieved, his intuition naturally kicks in, as that is when his creative juices start flowing. In fact, the precise order in which it usually works is that he taps into his feelings more during solitude, and it puts him back in his right brain that causes an intuitive creative flow.
Once he knows what to do, there is nothing to think about. He makes a snap judgment, often as soon as the following day. Judging is the only analytical trait of the INFJ, but the way in which he does it is a no brainer.
Then we have the ESTJ, the most logical and analytical of the MBTI personalities. Unlike the INFJ who has one analytical trait that adds some balance, the ESTJ has no emotional trait. The ESTJ is good for drafting military strategies, and making business decisions, but that is just about all he is good for.
The trouble with ESTJ types is that they think they can bring that rigidity with them into their interpersonal relationships, and it never ends well for them. INFJ types have a lot of eccentricities about them that the ESTJ will impatiently judge as simply being weird.
In fact, judging is the only MBTI trait they both share, and it happens to be an analytical one at that. The INFJ will judge the ESTJ in his mind, but ultimately won’t care what he does due to his nonchalant nature, unless it affects him directly.
So now, imagine a scenario where the ESTJ is annoyed by some of the INFJ’s eccentricities. Because he is stuck in his left brain, he cannot simply leave well enough alone. He has to somehow try to control what he does not understand, and if he finds that he is unable to control it, he must find a way to destroy it.
The ESTJ is also an extravert, so it doesn’t help that he heavily relies on external validation. It is impossible for the INFJ and the ESTJ to simply sit still in a room, and enjoy each other’s company in silence. The ESTJ will feel awkward about it, and eventually find a way to make some noise, just so the room can feel normal to him, hence why they call them normies.
This could take place in any setting. But for the sake of argument, let’s just assume that the INFJ is in a relationship with the ESTJ. The ESTJ will meet the INFJ for the first time, thinking she knows everything about him, based solely on what she sees, versus using her feelings to actually get to know the INFJ and appreciate where he is coming from. Decides for whatever reason that she doesn’t like him, then decides either to control or destroy him, based on her limited judgment of him.
And because she is an extravert, she cannot simply break up with him and walk away like the INFJ and INTJ are easily capable of doing, she has to fix it somehow. This is dangerous and reckless behavior on the part of the ESTJ. Hence why the ESTJ is a narcissist, and the mortal enemy of all introverted, intuitive types, especially the INFJ.
Imagine being the woman in the relationship, yet your boyfriend is more intuned with his right brain than you are. Her linear thinking, coupled with the irrationality that is an inherent trait of her gender would only further add to her solipsism.
Opposites may attract initially, but they do not sustain in the long run. ESTJ types should stick to their own kind, or at least other extraverts. The INFJ should definitely stick to other introverts, most notably the INTJ.
You can’t help who you meet at work, but you do have control over who you allow into your personal life. This is something to put into practice for your interpersonal relationships.
Have you ever been in a generally happy mood on any given day, then suddenly find yourself feeling sad when a love song comes over the radio that reminds you of someone special? Likewise, do you find that you are rudely interrupted whenever an ad cuts into your music flow, or whenever you abruptly change the genre from something as relaxing as classical music to something as loud as rock and roll?
Well that is having to do with your brain, and how it processes music. You see, there are two sides of your brain, and each side processes things differently. In this article, I will be covering the power that music has over people and their emotions, and in order to get the full picture, I am taking it back to the beginning.
July 1518, Strasbourg, France. It was an ordinary medieval day under Roman rule, when a woman named Frau Troffea suddenly ventured out into the town square, and started dancing at random. Before long, other townsfolk decided to join in on the fun.
It wasn’t until after they realized that they were unable to stop themselves from dancing that they realized that what they thought would be fun was actually a living nightmare.
Hundreds of Strasbourgers danced until their feet were sore and bloody, but it didn’t stop there. Many of them danced themselves to death, suffering from hunger, thirst and exhaustion in the process.
This event came to be known as the dancing plague, a frenzy of inexplicable dancing mania that lasted day and night from July until September. No one seemed to know what really caused it. Particularly because everyone was dancing, but where’s the music?
This only further fueled the mystery shrouding the situation that led to numerous theories throughout the centuries, ranging from demonic possession, to the use of a psychedelic wheat fungus known as Ergotamine, similar to LSD.
The dancing mania of 1518 may be the most infamous account of a dancing frenzy taking place throughout history, but not the first. A few centuries before that in 1284, there was the tale of the pied piper of Hamelin, a mysterious nomad who was offered money by Hamelin’s mayor to help remedy a rat infestation.
His solution was to play some kind of magical silent flute that only the rats could hear to help lure them out of Hamelin. After he had gotten rid of all the rats, the mayor refused to pay him for his services, citing a number of excuses.
So out of revenge, the pied piper returned to Hamelin one year later on a Sunday morning while all of the adults were in church, and used his silent flute to lure their children away, never to be seen again.
The common theme of both stories is the hypnotic power of music on the human brain. A more recent example is a season three episode of The Twilight Zone, titled, “A Piano in the House.”
In this episode, a theater critic named Fitzgerald Fortune purchased a self-playing piano for his young wife on her birthday. The titular piano in question had the supernatural ability to bring out a person’s true character by putting them in a trance, depending on what tune it was playing at the time.
All of these examples may seem like fictional accounts of the power of music, but it alludes to the fact that we don’t fully understand the human brain, we barely scratched the surface. The brain is just as strong as it is vulnerable, and what makes us can also break us.
The dancing fever of Strasbourg suggests that the residents of that town were dancing to music that only they could hear. Likewise, the pied piper of Hamelin played a tune that only the children could hear, kind of like a dog whistle.
Perhaps the pied piper is immortal, and resurfaced in Strasbourg centuries later, assuming a different form. Perhaps he cursed the unsuspecting town of Strasbourg, same as he did Hamelin, using advanced knowledge of subliminal messaging that medieval surfs could not even begin to fathom, then mentally raped them with it.
Fast-forward to the present, and the youth of today are delinquent and disrespectful, all due to that ghetto rap music. Traditional African-American culture was a prideful thing, especially in the south. Ladies were classy, the gents were well dressed, and the music was respectful and evident of creative ingenuity.
But then, something tragic happened. Their culture was infiltrated, and they were sold a lie. The new order of the day is to be a “gangsta” and a “hustla,” and to envy one’s own brother for even his very potential to be prosperous.
Something similar happened in Jamaica during the 1980’s when reggae evolved into dancehall, following the untimely death of Bob Marley. Reggae was the conscious vibrations of the nation, but dancehall is the rebellious wild child, and all about the hype.
But here is what I am really alluding to. Did you know that dancehall is recorded on a 440 hz frequency, while reggae uses a 432 hz frequency? It is not just reggae versus dancehall, but all popular music is recorded on a 440 hz frequency, while traditional music, such as jazz and classical music are 432 hertz.
Each frequency has a different effect on the listener. Particularly because 440 hertz puts you into your left brain, which is useful for analytical thinking and reasoning, while 432 hertz puts you into your right brain, which is good for love and creativity.
The left brain may be good for critical thinking, but that’s all it is good for. The problem is when you stay stuck in your left brain, and allow that linear kind of thinking to cross over into your interpersonal relationships.
But if all you listen to is 440 hertz music, then it makes you more susceptible to suggestion without you even realizing it. And what if there really was an agenda to program the masses to be more narrow-minded, therefore easier to control?
So if there is a shift in the consciousness of post-modern society, it is most likely attributed to the fact that all mainstream tracks are being recorded on a 440 hz frequency. And though there are other factors to be considered outside of music, music is the main factor.
The good news is that indie artists tend to record their work on a 432 hz frequency, so there is an alternative that you can choose to listen to. Music is more than just entertainment, it is medicine for the soul, and definitely the mind. Under the right circumstances, it can also be weaponized against you, it is not to be trifled with.
Over the past three weeks, I have explored the sixteen Myers-Briggs personality types, particularly within the context of employment compatibility. However, Myers-Briggs can also be applied to other aspects of social life, such as friendships, dating and business.
In this article, I will be exploring the idiosyncrasies of each personality type, and how they might relate to one another. Because being aware of this and knowing how to apply it in real world situations is sure to allow for smoother interactions in all areas of life.
There are eight character traits within Myers Briggs, four analytical, and four emotional. They are as follows;
Left Brain Right Brain
Extravert Introvert
Sensing iNtuitive
Thinking Feeling
Judging Perceiving
Some Myers Briggs types strictly lean to one side or another, while others have a mixture of both quotients to varying degrees.
The way to know what personality type you are, as well as the personality type of anyone you are interacting with is to answer four questions that are as follows;
Who are you based on what energizes you? (a) Self validating (Introvert) (b) Seeking validation from others (Extravert)
Where do you get your ideas? (a) My imagination (iNtuitive) (b) The world around me (Sensing)
How do you decide what to do with your ideas? (a) With what I think (Thinking) (b) How I feel (Feeling)
How do you act upon your ideas? (a) Things must go according to plan (Judging) (b) I am more flexible to changes and prospects (Perceiving)
Keep these four questions in mind as we explore each type throughout the rest of the article.
Introverts:
Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging (INTJ)
The INTJ is an introvert who gets his ideas from his imagination, decides with what he thinks, then acts upon it by making a swift judgment. Though an introvert who gains ideas through his intuition, he is still analytical when it comes to executing his ideas, the opposite of the ESFP whose analytics lean more towards social contact (see number 11).
The combination of being introverted and intuitive, suggests that he values his solitude, and spends much of his alone time in deep thought. So then when it’s time to execute his ideas, he wastes no time in making snap judgments.
Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving (INTP)
The INTP is an introvert who gets his ideas from his imagination, and makes decisions based on what he thinks. But unlike the INTJ, he is more flexible to changes when it comes to deciding. He is more reserved in that regard, and that makes him a procrastinator.
But procrastinating has its benefits, especially if the outcome will be final, as there is room to make adjustments should the INTP change his mind. The procrastination of the INTP would likely piss off the more impatient judging types, especially those who have already spent a lot of time in thought.
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving (INFP)
The INFP is an introvert who is inspired by their own imagination, decides what to do based on how it makes them feel, but tends to be more flexible when it is time to act.
The INFP is only one of two types where all four of his traits are aligned to one side or another. In his case, the INFP is entirely right brain dominant, relying solely on his emotional quotient. Unlike the ESTJ, who is the polar opposite (see number 10).
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging (INFJ)
The INFJ is an introvert who is inspired by his own imagination and decides what to do based on how it makes him feel much like the INFP before him.
But unlike the INFP, the INFJ makes swift and aggressive judgements once his mind is made up, much to the shock of others around him who were expecting him to be entirely illogical.
This makes the INFJ the single rarest of the sixteen Myers-Briggs types, which often causes the INFJ to come into conflict with those with ulterior motives who thought it was easy to manipulate him.
The INFJ is the most idealistic type, and therefore the most creative. The INFJ is more likely to thrive from working in professions where he is free to express his creativity.
Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving (ISTP)
The ISTP is an introvert who is inspired by the world around him, decides what to do based on what he thinks, but is open to change and prospects. One might rate the ISTP as being one of the more analytical of the introverts, yet they have trouble making up their minds.
As such, the ISTP tends to procrastinate when it comes down to them making decisions on how to advance with their plans. This can be frustrating for others around them, as they tend to become impatient with the ISTP once they realize that he is not quite as analytical as they thought.
Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging (ISTJ)
The ISTJ is the most analytical of all the introverts. He gets his ideas from sensing the world around him, decides what to do based on what he thinks, acts by making rigid plans, and is unyielding in his convictions. In spite of all that, the ISTJ still values his solitude, as that is when he thinks and decides based on what he senses within his environment.
Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving (ISFP)
The ISFP is an introvert who gets inspired by sensing what is going on in the world around him, decides based on how it makes him feel, but is indecisive when it comes to acting upon what he has decided. His sensing trait adds analytical balance to his otherwise emotional personality.
Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (ISFJ)
The ISFJ is an introvert who gets his ideas from being able to sense the world around him, decides what to do with it based on the way it makes him feel, then acts upon it with knowledge and intent. The feeling aspect of his character adds a sensitive touch to his general demeanor.
Extraverts:
Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving (ESTP)
An ESTP is the polar opposite of the INFJ. This is due to the fact that he is an extravert who gets his ideas from the world around him and decides what to do with his ideas based on what he thinks. But his shortfall is that he hesitates when it comes to acting upon his ideas. He is more open to changing his plans versus the INFJ who makes snap decisions and sticks to them. That one trait of being perceiving over judging makes him slightly less analytical.
Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging (ESTJ)
The only other MBTI type next to the INFP who is entirely aligned to one side or another, the left brain in this case. The ESTJ is an extravert who gets his ideas from sensing the world around him, decides what to do based on what he thinks, and acts upon his decisions by judging.
Due to being left brain dominant, the ESTJ is the most analytical of the Myers Briggs types, therefore the most controlling. It’s good to be analytical, especially in leadership roles, but excessive logic can work against you. As such, the ESTJ is the quintessential narcissist of the lot, and the mortal enemy of the INFJ (more on that later). They are rigid, and everything must go their way. It’s either their way or the highway, and they take this mindset with them into personal relationships. Because they are extraverts, they also tend to seek external validation.
On the other hand, they also tend to get things done, which is actually a good thing. Though they can be useful at times, one should tread carefully when dealing with an ESTJ. I could have said that the ESTJ should find balance in life, but instead I will say that the ESTJ should seek out other ESTJ types where they can happily thrive among themselves.
Extravert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving (ESFP)
The ESFP is an extravert who gets his ideas from being able to sense the world around him, decides what to do based on how he feels, and acts upon them based on perceiving and being open to change.
He is only half analytical and half emotional, the extraverted opposite of the INTJ, which adds some balance to the mix.
Extravert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (ESFJ)
The ESFJ is an extravert who gets his ideas from sensing the world around him, decides what to do with them based on how they make him feel, then acts upon them by making a firm judgment. He is mostly analytical, but the feeling trait adds a healthy balance of emotional quotient to his character profile.
Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving (ENTP)
The ENTP may be an extravert, but still finds time to be intuitive when it comes to getting ideas. He decides what to do with his ideas based on what he thinks, but is more perceiving when it is time to act.
The ENTP is more balanced because he possesses two analytical traits, and two emotional ones, which makes him a bit more reasonable even though he is left brain dominant.
Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging (ENTJ)
The ENTJ is left brain dominant, with intuition being the only emotional trait. As analytical as he may be, getting ideas from within, versus the world around him, adds a nice balance that makes him more human.
Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving (ENFP)
The ENFP is right brain dominant, with extraversion being the only left brain trait within his character profile. Being an extravert adds a bit of balance to his otherwise emotional quotient that makes him more relatable.
Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging (ENFJ)
And finally, we have the ENFJ. An extravert who has equal balance between intellectual and emotional traits. This makes him more relatable to wider groups of people. Even though he is internally motivated, one can rely on him to make snap decisions due to his judging trait.
Submitted for your approval, the new hire at a company. As soon as you arrive on the scene, it seems as though everyone at the job site is already familiar with you? Worse than that, it seems like they were expecting you all along. But how did they know your name if you were never formally introduced? In just a moment, you will read about a specific hiring practice that is far more common than you would expect. Yet more bizarre than the weirdest episode of The Twilight Zone.
It seems at first, that you are the teacher’s pet. Popular beyond word, and an instant hit at the job site, you find that your new colleagues naturally gravitate towards you. More than what is considered normal for someone they barely met. It seems like they are accepting you into established cliques. But why you?
This phase is called, The Charm. It is typically short-lived, and it usually isn’t long before you begin to notice that they really don’t like you that much. Every move you make, on and off the job is heavily scrutinized.
Your workload is disproportionately larger than everybody else’s. And your undying loyalty to everybody else in the company is expected, often at the detriment of your personal ambitions.
Before long, it is undeniably obvious that they really don’t like you at all. But what could have possibly changed? “What did I do?” Nothing. You didn’t do anything to warrant that kind of ill treatment. But if you challenge the status quo in any shape or form, it won’t be long before they find a reason to fire you.
What you perhaps haven’t considered, is that they all knew how it would end, right from the moment they first hired you. This is especially true if they have different client sites across town. They then wage a war of attrition by sending you to work at a client site far out of your way.
Say for example, 25 miles away by bus. It is even better for them if they know you catch the bus to work. Because then, they can be certain that you will be late more often than not.
As soon as you get there, they want to put you to work the graveyard shift. A huge inconvenience, as doing so goes in direct opposition to your circadian rhythm. Not only that, but they also want to single you out to do overtime, disproportionately more than that of your fellow employees. This cuts into your personal time, as if they haven’t already hijacked one half of your waking hours for the day as it is, now they want more.
Then they tell you that you will be paid time and a half for working overtime. This is gaslighting because that extra pay will only go towards paying bills and taxes. Perhaps it would go towards purchasing an extra meal that you wouldn’t need if you went home when you were scheduled to go.
You now find that working for them has cost you more in the long run, than if you didn’t need a job. But hey, what’s the deal? I thought the whole point of having a job was to make money. That is not the way they see it. They don’t want you getting rich off them.
Their whole agenda is to get rich off you. They are just using you until they decide that they are done with you. Then you will be left worse off than when you first started. Everybody is in on it, and it is entirely by design. But why were you of all people singled out for exploitation?
Do you remember taking a personality test when you were being hired? That test is called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). This test indicates what kind of personality you have, based on the way you think. They ask you a series of questions that seem irrelevant for your job description. But perfect for their agenda.
Typical Meyers-Briggs questions would include, “Do you prefer action thrillers, or psychological thrillers?” “Do you leave things up to chance, or see it through to the end?” “What is your favorite candy?” “Are you a Tootie Fruity?” And a very common one is, “What would you bring to the company potluck?”
People tend to answer those questions unwittingly, because they seem so harmless on the surface. Plus they also seem like a lighthearted distraction from the nervous energy that most people feel while on job interviews. It helps to put them at ease.
It is truly a pity they don’t realize the sinister motive behind those questions. They don’t seem to realize that corporations tend to reword the Myers-Briggs questions, then mix them in with other questions so as to be more subtle with it. But Myers-Briggs or not, applicants do have a right to ask the interviewer, “What is the purpose of asking me those questions?”
I have always stated that there are only three different kinds of people on earth; sadists, masochists, and hedonists. Sadists gain power and pleasure from inflicting pain, while masochists gain pleasure from receiving pain. Only the hedonist gains pleasure from both giving and receiving pleasure, therefore the most reciprocal of the group.
MBTI seems to suggest that there are sixteen personality types. I am of the view that each of the sixteen Myers-Briggs types fall under one of my three archetypes. Of the sixteen Myers-Briggs types, the INFJ is the rarest.
INFJ stands for Introverted iNtuitive Feeling and Judging. All that simply means is that you judge people, places and things based on the way they make you feel. And because you are an introvert, you do so internally by using your imagination.
Because you tend to process things internally, most people are intimidated by your silence. This is due to the fact that they don’t really know what to make of you. It’s just that they will never freely admit it.
So it’s either they will lazily and nonchalantly write you off as being weird and awkward, or they will do things deliberately to provoke you, hoping it would somehow make you show them who you really are. The same is true in all social settings, not just employment wise.
If you are an INFJ type, the company you are about to work for will find that out by having you complete the Myers-Briggs Indicator. Once they know who you are, it’s game on. They will move other employees around, just so they could make room to put you at a disadvantage. They will send other employees to befriend you with ulterior motives. They will spy on you, and test you without mercy. For no other reason than the simple fact that you are an INFJ.
Most companies are toxic, and tend to target INFJ types. It is possible that each company is incentivized by some higher power to antagonize the INFJ. They feel as though the INFJ’s only place in this world is to be everybody else’s slave. So their goal would then be to steal the INFJ’s place on the throne, and drive him into bankruptcy, homelessness, mental disease and substance abuse.
Or it could just be that the INFJ is generally hated by everyone for reasons that said people could not even begin to explain? Can you imagine being so cruel and sadistic, that you would knowingly send an introvert to work in a zoo as noisy as a mall or an airport terminal? Why not a quiet warehouse or a parking lot?
If MBTI was intended to create an easier path towards personality compatibility, then why are they subverting and perverting it for their own sick agendas?
For the INFJ, freedom is a priority, and it is often regarded as being more important than money. Now don’t get me wrong, money is also important, but it should never come at the expense of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. For that reason, the INFJ should never be caught dead working for another person. The INFJ should always strive to work for themselves.
The road to entrepreneurship can be quite the arduous one, as one may not yield short term dividends. But short term sacrifice for long term gain is a worthy sacrifice. You should never change your character to please anyone. But you will always be a target for the other types, especially extraverts, unless you rethink your list of priorities.
As INFJs we tend to be intuitively smart, so we will just have to figure it out. Finding an INFJ support group, and attending INFJ retreats across the world, is a really great place to start, and a great way to meet other people like yourself, who have had similar life experiences.
In the complex sphere of human diversity, there is a need for smoother and more fulfilling interaction. Everyone has navigated the social scene at some point or other in hopes of meeting someone of like mind. But doing so can be quite the daunting task, as not everyone is sincere.
However, personality compatibility is necessary to allow for a more seamless existence. That is where the Myers-Briggs Personality assessment comes into play.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) was developed by American writer Isabel Briggs Myers, along with the help of her mother, Katharine Cook Briggs, during the second world war. It was later adapted into a personality test by the Educational Testing Service (ETS), who published it in 1962.
The MBTI is based on Carl Jung’s “Dictionary of Analytical Psychology,” where he discussed his theory on psychological types and individual preferences.
MBTI determines an individual’s personality type, based on a dichotomy between four different psychological processes and responses, that includes the following.
Introvert vs. Extravert
iNtuitive vs. Sensing
Thinking vs. Feeling
Judging vs. Perceiving
Whenever one mixes and matches each of the four dichotomies, it results in a total of sixteen Myers Briggs types.
Introverts:
Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging (INTJ)
Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving (INTP)
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving (INFP)
Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging (INFJ)
Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving (ISTP)
Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging (ISTJ)
Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving (ISFP)
Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (ISFJ)
Extraverts:
Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving (ESTP)
Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging (ESTJ)
Extravert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving (ESFP)
Extravert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (ESFJ)
Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving (ENTP)
Extravert, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging (ENTJ)
Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving (ENFP)
Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging (ENFJ)
Everyone has found themselves perpetuating both ends of the dichotomy at some point or other, but the type in which you are more dominant is determined by how you answer each of the following four questions:
Who are you based on what energizes you?
(a) Self validating
(b) Seeking validation from others
Where do you get your ideas?
(a) My imagination
(b) The world around me
How do you decide what to do with your ideas?
(a) With what I think
(b) How I feel
How do you act upon your ideas?
(a) Things must go according to plan
(b) I am more flexible to changes and prospects
If you prefer self validation over external social validation, you are an introvert. If you get your ideas from your imagination versus the world around you, you are intuitive.
If you decide what to do based on how you feel, rather than what you think, you are feeling. And if you are rigid with your plans, you are judging. That would make you an INFJ, the rarest of the Myers-Briggs types.
INFJs are the empaths of the personalities, thus more prone to being targeted by predators. Introverts in general should carefully consider with whom they would rather share their limited social energy, but INFJs particularly have an extra responsibility to guard their energy, and save it only for themselves or those who are willing to reciprocate.
The MBTI was a marvelous invention, and can be used to determine compatibility in platonic, romantic and professional situations. However, it is not foolproof, as there are those who have been known to use the MBTI to abuse those who are unsuspecting.
Join me again next week, as I discuss a very common abusive hiring practice.
“I wouldn’t change if I could, and can’t if I would.” — B. Lorenzo Buckinchere
I recently thought about buying a house. I thought about the freedom I would enjoy, and the fact that I would be afforded maximum privacy and not have to worry about paying rent every month. That thought filled me with feelings of elation.
Then I thought about all the responsibilities that owning a house would entail. For starters, I would have to pay property taxes annually, not considering any potential mortgage.
Then there are repair costs to consider, plus I’d be responsible for my own security. Suddenly, the thought of owning a house didn’t seem like such a good idea after all, especially when you plan on remaining a bachelor in the long run.
And that was when it dawned on me that owning a house isn’t really for me. Sure, it is a great investment to own something you can call your own, if you have a wife and kids that is. But I am a die-hard bachelor. If I owned a house, I would occupy my own room, while the other rooms would remain empty. That’s a lot of empty rooms that come with all of the extra responsibilities.
But then one may be wondering, “But you can rent out the other rooms in the house. Why don’t you at least run an Airbnb?” Yes, but then I’m very peculiar about who I allow into my living space, and I don’t want any problems.
Then there are those who would argue that, “Owning your house would provide you with a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment.”
To which I would reply, “Yes, and so should having a wife and kids. Except that for me it doesn’t.” Only I decide what fulfills me, or perhaps not.
Perhaps I was born with my personality already intact. Perhaps my path was preordained, and I have no control over it. It just so happens that at some point, I chose to accept it. So now, I wouldn’t change if I could, and can’t if I would, only my gardening I would miss.
I can’t be fake, I wear my heart on my sleeve. If I were to forsake my true character, just to fit in with this world, I would be committing an act of self-hatred, and to me, it is not worth it. So I embrace reclusion, and I do so wholeheartedly.
As a reclusive bachelor, I would be perfectly happy living in a one bedroom apartment, so long as the neighbors are quiet, my surroundings are clean and above all else, I have privacy.
Of course as a straight male, I fully intend to date, but I don’t need a house for that, only if we decided to start a family, which I already told you I don’t want. It goes deeper than simply not wanting to buy a house, or share my space. I am a staunch antinatalist.
An antinatalist is someone who doesn’t want to be responsible for bringing innocent souls to earth just to toil and suffer in this shithole, only for them to get corrupted and turn wicked. And yes, we still get laid whenever we are ready, but we use different forms of contraception, whatever suits us individually.
But if I don’t want kids, and I am a reclusive bachelor, then what is the point of being in a relationship? Companionship. You see, there are different kinds of relationships, and for someone who enjoys playing the field, sleepovers suit me best.
Writing this article is just one of those times in which I am reminded to be grateful for the fact that I don’t need companionship everyday, as that would become an inconvenience. I have other business to tend to, and long term cohabitation would only serve as a distraction, especially considering the way modern relationships are. You gotta be careful who you allow to enter a place as intimate as your living space.
So to recap, if I don’t want kids, I don’t need to be married, or enter into a long term relationship. And if I want neither marriage, nor kids, then there is no point in buying a house. Minimalism is the most drama free way to live for one who is reclusive.
Some people have a superpower. They are able to see, and hear things about others that most people cannot. It is like they know what you are thinking before you even think it. But how do they know?
Are they actually highly perceptive, or just plain nosey? In this article, I will be covering the topic of what it means to be tone deaf. As well as some steps you can take in order to overcome it.
When most people talk about being tone deaf, they are usually referring to someone who sings off key, because they are deaf to musical tones. Less often, they are loosely referring to someone who speaks louder than the general energy of the room.
Or someone who gets too close when speaking to you because they think that you cannot hear them clearly enough. And sure, that’s a part of it. But that is only one form of tone deafness.
There are very few people who, when they talk about being tone deaf, they are in fact referring to someone who is unable to pick up on social cues, most notably sarcasm.
One who is not able to discern social cues is considered tone deaf because they generally do not pay attention to verbal tone, or body language. As such, they may end up getting the wrong impression about a particular person, or situation.
The best example that I can immediately think of, is from a season 6 episode of “How I Met Your Mother” called “Return of the slutty pumpkin.” In that episode, Katie Holmes guest stars as the titular slutty pumpkin in question, and the object of Ted’s obsession from a season one Halloween episode.
When Ted finally gets to meet her during the sequel, he is disgusted to learn that she is obnoxiously narcissistic, and full of sarcasm. Their chemistry is way off, a far cry from his expectations.
And then there is one scene throughout the episode where both Ted and the slutty pumpkin are on an uncomfortable date together. And while cuddling with him on the couch, she questions in her mind, “does he not get sarcasm?” Suggesting that she thinks he is tone deaf.
The irony of how she perceives him, is that she is the one who is tone deaf. Thinking that she is being cool, not realizing that she is singing off beat, and just being awkward the entire time that they were together.
Now personally, I am no fan of sarcasm. I think that it is just an excuse to be rude and obnoxious to other people for no reason in particular. Some people are just toxic and negatively charged, and it is best to respect them for what they are, and abandon them.
But what if you cannot immediately abandon the situation? Whether or not you are sarcastic by nature, your survival depends on being highly perceptive. Because after all, what they said about, “What you don’t know can’t hurt you,” is a lie. What you don’t know can, and will in fact cause deep, long term pain. Perhaps more deliberately so for the simple fact that you truly don’t know.
It is not just sarcasm that poses a threat for the tone deaf. There is also a very common narcissistic tactic where they decide to target a stranger, and bombard them with a bunch of personal questions.They do this for no other reason except for the simple fact that they get off on the power trip.
The more private and introverted they figure you are, the more likely they are to make you a target. Because the single greatest violation that anyone could possibly have committed against a private person, is an invasion of privacy.
This tactic is plausible because there are people who are naturally curious in general. But those people are more friendly, and the narcissist is not. The only way you can immediately discern if someone you just met is on a power trip, can be heard in the subtlety of the tone in which they are using. But how will you hear their tone if you are tone deaf?
Another tone you might miss, is more visual in nature. Just in case you thought that audible tone was the only kind in existence. Say for example, you are apartment hunting. After much deliberation, you find the one you like at long last.
Everything else is perfect, but then you notice that the bathroom has a walk-in shower when you were kind of hoping for a bathtub. You don’t think it’s really that big of a deal because everything else is in place.
Two months into a one year lease, you are unhappy because you are not able to soak in your bathtub with a glass of Merlot after a long day like you really wanted to do. It is not long after that, where you begin to realize it is not just the bathtub. There are also no windows facing west, and you happen to like watching the sun set.
Then you realize that the paint on the wall doesn’t quite match the color of the drapery set you had in mind. And it is too late to cancel your lease at this point when you should not have signed the bloody thing to begin with.
The tone of the apartment told you that you would not be happy living there. The tone of something in which you are investing time and money is telling you that you won’t be free to express your true sense of individuality.
But how do you see the visual tone if you are tone blind? For that reason, you need to learn the subtle cues that someone or something doesn’t serve your best interest.
Do you know why a tone deaf person doesn’t pay attention to social cues? Because they either don’t know what they are looking for, or they just don’t give a damn.
If they don’t know what they are looking for, chances are it is because no one ever taught them. Because once you know, it would be impossible to not notice. Even if you don’t care, you won’t be able to help but to notice things by chance.
The modern world is a noisy one that is full of distractions. From cars, to smartphones to overpopulation, and the ever-increasing lack of privacy. There has never been a time such as this, and subtlety hides in distractions. As a matter of fact, it thrives on it.
This is why meditation is so important. Because it blocks out the distractions of the world. Most importantly, it blocks out the most impactful of all distractions, the one taking place inside your head. So that you can hear what is really going on around you.
Before long, you will begin to notice some details about your environment that you were previously unaware of. The irony of your discovery is that those nuances were always there. You just didn’t notice them because you were too distracted by the complexities of modern life.
If you meditate for one hour a day, everyday for one year, it is only intuitive to expect that after a while, you would no longer be tone deaf. When your head shuts up, your heart starts talking.
For much of human existence, it has been widely accepted that there are only two genders, male and female. However, in recent years, and with the advent of social media, there has been an influx of people coming forward who claim to be intersex.
Named after the mythological creature, Hermaphroditus, a hermaphrodite has been historically understood to be an organism that possesses both male and female genitals, and as such, are able to reproduce asexually.
It has been generally believed that only some insects are hermaphrodites, and that no human is truly a hermaphrodite in the sense where they possess the genitals of both genders.
However, that is not to say that there aren’t some humans who belong to one gender, while being internally dominant with the hormone of the opposite gender. For example, you may have a woman who produces more testosterone than estrogen. Externally, she is a woman, but internally, she is a man.
People who have this gender anomaly are called intersex, a rare minority of the global population. They have existed since time immemorial, but no one knew who they really were, because they have always had to identify as their external gender, for fear of being ostracized for it. Or worse, being labeled a witch, especially during medieval times, and risk getting burned at the stake.
An intersex person is not to be confused for a transsexual, as the intersex person was born with gene mutations, while the transsexual chose to be transformed into the opposite gender after birth.
The gene mutation in question could be caused by a number of environmental factors, such as; smoking, drug and/or alcohol abuse, asbestos particles, POW experiments gone wrong, or conceiving an offspring with a close relative.
Last week, I covered the topic of incest, and what forms of it are more acceptable. So now, let’s touch on the topic of POW experiments. The nazis were known to conduct several experiments during the second world war.
They wanted to create a superior race of men called the ubermensch, and as such, they created a drug that would cause the nazis to be bigger and taller, compared to jewish people.
Unbeknownst to them, those experiments left some of them with strange gene mutations that would cause their offsprings to be born with hormonal imbalances of varying forms.
Some of them would end up developing the hormones of the opposite gender, while others of them would not develop any hormones at all. The ones without hormones would end up being asexuals, while those with opposite hormones would be intersex. That gene mutation may even skip a generation or two, until one day, somewhere down the line, an intersex baby is born.
They would go on living normally until a trip to the ER, or a comparison of their pubescent development (usually during a shared shower after gym class) would expose their anomalies, and cause them to consider that there may be something different about them. After which they would likely try and find out what it is.
In rare cases, they wouldn’t discover their true gender until further down the road when they meet someone special, and try to conceive a child with them, only to realize that they are not getting pregnant. Then only to discover after a medical exam that they will never get pregnant.
This will cause a great deal of heartache for the intersex gendered individual, and all because they were born with the side effects of an experiment gone wrong. Of course, the nazi experiment gone wrong is just a theory of mine, and it is worth noting that most intersex persons were simply born with naturally occurring genetic mutations.
If they have a loving, supportive spouse who is mature enough to understand that being with an intersex person doesn’t mean that they’re gay, then they have all the emotional support they need to help them get through the heartache of not being able to conceive. They may even choose to adopt a child in time, but only after they have come to accept themselves for who they are.
One of the primary incentives that a straight male may have for dating an intersex female is if he is an antinatalist. The cis-gendered female could get pregnant just by them staring at each other, but the intersex female cannot.
All he has to do now is to go out and meet an intersex female who also happens to be an antinatalist. Keep in mind that the intersex gender is a rare find.