Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is way more common than you think. Men have historically suffered from RSD, but due to the paradigm shift caused by the movement of men going their own way, you may find that women are now more commonly affected than they were previously.
But what exactly is RSD? And more importantly, what is the cause of it?
First of all, the word dysphoria implies an altered state of reality, almost like a delusion of sorts. So then rejection sensitivity dysphoria is a mental disease where the sufferer is sensitive to any form of rejection, real or perceived. The dysphoric aspect of RSD comes into play when you consider that the rejection in question is often more perceived than real.
The most common example of this is that a man might see a girl he likes and thinks he doesn’t have a shot with her because she is way out of his league. And how she can get any man in the world, so why him.
Meanwhile, the girl is probably thinking, “why is he acting so shy? Why won’t he come over and say hi?” As a sidebar, did you know that exceptionally beautiful women tend to be the loneliest?
It’s true! People think they get laid left and right. But in reality, men see them and end up rejecting themselves without knowing her intentions because they are often intimidated by her beauty, class and elegance.
Then she gets lonely and insecure, and ends up picking some douchebag who beats the shit out of her. How’s that for RSD?
The hot, mean girl trope in popular culture doesn’t exactly help matters much either. When in reality, it’s the pretty little normies who are mean and insecure, not Queen Aphrodite.
It doesn’t even make sense for her to be mean, it would only ruin her beauty. The trouble is that Aphrodite is an exceptionally rare form of feminine beauty.
Ok, so now that I’ve gone over some real world examples of RSD, let’s discuss the main cause of it.
Confirmation bias is a double-edged sword that can either make or break you. Positive reinforcement will encourage confidence, while negative reinforcement actually punishes the first sign of it.
So you know how incels always complain that “Chad” easily gets laid? Well it’s not necessarily because Chad is a stunner. It’s because he had a lot of positive reinforcement in his upbringing, and throughout much of his life.
The incel on the other hand, had a lot of negative reinforcements throughout life. A lot of L’s. A lot of setbacks. All of his hopes and endeavors, noble as they are, were literally made to feel like some kind of absurd, dark comedy while the whole world passes him by.
That’s not hard to imagine in a world that rewards evil and punishes creativity and authenticity. That kind of loneliness can really torture a man’s mind. So they develop a sensitivity to rejection, coupled with dysphoria.
This is something that plays out over time. And as such, they end up rejecting others before others have a chance to reject them. That way, they feel more in control of their experiences.
In last week’s article, we talked about the different forms of addiction. One particular example was the lust for power due to feelings of neglect or the general lack of safety in one’s background. Well proactive rejection perpetuated by sufferers of RSD is but one example of that power lust.
The incel may internalize his negative reinforcements as being due to his lack of height, or the way his face looks. But in reality, it really could be due to neurodiversion.
Having mental conditions such as; OCD, ADHD, or being on the autism spectrum could increase the likelihood of developing RSD at some point. But if you asked me, I would say it’s because the incel didn’t reject his true self in order to conform to the normie script.
As such, incels often go deeper into nihilism and loneliness, where they develop unhealthy coping habits, such as porn addiction and the like. They may also form online hate groups where they vent their frustration in the form of racism and misogyny.
None of these habits are healthy. The thing to do is to seek counseling. It will help you to further explore the root cause of your inceldom, as well as your RSD, on a path towards leading a healthier lifestyle. In time, you may even regain the confidence to start dating again.
Let’s talk about obesity for a sec. No offense, but do you ever wonder why some people are fat? Though there are many nuances involved, I’m pretty sure that in most cases, the people who are overweight are suffering from a binge disorder. But what is a binge disorder?
Binging is an overindulgence in any hedonistic activity that tethers on the brink of decadence (see: Hedonism vs. Decadence), and could eventually lead to harm. Examples of this could be food, weed, alcohol, sex, porn, television (especially online streaming), etc.
Indulging is fine so long as you keep it in moderation. But overindulgence is a binge, and excessive amounts of binging now becomes a disorder. Ok, great! Now what causes people to overindulge?
Perhaps there was a time while growing up when there was never enough to eat. Similar to people who become obsessed with power in adulthood because they never had any autonomy in childhood, and it had put them in harm’s way, so does the person who never had enough to eat start binging the moment they had the extra income to be able to afford more food.
I once had a classmate who had plenty of kids, more than she can probably afford. Her father died when she was young, and she and her mother hate each other. So now she is resolute in creating the family she never had growing up, where she is surrounded by a bunch of kids who she feels would be there to love her forever.
But what happens when the kids grow up and want to live lives of their own? She probably never thought about that, but I did, for I am such a child. My guess is that her kids will likely develop a binge disorder that’s shrouded in some kind of solitude and autonomy.
When I was growing up, our house was the revolving door for all of the neighborhood kids. This is because my brother is an extravert, and likes talking to everybody. Still have no idea how we even ended up being born in the same family, but today, I won’t even say hi to my neighbors.
Then there is the issue of sexual repression. A man who is going through a dry spell may develop an addiction at the pornographic level due to sexual frustration. Then when he finally graduates to the real deal, that porn addiction might turn into a sex addiction.
He may become addicted to the act itself. But once he realizes that his girlfriend cannot keep up, he may cheat on her with multiple women, some of whom may be escorts. Then he will eventually become addicted to the escorts.
Choosing to see escorts is one thing, but becoming addicted to them will lead to bankruptcy. Speaking of bankruptcy, a man will likely become a workaholic if there was never enough money going around while he was growing up.
Perhaps he was surrounded by crabs in a bucket. Then they probably lied that it was all due to a generational curse. Or it could just be that he was geolocked due to his time and place.
Whatever it is, he will likely become obsessed with overachievement, and workaholism will become his binge of choice. Binging may feel satisfying at first, but as with all things that you choose to abuse, consistent binging always ends in disaster.
Food binges lead to obesity and hypertension. Porn addiction leads to wasted time, and neglecting your real world relationships and obligations. Sex addiction will eventually lead to bankruptcy. Alcoholism will lead to DUIs. And workaholism will lead to premature ageing.
A binge disorder can be outgrown with time and understanding. Sadly, there are some who never outgrow their binge. It becomes a permanent aspect of their character.
The key is in being able to recognize the root cause of your binge disorder. Forgive yourself for the scarcity in your early life that caused the binge, and consider some possible alternatives that could lead to a healthier future.
One possible alternative is in recognizing that the unconscious urge to hoard is not the answer. You begin to heal by making the concerted effort to learn the discernible difference between quality and quantity, and then choosing quality every time.
It is the end of the month and time once again for our monthly review series. Our muse for the month of September is none other than Miss Sadie Thompson. But first, here’s a disclaimer.
Disclaimer:
The following review contains spoilers, so I strongly recommend watching any film that features the character of Sadie Thompson before reading this or any review relating to this muse. Now without further ado, let’s begin.
Introduction:
Sadie Thompson is a fictional character appearing in several films, plays and prose between the 1920s and the 1950s. Her first appearance was in a 1921 short story titled, “Rain,” by W. Somerset Maugham, part of his collection titled, “The Tremling of a Leaf.”
In film, her most notable portrayals were by Gloria Swanson as the titular Sadie Thompson in a 1928 silent picture directed by Raoul Walsh. And by Joan Crawford in “Rain,” a 1932 talking picture directed by Lewis Milestone, and the one that I will be reviewing today.
Plot:
Sadie Thompson is a young woman who is stranded on the Pacific island of Pago Pago. Outgoing by nature, Sadie enjoys drinking, smoking and partying with some of the young sailors she meets during her stay at an inn on the island. Much to the dismay of Alfred Davidson (Walter Huston), a brooding old missionary and religious zealot who complains that she is disturbing him and his wife.
Her sassy demeanor soon catches the eye of one of the sailors at the inn, one Sergeant O’Hara (William Gargan). As Sadie starts falling for O’Hara, Davidson starts digging into Sadie’s past and learns that she is a prostitute. He also discovers that she is wanted by the police in San Francisco.
Meanwhile, Sadie’s new boyfriend, O’Hara, whom she affectionately calls “handsome” throughout the picture, tells her about a friend of his who fell in love with a prostitute. They are now happily married and living in Australia. O’Hara wants to take Sadie away with him to Australia so she doesn’t have to answer for her previous crimes in San Francisco.
But just as he is making plans for them to join his friend, Davidson starts working on Sadie’s psyche. First he threatens to use his influence with the governor on that island to make certain that Sadie is sent back to San Francisco. Then he uses guilt and shame to convince her to seek repentance for her promiscuous ways.
As Davidson’s manipulation takes root and he continues to break down Sadie’s will, he finds it easier to convince her that the only way to truly repent is to willfully go back to San Francisco and face the punishment for her past crimes. She agrees and O’Hara notices that she is not being herself and tries to snap her out of it, but she pushes him away and insists that she needs to be “saved.”
Brainwashed and isolated from her friends, Davidson has free reign over Sadie’s mind and dictates her every action right down to the way that she dresses. With a newfound obsession with purity, Sadie soon begins to dress more modestly and without make-up.
Eventually she agrees to return to San Francisco and Davidson admires her as a “beautiful creature of god.” However, in the next split second, he loses control and breaks into her room where he rapes her.
The natives find Davidson’s body washed ashore the following morning. Suicide or murder? Who knows. Any scenario is possible. Devastated, Sadie reverts back to her old self again and leaves for Australia along with O’Hara to begin their lives anew.
Key Takeaway:
Davidson tried to brainwash Sadie into becoming someone she is not. While all along, he was secretly lusting after her despite being a married man, and lost control in the end. It is ironic that his losing control made Sadie revert back to her true self.
O’Hara loved and accepted Sadie as she was. She didn’t have to change her character, perhaps only her profession after they had gotten married. It just goes to show you that anybody who is trying to make you change does not love you, they only want to control you.
Another red flag that let’s me know Davidson was working her nerves was when he said that god wouldn’t forgive her unless she went back and faced the penalty for her past mistakes. Assuming god was benevolent, it wouldn’t want you to suffer for your past mistakes.
The point would’ve been to correct you and not to humiliate you, especially if it was a “victimless crime” that you committed out of lack and fear. There are those who are intentionally wicked who actually get rewarded in this world while those trying to do the right thing must suffer for the ego of the wicked. Religious hypocrisy at its finest.
And who is Davidson to lead anybody to salvation when he cannot even control himself? But the first red flag of all was when he led with threats in the first place. The heat check is the oldest trick in the book.
If they heat check you and you let it slide, that’s how they know they’ve got you. I give this cautionary tale on overzealous religious sadism and the malignant mentor a four out of five jazz listening tramps, and I’ll see you on the next one.
Incels are heroes. Yet they ironically don’t seem to get enough respect. Instead, all they tend to receive is shame and mockery at the hands of the very people they protect. In this article, I will explain why that is, and what can be done about it.
First of all, what is an incel? Short for involuntary celibacy, an incel is a man who is unable to get laid, or otherwise date by traditional or conventional means. Society, including women tend to shame and bully incels due to their social ineptitude, as well as their inability to live a normal life.
The stereotype of an incel is a middle-aged, balding, Pakistani janitor, or some pasty White boy who wears a tinfoil hat and lives in his mother’s basement. But those are just stupid, annoying and offensive tropes. Any age or race of man can be an incel.
Now I did start off by saying that incels are heroes. Let me tell you why that is. Sexual gratification is the most important thing to a man. More important than food. Sexual pressure can be compared to sleep pressure, in that the longer you go without it, the more intense it becomes. And when a man is being sexually repressed, his mind will go to some very dark places.
Any man who is burning with rage and sexual frustration can easily choose to rape women. So if a man is an incel, he is choosing to respect a woman’s consent more than he respects his own selfish desires.
That is most commendable, considering that there are men who get laid regularly who still choose to rape women for the sake of power. I am not saying that incels deserve a Purple Heart for doing what they are supposed to be doing anyway. But you also don’t have to mock them for it. Then the same stupid normies who delight in provoking incels end up playing the victim when the incel finally snaps.
Another way that incels cope with loneliness and frustration is to seek the services of a prostitute. Which is a problem because as I had discussed in the last two to three articles, normies do not like sex work. Why do you think that is?
Sex work supports male sexual autonomy and restores male sexual dignity. Not only for incels, but also for the willfully single or the intentional bachelor. Especially men who do not wish to go through the headache of modern dating. Foodie calls are a thing.
Furthermore, no normie would ever give it away for free, nor would she ever sell it so cheap and easy, because they love to leverage it in exchange for POWER and favors.
Normies vastly outnumber the eccentrics and so they define the status quo. The normie status quo often involves hierarchies, pecking orders, and subtle forms of tyranny disguised either as friendship or co-worker camaraderie. They pick their leader by natural selection, often implying, “it’s a normie thing, you wouldn’t understand,” and all the normies just naturally fall in line without question.
They also need a permanent underclass to project their shame and mediocrity upon, often implying, “well at least we’re not like those guys,” or “don’t be that guy.” Anyone who even remotely threatens the status quo will be seen as an enemy whom the normies will seek to destroy any which way they can. How can the normies mock incels if escorts are restoring their dignity?
Was it not the normie wives of 1917 who pressured their normie husbands who were lawyers and congressmen at the time to criminalize prostitution? And did they not leverage their cookie (or the threat of lack) in order to get their husbands to comply?
Normies are the gatekeepers of society. Their job is to please their appointed master by keeping eccentrics whom they have labeled heretics in our so-called places. There are no natural incels. An incel is the end result of societal gatekeeping. He is unique for his time and place, and he is also geo-locked due to poor finances.
So when an incel hires a prostitute, both will be shunned and punished, whether financially, legally, or socially. They HATE the prostitute because they can no longer shame the incel.
Finally, for those women who actually have a mind of their own, and who are not total psychopaths, it’s ok to be nice. Whenever next you see an incel, give him a smile and remember that he put your consent ahead of his needs. You don’t have to thank him, you just have to honor his basic human dignity.
Prostitution is the world’s oldest profession, and also the most hated. So much so to the extent that it is still illegal in many parts of the world in 2025. Some of the excuses that are often given for criminalizing sex work are as follows:
We are not able to tax and regulate the industry
It is generally a shady industry that attracts drugs, fights, etc.
It breeds exploitation/human trafficking, etc.
Prostitutes tend to spread STDs
We don’t want to encourage promiscuity
When in reality, they probably don’t want to give men the option to still get laid if he wishes to remain a bachelor. After all, relationships produce families, and the system needs new taxpayers every twenty years or so.
If they really wanted to eliminate the risk of human trafficking, only pimps would be criminalized, but not the buying and selling of sex. Prostitution, like any other form of exhibitionism, is a form of expression, and criminalizing it is a hypocritical violation of the first amendment of the American constitution that explicitly defends both freedom of assembly and freedom of expression.
When done correctly, sex work can be a victimless crime, because both men and women are free to do what they want with their bodies and their money. So why do so many people have such a problem with it? Why don’t we all just leave them alone?
First of all, why do people turn to sex work? More specifically, why do women become prostitutes and why do men seek their comfort?
There are several reasons for this, the most common of which is freedom. Women want to use their beauty and sexual prowess to make money without having to be masochistically frightened from sleep by an alarm clock. Then drive through rush hour traffic to go to a job they hate, surrounded by people they hate.
They have pretty faces and nice bodies and they are smart enough to capitalize off that without shame. Speaking of shame, they also don’t mind sleeping with multiple men at the same time. They have denounced sexual shame and have fully embraced who they are. As such they are smart enough, and honest enough to charge for it instead of giving it away for free.
Speaking of honesty, they are not out to play games and lead you on. They are very pragmatic about what men want, and are willing to indulge their male clients in a frank and upfront, no BS, exchange. They figured, “I want money. He wants pussy. So we doing this, or not?” If you don’t like headaches, she’s your girl.
That level of pragmatism is a very masculine mindset to have. Even though she presents with femininity, the way she thinks is masculine. Which means that she is very calculating, but in a good way. But just because her services are transactional by nature doesn’t mean she is not having fun.
She thoroughly enjoys the company of her male clients. It’s just that she is smart enough to get paid for having a good time. They figured out the secret a long time ago, otherwise it wouldn’t be the world’s oldest profession.
Then there are the men who seek her comfort, and the question of why. For the man who is married, it is either he feels ignored by his wife at home, or he was in way over his head when he thought he was able to commit to one woman for the rest of his life.
Men are naturally polygamous (enter ludus and playful detachment) and most women are naturally monogamous (eros). So what that simply means is that while men are looking for sex, women are looking for commitment.
It is very difficult for a man who has stayed true to his polygamous nature to find a like-minded woman among normies because normies are one dimensional neurotypicals. Any woman who is like-minded would either have to be a swinger/cuckquean or an escort. So it’s either a married man cheats on his wife with an escort, or he respects the nature of neurotypical women and chooses to stay single so he can be married to the only industry that is dedicated to his nature.
This makes a lot of people angry because they love to control the male phallus. And when they can’t control you, they try to destroy you for it. That is why the world’s oldest profession is still illegal in 2025.
That is also why most jobs will fire you if they ever were to find out how you really get laid. Or why your wife will divorce you and sue you for alimony. To keep money out of your pocket so you can’t just sleep around as you wish.
For many men, building a connection with an escort, albeit transactional, is the most honest relationship they will ever have in their entire lives. There are literal billionaires who are able to keep their blinders on by paying them to leave. Then there are the incels who literally don’t have any other means of getting laid.
This is as good as it will ever get for them, yet even their dicks are being constantly policed by society. If you are an incel, society wants to keep you in poverty indefinitely. The gatekeepers are numerous; from family, to friends, to coworkers, to normie girls. You won’t be able to escape them.
This is why you should never marry if that is the lifestyle you want to live. If you value your freedom, you should never marry in the first place. The moment you put a ring on it, it’s no longer about you.
The short of it is that marriage is pushed with no regard to your male nature, while sexual liberty is shamed and sabotaged. People fear what they cannot control. It is the same reason why they hate atheists.
It is true that sex work is a shady industry. So how will cleaning it up help to change people’s opinion of it when shadiness was never the underlying issue? But don’t they realize that people still do what the fuck they want regardless? They are not stopping anything over there. Tyrants will never learn.
Everybody wants to be loved, but not everybody wants to love. This is due to the fact that when most people think about love, they are only thinking about one kind, erotic love. Due to this confusion, hidden resentment and frustration tends to build under the surface.
Mainly due to the fact that one believes they are only allowed one type of love, and to accept that one type is to reject all the other types. But did you know that there are actually six different types of love? In this week’s article, I will explore each of the six love types and languages.
Storge:
Often used interchangeably with philos, storge is a platonic kind of love. A love of friends and brothers. A love for one’s brethrens and comrades at arms. Though not inherently altruistic, storge is the main form of love that has sustained society throughout the ages.
It has given men something to bond over that is worth defending, be it country, church or a good game of football. When storge is gone, collapse is imminent. Think of the most decadent days of the Roman Empire for example. I recommend that you read my comparison between hedonism and decadence.
Mania:
When they say that there is a thin line between love and hate, this is the kind of love they are referring to. Because true love has a thick line that separates it from hate, a very thick line. But when one feels rejected whether real or perceived and love is not present, they will enter into madness and seek your destruction.
This is NOT love, this is control. While you squander your life away loving someone, they only love hurting you. Stop romanticizing these toxic fairytale ideas of a relationship. You have been warned.
Agape:
An altruistic kind of love, a love for humanity as a collective. Agape requires one to be a bit naive because in order for one to be altruistic towards society as a whole, one would also have to assume that humanity is inherently benevolent. That thought by itself requires one to be somewhat naive, because humans have never been inherently benevolent.
Yes, there are some benevolent qualities that allowed for the building of ships, planes, and for creativity to flourish. But most normies have always been out for themselves since the dawn of time, and will continue doing so until our star turns into a black hole and swallows the earth.
Anyone who practices agape without being affected by the consequence would likely have god-like powers to be able to cover the immediate shortfall. But for the average person, the practice of agape is a huge liability. Being part of a group offers some leverage. But still, there are no guarantees.
Eros:
Erotic love, the love that a man has for a woman and vice versa. This is specifically a love between one man and one woman, otherwise called monogamy. The idea behind eros is that a man should commit to one woman and one woman only for the remainder of his days.
Which is unreasonable to expect because men are inherently polygamous. So when a woman accuses a man of having commitment issues for wanting to date other women, she is saying that he doesn’t have eros, and she is correct. Because what he actually has is…..
Ludus:
The love of playful detachment and non-commitment. The love that a philanderer has for each of his muses. A man who practices ludus may take on many lovers at a time, and may only seek to have fun versus the responsibilities and expectations of eros. Most normies do not like when men do this, and always seek to sabotage him for it.
Perhaps they don’t understand his reasons for choosing to live this way. Ludus is not unethical so long as there are no unspoken expectations, and everyone involved agrees to the terms and conditions of a ludus relationship. In order to understand a man’s motivations for practicing ludus, we would have to explore the sixth love language, which is…..
Philautia:
The love of self and a vested interest in self-preservation. More prominent among men than women, philautia is the interest in ensuring that one avoids anything that will become a burden at some point. This is because men are more self-centered while women are more male centered.
For this reason, men are more ludus oriented than women because then he gets to have his cake and eat it too. Then she gets upset and calls him selfish when his nature commands that he practices ludus or philautia.
Conclusion:
Everyone has a different love language. What’s right for you may not be right for others. But with transparency and effective communication, everyone can get to where they are going. And most importantly, with whom.
So tell me, what is your love language, and who are you most compatible with based on that? Give it some thought, and let me know in the comment section below. Thanks for reading, and I’ll see you on the next one.
It is the end of the month and time once again for our monthly review series. Our muse for the month of August is none other than Charlie Sheen.
Charlie Sheen’s 60th birthday is coming up in a few days on September 3, so there is no time quite as fitting as the present to review the life of the best male role model in Hollywood when it comes to women and dating.
Charlie Sheen is an American film and television actor who was born Carlos Irwin Estevez on September 3, 1965 in New York City. Born into a family of actors, Sheen is the son of actor Martin Sheen, and the brother of Emilio Estevez.
Sheen is best known for playing the role of philandering bachelor Charlie Harper on the hit dating sitcom, “Two and a Half Men” (2003-2015).
Two and a Half Men was created by Chuck Lorre, and the lead protagonist on the show is loosely based on Sheen’s dating life in reality.
Men lasted for 12 seasons and 262 episodes, but was sadly canceled a few years after Charlie was fired from the show in 2011, during a time when he was at the pinnacle of his acting career, being the highest paid actor on television at the time.
Sheen was allegedly fired amid controversy surrounding wage disputes, but many speculate that his use of illicit substances was becoming an issue. Sheen has a reputation for living somewhat of a wild party life, but despite all of that, his name has never been called up in a #metoo scandal.
They got Weinstein, Cosby and most recently Diddy. Then before that they got Kobe Bryant in 2003. The feminist court system humiliated these men, dragged their good names through the mud and exposed all of the gory details of their trysts for all the world to see, and they did so without mercy. They’ve managed to humiliate all these men but they never got Charlie, and they likely never will. Do you know why?
Because he pays them to leave.
Not necessarily because he wants to, but because he has no other choice if he wants to be responsible with how he keeps multiple women as a public figure in the #metoo era. Because when you are a high profile individual like he is, it’s very easy to become someone’s target due to the high levels of public scrutiny involved.
Charlie may act like aloof sometimes, but he’s actually really smart. He knows the game, and he also knows that there is a certain amount of contractual protection that comes from engaging in transactional encounters. So say what you will about the guy, he could get mixed up in a million other scandals, but I guarantee you that #metoo is not one of them.
I am not encouraging you to do what he does, but the least you can do is take a page or two out of his book. Protect yourself from golddigging feminist vultures. Go get laid without the risk of a scandal. Hire a professional, then pay her to leave.
But obviously take the necessary health and family planning precautions with a professional as you would with any woman.
So here’s to the next sixty years of paying them to leave, because guys like Charlie tend to live forever. I shall drink to that, and so will he I bet. I give the role model success story of Charlie Sheen a whopping five out of five Tiger Blood cocktails, and I’ll see you on the next one.
A lot of people have a false sense of obligation, an incessant need to be nice to everyone. They do so out of fear that they will hurt the feelings of others who will then go on to perceiving them as bad people if they do not comply.
Unfortunately, not everyone deserves you being nice to them, as that only opens up the door for you to be abused by people who are truly horrible. The good news though, is that withholding your niceness doesn’t mean that you are a bad person. In this article, I will be going over the main difference between what it means to be nice, versus kindness, versus decency.
Nice:
People think that being nice means that you are a good person. But first of all, did you know that the etymology of the word “nice” is stupid or naive, or weak? This is why people take kindness for weakness, because they are hardwired to see you as a fool or a jester if they think you are too nice.
This could be an unconscious reaction, or a conscious decision that they may try to resist if they are decent enough, or conscious enough. But it doesn’t change their primal wiring, it just makes them more aware.
However, in a modern sense, that is not always the case, as being nice is often used as part of an act to make you drop your guard so they can go in for the kill without much resistance.
The modern fool is he who believes that someone who is being nice is genuine, and repays their niceness with niceness of his own. Nice is not a natural occurrence, it is a conscious effort on the part of the person being nice.
Kind:
Kindness on the other hand is less performative, and is not a type itself, but only a trait of decency. Anyone can be kind, but unlike being nice which is just fake, kindness is not performed and is done more authentically.
However, one must be very strategic with how they are kind, and who they are kind to. We have a saying in Jamaica, “if you feel sorry fi mawga dawg (skinny dog), he will turn around and bite you.”
Some people are not inherently good, they just lack the necessary resources to be evil with impunity. We have another saying in Jamaica, “the higher the monkey climbs, the more he is exposed.” So if you are kind to the wrong person, they could end up killing you.
This is exactly what happens to a lot of battered wives who end up with abusive husbands. They rush into a marriage without getting to know the person they are marrying because they are lonely and afraid of being alone. This is especially true if they see all of their friends getting married and having babies before them.
Just because you are being kind doesn’t mean you should drop your guard. First of all, someone doesn’t get to benefit off you simply for breathing. They need to be able to demonstrate why they need your help and what’s in it for you. This is also the time to observe their behavior, and see what they are really about simply by observing their general attitude.
You might not be able to readily ascertain their true intentions, but you will be able to gather enough just from observing them.
That doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you responsible. Be kind to yourself first.
Decent:
Decency is innate. You are either a decent person, or you are not. It cannot be faked. You can fake being nice, but you cannot fake decency or genuineness. But just because you are decent doesn’t mean that you are nice. And then, not being nice doesn’t make you a bad person.
In fact, if you know that you are a genuine person, you really need to keep your guard up, even more than the average joe. You cannot afford to be nice. You can be kind, you can even be decent, just not nice.
Conclusion:
I am not saying to fight your nature, as doing so will only drive you mad. I am saying to embrace the fact that there are really two sides to your nature, and to be selective with whom you show each side of yourself to.
Here is a general rule of thumb that I always like to follow;
Be decent in general because manners matters. It is generally a good business practice to be fair, otherwise you risk alienating potential allies.
Be kind to the woman in your bed, because she is the only person who has used the most intimate parts of herself to heal your pain.
But only be nice to the guy in the mirror, because he’s the only guy you can be sure won’t screw you with it.
As for society in general, be indifferent. You don’t have to be rude unless provoked, then no one could blame you. You don’t have to be evil, otherwise you’d be no different from them. Just indifferent.
In last week’s article, I addressed the topic of corporate marriage, and how there are in fact more than one type of marriage to consider avoiding if you are a man going his own way. I recommend that you go back and read that article if you want the context of that message.
But similar to avoiding corporate marriage, first time homeownership is also on the decline. People are just not buying single-family homes like they used to, and homeownership is only going to continue declining for the foreseeable future. There are several reasons why this is so. Such as; remaining in bachelorhood and not producing families, and unexpected repairs among other headaches that comes with owning one’s own home.
Even so, the most notorious reason why people are not buying homes like they used to are property taxes. But do property taxes even make sense?
If the state can put a tax lien on your property in the event that you default on your property taxes, despite the mortgage being fully paid off, then what was the point of paying off the mortgage?
For that reason, many people have chosen to remain apartment tenants rather than becoming home owners. Choosing to keep renting means that you remain stuck under someone else’s dominion. But hey, at least you don’t have a false sense of ownership, right? However, for those who still want their little slice of the American dream, here are a few alternatives for the state to consider.
Lump sum
The idea behind making lump sum payments is that you pay, say 20 years up front, and you don’t have to worry about it for another 20 years.
Rebate
Similar to lump sum, the rebate concept is such where you are able to shrink your property taxes by paying extra taxes up front. The extras can either rollover annually, or in decades. Under that system, you should also be able to opt to receive a rebate check in the mail, kind of like a bond. You buy their debt, they flip it and give you back the principal.
Either/or
The idea behind this concept is that it’s either the state imposes income tax or property tax, but you can’t have both. Texas already has the right idea. They historically do not charge income taxes, and instead rely mostly on property taxes due to how much vast acres of land they have over there. We already have a federal tax burden, how much more money could the state possibly want?
Purchase year exemptions
The idea behind this notion is that you may be exempt from paying property taxes if you purchased your home anytime before, say 1960 for example. However, the catch is that 1960 would only remain the cut off year during the decade of the 2020’s, and should ideally be moved up to 1970 in 2030, then 1980 in 2040, etc. Why should your grandparents still be subjected to property taxes if they purchased their home way back in 1950?
Irrevocable Trust
The idea here is that your heirs and successors will never have to pay property taxes if you add it to their trust fund as part of your estate. But because it is a trust, even though you will no longer own it outright, you are still allowed to live there until the day you die.
Disability Status
You should never have to pay property taxes if you are disabled. That’s just not right. Where will you go if you default on your taxes due to low income? Then you’ll just become a burden on the state.
Purchase Tax
But ideally, the only tax you should ever have to pay on your home is a sales tax at the point of purchase. A one time payment that you make when purchasing your home like you do with smartphones and refrigerators, etc. Very few nations on earth have taken this approach to home ownership, and I feel like at least one state in the US should consider taking on this approach. Even if that state turns out to be Alaska.
Solution?
One emergency car repair or medical bill can set you back to square one. However, it is not enough to simply sit there and complain about it. You have to take action. Form a group with others of like mind. Call your congressman. Try to get it on a ballot before the midterm race next year (California Prop 64) for example. You know how they do it.
If they want houses to start selling again, they should be able to help us out within reason. It’s the least they can do. I otherwise don’t see any improvements in the housing market for the foreseeable future.
There is a group of online men calling themselves MGTOW, men going their own way. They are a group of men in online community forums who are jaded with the current dating climate in the west, and as such have chosen to basically reject women before women can reject them.
As a result of the MGTOW movement, marriage and fertility rates are now significantly lower than expected, as men are increasingly opting out of society. The abundance of free, online porn in the privacy of their homes doesn’t exactly help matters much either.
And that is all fine and dandy. More power to them if that is what they want. But their hypocrisy will now be exposed through one question and one question only; if you are opting out of domestic marriage, why are you still engaged in corporate marriage?
Any man who is employed to a company he doesn’t personally own is fully aware of the fact that he has two wives, his house wife and his work wife. He has chosen one wife, while the other is chosen for him, and there is nothing he can do about it.
TV co-anchors are the most popular work wives because they are also the most obvious. But other work wives include; the girl who sits next to your cubicle, or the girl who carpools with you on the regular, or the girl with whom you take your daily lunch breaks.
Regardless of her role, she is your team member, or the girl in HR, and the only way to be rid of her is if you resign. But for as long as you remain employed at that company, you don’t control who gets to access you.
The hypocrisy of MGTOW men now lies in the mantra that they are checking out of society, yet clocking in for their shifts. When have you ever seen a male staffer working in HR, or payroll? If you don’t want women controlling the money that comes out of your wallet, why would you tolerate a woman controlling what goes in?
When you accept a job offer, you are probably very excited, because you may feel like your life is getting back on track, but in reality it is about to spiral out of control.
They control when you wake up, when you eat, in some cases what you eat, when you leave the house, when you get back home, how much sleep you get, even down to the days in which you don’t have to leave the house.
They are about to control so much of your life in so many ways, and you won’t see it coming until you are already in too deep with the wrong people, because jobs are corporate gangs.
If they consider you to be an oddball, the schedule they give you will be deliberately designed to disorient you while sapping your strength and resilience. When that happens, the only way to stop them is to resign.
But resigning is hard to do because most people just want the comfort of easy money. And also to avoid the clusterfuck of applying for another job and go through another hiring process so soon, only to encounter more or less the same type of people.
The solution? Going one’s own way is not just about marriage and dating, it is the whole spectrum of societal activities. Which includes; employment, dating, friend groups/socializing, legal, medical, political, and housing. A true MGTOW is the man who lives with his doberman in some cabin in the woods away from fucking humans.
Of course that is a bit extreme, and may not be suitable for everyone. Particularly because cities have resources, and the only way to be truly free on earth is to forfeit all your earthly possessions.
So here is one sure way to use some of those resources regardless of where you choose to live, and in a way that doesn’t compromise your sovereignty.
If you don’t want anyone else to control what goes in or out of your wallet, then you must do so yourself. Do some soul searching. Find your niche. Build a successful business around that niche (especially now as the AI revolution rages on). Not only will AI take your job, but you can also put it to work for you. Get paid in full.
So not only do you get paid for what you produce, but you also gain a sense of occupational fulfillment that one generally does not gain from employment. Because of that, the only corporate marriage you should enter into is with the corporation that you created.
As part of my power series, I thought now would be a rather fitting time to cover the topic of corporate serfdom. First of all, the word “serf,” not to be confused with “surf,” is an archaic expression for “serve.” It was more common during medieval times to refer to a peasant or a commoner.
Back then, servants were either domestic or field servants. They would pay to occupy their farmland by offering up the cream of the crop to their land lords during harvest, while keeping the rest for their families.
Barely having enough to get by, most of them lived in squalor, often having dirt floors in their cottages, and living among mice and filth. They would supplement their funds by barter trading in the market place during the day. But no matter what, they were always expected at church on a Sunday.
This practice continued throughout much of the dark ages, and there is a common misconception that serfdom ended during the renaissance.
Serfdom however, has continued through this day, but has taken on a different form. Modern serfdom has taken on a more corporate form, and has become so subtle that many people are of the delusion that they are free.
If you believe that you are free, you are just not at rock bottom. This week, I will be touching on the varying degrees of corporate serfdom, and where you might fit into all of this.
So without further ado, let’s begin.
Hard Homelessness:
This is the kind of homelessness where you are on the streets. If you are not living under a bridge, you are living behind a dumpster in some seedy alleyway. If you are not on drugs, you are surrounded by those who use, and if you are not strong willed, it won’t be long before they get you hooked.
Many people have chosen hard homelessness because they complain that the shelter staff are mean to them, and they don’t like being told what to do. Others are simply too far gone to qualify for a shelter. If you are in this situation for extended periods, it becomes really hard to break out of certain mindsets that you have adopted in order to survive. As a result of that, many people just sit in it, and succumb to it.
Convicted Felons:
Picture this! You have guaranteed permanent housing and three square meals a day, all paid for by the courtesy of the American taxpayer. And all you had to do in order to qualify was rob a bank. The only catch is that you are not free to go as you like. Now I don’t know about you, but now would be a damn good time to rethink the guaranteed clause in your permanent housing contract. But hey, at least you are not on the streets, right? Right?
Soft Homelessness:
This is the kind of homelessness where you are either in your car, or placed inside a shelter. These guys are mostly veterans with PTSD who were placed in shelters by the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA). At least you are free to come and go as you please.
On the other hand #VanLife is kinda cool, until the van breaks down in the middle of fucking summer that is.
Gig Economy:
If you are in this position, you are either a starving podcaster trying to become social media famous, or you drive for Uber, Lyft, GrubHub, or Doordash. You can also be multiples of these at once. Besides being homeless or in prison, you are at the bottom. But at least you have a phone and a car, and you don’t have some greedy corporate pig breathing down your neck forty hours a week. Let’s get that money!
Blue Collar (non-union):
If you are in this position, you are either a Security Guard, a Parking Lot Attendant, or you work inside a factory, a warehouse, or in fast food.
This is a great position to be in when you are between the ages of 18 and 21 while going through college, or fresh out of high school, and not quite knowing what to do with your life. Because you are not part of a labor union, employers tend to take advantage of you in so many ways.
One example of this is that they have you sign an “at will” employment contract stating that either you or the employer can end the relationship at any time for any or no reason.
In reality, it really only applies to them, because if you want to resign, they are going to ask you why. Oh, but them? They can just up and fire you without probable cause. You should never allow yourself to be in this position any longer than two years, three at the most.
Blue Collar (unionized):
If you are in this position, you are likely a railroad builder, or you work for your city’s sanitation department. Other occupations include; construction, EMT, police officers, firefighters, etc.
They usually hire veterans with a strong work ethic, and the benefits are great. You get medical, dental, vision, and a lifelong pension after about twenty or thirty years. Five years for the NYPD.
As you can see, many jobs in the public sector are unionized, and it is a great way to improve your lot. But it is difficult to get in because there tends to be a lot of nepotism going on behind the scenes.
Blue Collar (active duty):
This position is specifically Government Issued, mostly active duty military ops. It is an adventurous life. You get to travel the world at no cost to you, the benefits are rewarding, and it is literally the only occupation where you earn a tax-free salary.
There is but one cause for concern. You will likely come back home with PTSD and substance abuse issues. But even that is better than coming back home in a casket.
White Collar (clerical):
This is the same position as being a non-union blue collar worker, except that answering the phone and faxing over documents is now part of your job description.
These are the office clerks, the gophers (now called mailroom clerks), the call center operators, medical assistants, medical coders, data entry technicians, receptionists, etc. The benefit?
Wearing a corporate noose (necktie) to work for only ten bucks an hour. At least they give you a chair in an air conditioned office. Too bad you have to share the A/C remote with Karen from HR.
White Collar (professional):
If you are in this position, you are likely a college graduate, and are probably either a lawyer, doctor, journalist or engineer. This is the best position to be in if you are working for someone else in the private sector. This is also the beginning of the six figure salary range, which as I have explained two articles ago, is the beginning of capital. Very few people make it that far, so the head count is comfortably lower.
Government:
If you are in this position, you are either a part of the legislative, judiciary or executive arm of the government. This could be at the local, state, or federal level. Once you are at the government level, you are either running as a democrat, a republican, or an independent, and you must be voted into office by the people.
The difference between politics and government is that politicians run for office while the winning party forms the government who then goes on to write policy. Once you have been elected to office, you are no longer acting as a politician until it is time to seek re-election.
The Oligarchy:
Oligarchs are those who run the massive corporations, the global conglomerates. Think Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk. Think Fox News and NBC. Think the heirs of Sam Walton. These guys are in the Billions if not the Hundreds of Billions (intergenerational wealth), plus they have the benefit of privacy for them not being politicians. In some countries, the oligarchs have even more power than the government, and help shape policy.
Entrepreneurship:
While the Oligarchs are the Alpha Males (money) and the Government are also Alpha (leadership), the Entrepreneur is the only one who is truly Sigma. These guys are in a class by themselves. They don’t play the game, they build their own table and kick anybody out who doesn’t belong there. They figure out what works for them, then use it to build a Hundred Million dollar a year empire by solving problems for other people.
Take me for example. While growing up, my father always used to criticize me for not reading more often. But the reason I didn’t like to read was because I had ADHD, and so reading for me was kind of a useless chore. So when I eventually became an author, I built a successful publishing business around rich, dialogue-based short stories that are specifically geared towards readers with ADHD. I solved a problem for others that I wish someone could have solved for me years ago.
This is the spirit of entrepreneurship. Ignoring the cookie-cutter advice, finding what works, and then making it work. Where would we be today if Henry Ford didn’t go to Detroit? Or if the Wright Brothers had accepted the cookie-cutter answer that, “if god wanted man to fly, he would have given him wings?” For this reason, the entrepreneur is neither above, nor below the others in the hierarchy, he is truly in class by himself.
Conclusion:
So what is your current station in the hierarchy? Do you intend to move up their ladder, or build your own? How long do you think it will take for you to change your lot in life, and what are some of the strategies you think it will take to get there? Let’s talk about it in the comments. Thanks for reading.
It is the end of the month, and time once again for our monthly review series here on this blog site. Our muse for the month of July is a classic Twilight Zone episode titled, “The Lateness of the Hour.”
But before we begin, here is a disclaimer: The following review contains spoilers, so I strongly recommend watching the episode before reading this or any reviews on the topic. Now without further ado, let’s begin.
The Twilight Zone was an American television primetime anthology series created by Rod Serling. It originally aired on CBS between 1959 and 1964, and ran for five seasons and 156 episodes.
It was way ahead of its time due to its many themes on existentialism, and for questioning the status quo of the time, particularly as it pertains to power and racial equality, often using extraterrestrial life forms as metaphors.
The episode in question was episode 8 of season 2, and aired originally on December 2, 1960. Written by Rod Serling, and directed by Jack Smight, it was the first of five episodes that were videotaped on a soundstage due to budget cuts.
Though still incredibly haunting, the stiff, videotaped picture quality gave the episode more of a “Playhouse 90” or “General Hospital” feel, rather than the usual existential dread that one can expect from a typical Twilight Zone episode.
The Premise:
The episode features a young woman named Jana (Inger Stevens), the adult daughter of Dr. William Loren (John Hoyt), and his wife (Irene Tedrow). They live alone in a large house, and entirely rely on their servants for domestic comfort. One rainy night in particular, Jana begins to question her parents’ dependence on their servants.
Frustrated, Jana attacks the maid who tumbles down a flight of stairs before getting back up like nothing happened. It was only then that her father revealed that he created his servants to be quite indestructible.
We then cut to Serling’s opening narration, “The residence of Dr. William Loren, which is in reality a menagerie for machines. We’re about to discover that sometimes the product of man’s talent and genius can walk amongst us untouched by the normal ravages of time. These are Dr. Loren’s robots, built to functional as well as artistic perfection. But in a moment Dr. William Loren, wife and daughter will discover that perfection is relative, that even robots have to be paid for, and very shortly will be shown exactly what is the bill.”
The following scene sees Jana with her back turned to her father and his butler, yet is able to accurately lip sync every word of their conversation. The butler forgot to fill Dr. Loren’s pipe, so Jana breaks the nightly routine by offering to fill the pipe herself.
Jana is jaded with being home with her parents every night, and suggests that they all go out to a restaurant. Her father protests that doing so is a bad idea, because they would get sopping wet in the rain on their way over there. Then they would be served on dirty, unwashed plates dealing with rude, pushy normies. After that, it would be a question of whether they succumb to ptomain, or pneumonia.
Jana doesn’t seem to mind. She figures, “at least we get to live a little.” Or at least that’s what her attitude implies, to which her father gives her quite the sobering speech, “I have kept you from harm, I’ve protected you against disease, and insulation in this 20th century is no crime, it’s a service. You’ve never had to look into the face of war, or the face of poverty or prejudice. Well you’ve been isolated, yes. But what you think of as imprisonment just happens to be asylum, and security, yes, and survival.”
Jana still thinks that her parents have become so overly dependent on her father’s android servants, that very soon they won’t be able to survive without them. She threatens to run away from home if her father doesn’t dismantle the androids he built, to which he refuses.
He can’t just dismantle his life’s work, but at the same time, he loves his daughter, and doesn’t want to lose her. So he pleads with Jana to stay, but she makes another scene by climbing to the top of the stairs and announcing that the androids may be indestructible, but her parents are not.
In that moment, it seemed like the androids were getting ready to turn on the Lorens, but in the following scene, it turns out that they are ok. Dr. Loren further pleads with Jana to stay, who is adamant that she is leaving, and starts packing her suitcase. So he makes the most rational decision that any father would make under the circumstances, and summons the androids.
He tells them to meet him in the laboratory, and they all protest, saying what good servants they are, and why he should spare them. But his instructions are clear, his mind is made up.
In the next scene, Jana is seen happily running around the house, checking all the closets. And when it is obvious that the androids are gone, she hugs her parents and thanks them with love and loyalty.
She is excited that they can all go out and live like normies now that the androids are gone. But the joy that her parents get from watching Jana be happy for once soon turns to concern the moment she mentions the possibility of marrying and giving them grandchildren. She notices their concern, and asks them what’s wrong, but they excuse it away as shock that she would want to start dating so soon, and she’s not buying it.
She flips through the family photo album, and realizes that there are no pictures of her as a child, only of the robots, some of the photos were from twenty years ago. Her father asks her if she remembers her childhood, and she surmises that she was implanted with a memory track, similar to what Dr. Loren gave his android servants.
Dr. Loren explains to Jana that both he and Mrs. Loren were a childless couple, and that was when they “got her.” Realizing that she was made and not born, Jana runs up the stairs and bangs her wrist against the staircase railing, but is unable to feel anything, not even love. Her parents try to console her, but she is devastated to learn that her dream of having a family is ruined due to the fact that she is also an android. Her mother asks her father what to do, and he has an idea.
In the final scene, it is revealed that Dr. Loren reprogrammed Jana to be a maid, and she is seen giving her mother a shoulder rub.
Then we cut to Serling’s closing narration, “Let this be the postscript. Should you be worn out by the rigors of competing in a very competitive world. If you’re distraught from having to share your existence with the noises and neuroses of the 20th century. If you crave serenity, but want it full time, and with no strings attached. Get yourself a workroom in the basement, and then drop a note to Dr. and Mrs. William Loren. They’re a childless couple who made comfort a life’s work. And maybe there are a few do it yourself pamphlets still available in The Twilight Zone.”
Takeaway:
This particular postscript pretty much sums up the secret fantasy of every reclusive type who is forced to grind away in a hyper competitive world. This episode was way ahead of its time, and is even more relevant today than it was when it first premiered on television over 60 years ago.
I first saw this episode about 20 years ago, during a time when I was still living in Jamaica, going through high school, and barely younger than Jana was in that episode. I thought that android maids was a cool new concept, and as such it was fun to watch at the time. But it wasn’t anywhere near as relatable to me then, as it is now. In the space of twenty years my perspective has shifted from the naivety of a sheltered brat like Jana, to the wisdom and experience of her father.
The scene where he told her that she has never had to look into the face of poverty, prejudice or famine suggests to me that the Lorens could have lived through the great depression, or the holocaust.
Judging by the age of the actor John Hoyt (1905-1991), he was likely among the allied forces who stormed the beaches of Normandy in 1944, which means that he stared directly into the face of war and bloodshed. Then he looked away and never looked back.
Jana doesn’t know the ways of the world so she believes that everyone is the same. “Who feels it, knows it,” so how can one appreciate serenity away from all the noise if they have never felt the noise?
Conclusion:
John Hoyt is my new favorite person just for that speech that Dr. Loren gave to Jana during the episode. Rewatching this episode in the present has given me a fresh new perspective, and has only served to reinforce my commitment to an introverted, reclusive life.
Imagine a life where liberty, security, and securities are the order of the day. Well I am of the firm belief that you are more likely to thrive as an introvert than you would in friendship groups. I give this one a solid five out of five android maids, and I’ll see you on the next one.
